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Conscious Children: 6 actions to harmonize our home

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We’re all children, sometimes we create bonds with new people in our lives who welcome us as family, others live the experience with our blood family, at the end we’re all children and being a child is to find a way of integrate to our parents through respect and love. Now that we know how to exercise respect (click here to read the text about respect) we can understand better what we can do as children every day.

Our parents share their experience and show us different ways of living. The fact of having them in our lives doesn’t mean we have to be like them but that we can learn from them and teach them (click here to read the text about differences). Family is a structure full of diversity in which, when applying acceptance and respect (click here to read the text about conscious respect), we are able to enrich our points of view to integrate them into our experience.

Let’s see some useful actions to harmonize family life by being more conscious children:

  1. Absorb the best from around avoiding judgement.
  2. Take resposibility for our lives, avoiding blame.
  3. Colaborate with harmony and maintenance of home.
  4. Establish and respect space and boundaries (click here to read the text about boundaries).
  5. Be open to communication.
  6. Thank for being in Family.

In our home we can, in a more relaxed way, learn to live by pleasure, with no obligation. When we empower ourselves of home we discover the importance of teamwork. As children we must understand that we are all different and in order to work on family challenges it’s important that we learn to communicate. Usually, parents give their best from their experience, although in the eyes of some it seems the opposite. Neither the children, nor the parents have manuals, for this reason it’s important to create a healthy space for communication in which the points of view can be expressed in an environment of acceptance and respect.

I decide to be an active part of the harmony and maintenance of my own home right here and right now. What about you?

Love,
Ángel

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Less Polarization Generates More Integration

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Throughout my life what I’ve noticed most is the way in which polarization generates segregation, if a person thinks one way, and from their perspective what the other think is wrong, then any kind of contact is avoided or conflict is generated, which makes us forget that we are only human beings, neither better nor worse, neither more nor less than others.

Extreme polarization exists because of a lack of self-confidence and a lack of available information, especially for making decisions, because this creates fear of the unknown, but what happens when we spend time in a place we trust, with people we trust? We find tranquility, and this is necessary for us to understand that the most appropriate decisions for each of us depends on our own experience, wisdom, and time.

In times of elections, sporting championships, or any moment where several perspectives seek the support of other people, we begin to know the habits of the people around us, be they segregators or integrators. It is common to see that the perspective and willingness to “be right” blind us and lead us to make decisions, which are often not consistent with what we believe, from the information we have chosen to integrate (limited in many cases by our radical perspective), but the same fear of the unknown from other perspectives leads us to radicalize and segregate without having full knowledge of the decision we are making.

When we realize this, we can choose to change our habits, we can listen more without needing to justify our position or convince others, we can inform ourselves more objectively about the options available and confront them with our values to find coherence, we can respect the differences, because it is from there that we can build what brings us the true tranquility, we can trust.

Lately, I’ve realized that people who are focused on building themselves, expressing their personal talents, and connecting assertively with the appropriate people to build projects that impact society constructively and integratively, are the ones who are transforming our society, since only by recognizing the differences, and building from them, we can have the tranquility we need, from acceptance. Let’s integrate more in all areas of our lives, both personal and social, we don’t need to be part of a party, a team, or a group, we are already part of the world, let’s do our part, let’s build.

Love,
Ángel

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Chakras and Earthly Experience

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As we integrate information more consciously, we realize that all areas are a reflection of human beings, for example we can see in civil engineering how it is essential to build solid foundations, with quality materials, from a clear purpose, or in agronomy the importance of nurturing and caring for what we sow, then, now, according to the purpose of the title of this text, we can integrate the energetic concepts of the chakras into our earthly experience.

According to different perspectives in the world (Hinduism, Theosophy, Gnosticism, New Age) the chakras are the main energy centers in our body and are integrated into our physical, mental, emotional, sentimental and expressive world. Currently we can find 7 chakras directly related to our earthly experience, for this reason the connection list between chakras and our lives has 7 points, let’s understand how we can integrate them to our experience in a constructive way:

  1. Experience from birth to 7 years old (chakra muladhara/root): this chakra, represented by the color red, is that of our anchorage to the earth, as children we need to learn to relate to the environment, to communicate, to develop our safety , so it is necessary for us to be as integral examples as possible for the children who arrive on the planet.
  2. Experience from 7 to 14 years old (chakra svadhisthana/sacrum): this chakra, represented by orange color, is our creative force/expression and energizing center, it is time to acquire habits that build our cells and discover our talents, to learn how to create/express from our hearts what we flow with, so it is necessary to foster conscious experimentation, and with proper guidance.
  3. Experience from 14 to 21 years old (chakra manipura/solar plexus): this chakra, represented by the yellow color, is the center of our emotions, the whole belief system that we have received (consciously or unconsciously) manifests itself into emotions, and so we begin to relate from a more energetic point of view that can be used to learn about our interaction with others to decide what we want to take from everything we have learned to our next phase. When, during this period, we feel at peace, the tendency is for us to strengthen our identity, otherwise we will enter into a search for something that we haven’t learned until we feel that we’ve found it. With solid foundations that allow us to be who we really are, and express ourselves constructively and transparently, we use this period to enhance what we have perceived and constructed since birth.
  4. Experience from 21 to 28 years old (chakra anahata/heart): this chakra, represented by the color green, is the center of our feelings, where we integrate our experience. This period leads us to understand, in a more rational way, that we can build feelings and realities from our belief system and our expression. Realizing that, what manifests itself in our life is 100% our responsibility, from our decisions, we can focus on constructing our integrity by understanding that everything has an effect around.
  5. Experience from 28 to 35 years old (chakra visuddha/throat): This chakra, represented by the blue color, is the center of the expression/communication of our own truth. For this chakra to be developed it is essential to be connected to our natural talents, to our true identity, to the idea that we are all part of the same living organism. In this period, with the certainty of what we want to construct, we find the need to express ourselves in the most assertive, transparent, coherent and respectful way possible, this allows us to connect more authentically with everyone and everything around us. Our actions, words, gestures and expressions align with our heart.
  6. Experience from 35 to 42 years old (chakra ajna/third eye): this chakra, represented by the indigo color, is the center that allows us to clearly perceive the motives behind actions, as we perceive reality as it is, our abilities empower us even more because we learn to relate more assertively to appropriate beings to construct as a team and to make more conscious and assertive decisions in all areas of our lives. Here the tendency is to find the appropriate measure of everything for our own life.
  7. Experience from 42 to 47 years old (chakra sahasrara/crown): this chakra, represented by the violet color, is the center of our sense of belonging to the whole, allows us to understand that everything external is a reflection of within and we are more conscious about what we want to manifest from our vibration (feelings, emotions, thoughts, words and actions) to construct with the most appropriate conscience from our talents integrated into the context.

These processes can be developed at any time in our lives, our perception allows us to accept the experience as it is, it is always time to integrate different perspectives that allow us to find our center of peace, where we integrate our 3 lower and higher chakras, our heart . As a prism we can crystallize our experience from the colors.

Love,
Ángel

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Respectful Connection: 5 steps to exercise respect

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To build every relationship it is very important to exercise RESPECT, with ourselves and others, for it is a constructive value. When we respect ourselves, and set our boundaries, we create a clear channel of communication with the world (click here to read about transparency). And if in doing so we add the intention of repecting the other’s boundaries we will be building a solid foundation for each relationship.

RESPECTING our own boundaries, and others’, is to understand that we’re all different and that’s a part of the construction of who we are, and the place we live in, and be willing to interact by absorbing the most appropriate of each situation, avoiding attacking anyone. What we’ve considered as negative or positive, at some point, may switch sides according to our experiences, what is a real fact is that, no matter the side they’re at, experiences are part of our lives and our development. So everybody deserves our respect, the same we give to someone who teaches us something.

The next 5 steps helps us to exercise respect:

  1. To respect ourselves and set our personal boundaries coherent and assertively (click here to read about setting boudaries).
  2. To respect others’ boundaries.
  3. To avoid giving opinions that haven’t been requested.
  4. To obeserve the way we express ourselves about others and transform it into constructive one.
  5. To check the constructivity of what we are about to express before doing it.

Following these steps we transform the way we realete to the world, which, in turn, brings us new perspectives and possibilities. RESPECT OTHERS the way YOU want to be RESPECTED.

Love,
Ángel

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Do We Really Act With Respect?

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When we pay attention, we perceive that is necessary to construct coherence when it comes to respect, since, the word itself, has been used in a very shallow way that, usually, favors ourselves according to our personal belief. So, do we really act with respect?

The word respect comes from the latin respectus that means attentions, consideration, but its social meaning has been touched, mainly, by fear. When our behaviour has been acquired without being questioned, there is the tendency to assume that we respect because we try to please people (by fear of the conflict, punishment, loneliness, etc.) and/or we develop mecanisms of manipulation to get what we want, and we exercise them with so mastery that we don’t even realize that we are being little considered to others, and to ourselves.

From this perspective, it is important that we connect respect to responsibility, which leads ourselves to recognize and accept the consequences of our actions. When we decide to know ourselves better (click here to buy the eBook 7 Levels for Personal Empowerment), we discover our ability to channel our reactios into actions that construct through knowledge integrated to our experience and to accept and integrate our talents, and the absence of them, in a constructive way. This process allows us to become conscious about the fact that everything we feel, think, say and do, has an impact and that, when we assume our responsability for our actions, we become more respectful to every new decision we take with attention and knowledge.

The following questions are very useful to identify if we are really acting with respect, and can lead us to transform the way we express ourselves in order to connect in a more coherent way with our desire of constructing peace from each one of our decisions:

  1. Do we express our point of view as an experience to share (wihtout the need of imposing it)?
  2. Do we nurture thoughts of constructivity about ourselves and everything around us? (click here to read the text about reprogramming our thoughts)
  3. Do we talk about experiences and points of view to transmit and integrate?
  4. Do we know what we want and communicate that in the most constructive way possible (with coherent and applicable arguments)?
  5. Do we nurture feelings that make us feel connected to humanity and the world?
  6. Do we keep the promises we make?
  7. Do we accept other as they are and construct along with them, generating an appropriate flux of giving and receiving?
  8. Do we set our boundaries, communicate them and respect the limits of everyone and everything around us? (click here to read the text about setting boundaries)

After asking ourselves these 8 questions, we can see that the “YES” answers tell us where our construction of respect and responsibility is strengthened, and “NO” answers show us where we can focus our attention, from this moment on, to further strengthen our expression. We construct our destiny with every decision we make here and now, it’s up to us using the available resources in the more constructive and integral way possible.

Love,
Ángel

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Constructive Relationships: 7 questions to assess the level of constructivity of relationships

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It is very important to work on our self-relationship (click here to read the text about transforming our self relationship), in order to understand who we really are (click here to read the text about self-knowledge) and be ready to relate to the world in a more assertive way. This includes to detach from destructive relationships, even if it is because of our or other’s intentions, and building new constructive relationships for our lives.

Today we’re talking, specifically, about the transformation of, and/or detach from, relationships that make us feel less than we are, or that just have turned into a waste of time, for we get use to it and we haven’t found our way out of there, whether because of one or many reasons (click here to read the text about empowering habits)..

Many types of beliefs have taken us to live relationships in our lives that, when we change our beliefs, we have seen them as something we don’t really want to live. As we grow up we pass certain situations that can lead us to know what we really don’t want or actually want, that’s why it is so important to learn to direct our lives by the relationship constructive path. This empower us.

There are 7 questions to assess the level of constructivity of relationships we live. Using the for every relationship (sentimental, family, friendship), in an honest way, we are able to understand if us, or other people, are having destructive behaviors, if they can really be transformed, or if the best thing to do is getting out of that relationship.

  1. In the relationship the both of us support each other?
  2. Is there respect between the both of us for each other’s growing and development?
  3. Is there freedom for being who we really are?
  4. Is there honesty and transparency?
  5. Is there dialog without manipulation?
  6. Is there trust, fidelity and loyalty?
  7. The both of us contribute to the construction and strengthening of the relationship?

If after asking ourselves these 7 questions most of the answers were “NO” we are living some kind of destructive relationship. It is important to analize is it’s really possible the transformation through the dialog, but if we perceive that there’s no possibility of changing what is destructing the relationship it is time to ask ourselves about the real reasons why we are still experiencing that. If some of those reasons is fear (of loneliness, of not finfing another person, of losing something) we must take the responsability of detaching from that and, in the most respectful way possible, making clear what we really want (click here to read the text about setting boundaries)..

When we live in an unconsciouss destructive way, we tend to see the external as a threat, but we can transform our own selves and find that heart path that leads us to be more respectful, free, transparent, faithful, loyal and constructive to us and to people (click here to read the text about connecting ourselves to our hearts). So, if today we are in a relationship like that, we must give us the chance of getting out of it and let ourselves, or the other person, follow our own consciousness path. Let’s do this for ours and others, it may be that the relationship that finish now start over again with a more consciouss point of view in order to build the relationship up .

Let’s be independent, dependency always causes undesireble emotional situations (click here to read the text about emotions and feelings).

Love,
Ángel

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Discovering Transparency: 3 steps to exercise it

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If we want to live a life of transparency, it’s necessary that we learn to construct it and teach people we realete to, through our example, the impact that comes along with choosing this path in an active and conscious way in our own experience.

Although it’s common to use our word as something worthless to get what we want (from controlling our environment ti satisfy others’ desires, things that seem to happen but we don’t really know the truth about it) it doesn’t mean that is approppriate to construct what we desire from our hearts (transparency, coherence, peace, safety and integrity). So, are we acting with the transparency we want to exist in our world? (click here to read the article about transmutation of the word corruption)

Since our present decisions are the ones which create our fate (click here to read the text about deciding by conviction), it’s moment of deciding the steps to take in order to construct the fate of peace we want from now on. Let’s see 3 steps to exercise and strengthen the habit of transparency:

  1. Assuming the responsability for our actions: it’s possible that at some point in our lives we’ve acted in a disrespectful and lying way in order to follow the model of getting what we want no matter how, so, for exercising transparency it’s essential to assume everything we have done at some moment and reflect about its utility to construct what we expect from the world. When we are responsible for our decisions, we have a wider perspective about what needs to be transformed in this moment. For example, if we are in a relationship because of the fear of being alone, but we no longer feel connected to the person, we can integrate our fear, by understanding and transforming it into courage to transmit to the other person the reality about the wy we feel, in an approppriate way, and transforming the relationship, through respect, into a friendship (click here to read the text We broke up, what now?)
  2. Better knowing people before envolving them in our lives: through emotions we enter relationships quickly without being conscious about the authenticity, coherence and affinity between people and us. Really knowing ouselves (click here to read the text about connecting ourselves to our hearts) we are sure about what is really necessary in our lives to construct with purpose (click here to read the text about not so necessary needs) and through athenticity we connect to people with defined purposes (click here to read the text about the purpose of relationships) communicating, in a respectful way, what we really feel.
  3. Perceiving our feelings, thoughts, words and actions: during the day different feelings and thoughts emerge, and we need to understand them to transform them and channel them into the construction of our transparency, thus, through our words and actions, we express them the most approppriate way according to our reality in the context of the place we’re in, with respect, coherence and integrity.

Exercising transparency is not about telling everyone about the way we feel or what we think about others, situations or what’s around us, but transforming our reactive expression into active, through the consciousness of expressing our truth in a respectful way when we communicate, thus, constructing a communication which purpose is constructing, from diversity, a society of integrity.

Love,
Ángel

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What do we Blame For, if we are Responsible?

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One of the main motives by which we blame others for what happen, besides the intention of destroying, is ignoring that the responsibility is totally ours, we decide every step we take, whether impulsive and unconsciously, or active and consciously.

If we are in a certain place, with certain peopla, living certain experiences, is because we’ve decided it that way. Some times we’ve got to think that there were any other option, but, the reality is that we don’t perceive the possibilities when we are focused on something and want to get it anyway, but “THE END DOESN’T JUSTIFY THE MEANS” respect (click here to read the text about respect), transparency and coherence (click here to read the text about coherence) must be the main ingredients of each one of our decisions, if we really want to live in a society that constructs itself through integrity and from our differences (click here to read the text about constructing peace through consiousness).

Blaming someone for what happens to us is a way of ignoring something we need to learn about ourselves and judging others, these habits destruct our relationships with ourselves and with the world around us, so, for this reason, it’s necessary to transform our reactions into constructive actions, in a conscious way. Let’s see some actions that can be useful for this purpose:

  1. Before blaming, let’s think about the decisions which have led us to the present moment: from a haircut, to buying a house, is necessary to understand the motive of every step we’ve taken, what motivates the action, what we think, feel and say about the situation and what we can learn from it.
  2. Let’s focus on talking about what we’ve done and what we could do differently: by talking about our own process we get to listen to ourselves and to assess, in an objective way, what could lead ourselves to manifest a different result, really knowing our talents and recognizing that which we don’t have ability for, in order to join to people that strengthen and enhance what we already are.
  3. Let’s question the purpose that has guided us, to act the way he’ve acted, and transform it if we feel that is being desrespectful, liar and incoherent to our own nature: many purposes in our lives have been created to satisfy necessities, of others or our own, that keep ourselves away from who we are. Understanding better what we do from ou hearts we get to align our feelings, thoughts, words and actions to reconnect to ourselves and act in the most approppriate way for the context we’ve decided to experience.

Let’s remember that we are totally responsible for what we experience in our lives, that our decisions construct our path and that the more conscious we are about the peace we want to construct, the easier it is to construct it in every area of our lives (click here to read the text about constructing peace).

Love,
Ángel

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It’s consciousness what constructs peace

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We spend our lives looking for happiness in what we do, think, eat, say, feel, but, every time we’ve expected to find happiness in those moments, Have we been conscious of respecting ourselves ans everything around us? (click here to read the text about respect)

Let’s imagine now the diversity that exists when it comes to tastes and the impact that the search for those sensations can have, would that instant of emotional happiness destroy or construct?

Let’s see some examples about how consciousness connects ourselves with more respect to our society (beings and environment):

    1. Being conscious about what our cells need to work in an appropriate way, do we construct when we eat what’s not really necessarie? When we nourish ourselves, we give our cells what’s necessary, we promote a culture of conscious consumption of food and simulate the natural and respectful production of food (click here to read the text abut micronutrients for our cells).
    2. Being conscious about the fact that we need to give our bodies quality sleep and physical activity, do we construct when we foment laziness in ourselves and others? When we exercise our bodies and sleep enough, we get to construct a more consistent health, what leads ourselves to create with more quality, through time, more sustainable lifestyles.
    3. Being conscious of the fact that we can construct with facts and words from our feeling of unity, do we construct when we want to be superior to others or compete for survival? When we practice self acceptance about what we really are, through our own selfknowledge, we get to accept differences and we are able to learn new ways of expressing ourselves to construct, with a purpose, a different style of doing things (click here to read the text about coherence and selfknowledge).
    4. Being conscious about the fact that, for having the right to bring a human being to earth it is essential to be an example of what we want for a more united humanity, do we construct when we decide to satisfy our sexual desires without being willing to assume the responsibility for any circumstances? When we understand that we can channel our emotions in a different way, from the one we’ve learnt, deciding by conviction becomes part of our lives (click here to read the text about deciding by conviction) and we get to have more clarity in the purpose of every single action, thus, focusing our energy in constructing from ourselves in unity.

Being happy can be destructive for society, because it has become an expression used to satisfy personal desires, being conscious is constructive because it leads ourselves to understand that every decision made has an impact in ourselves and everything, and everyone, around us, and that, as beings, we need to develop our knowledge about the place we live in, to integrate, in the most assertive and constructive way possible, our talents to the construction of what we want from unity (click here to read the text about humanity transformation).

So, if we want peace, transparency, coherence and respect, are we constructing that through each feeling, thought, word and action in our lives? (click here to read the text about peace construction)

Love,
Ángel

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3 questions to transform our self-relationship

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Relationships are as simple as we want to see them. It’s important that the first relationship we analize in order to have better relationships is the one with our own selves. Relationships we have with people depend on our worth and the boundries we set. (click here to read the text about setting boundaries)

Let’s make some questions to answer them consciously to ourselves.

  1. How do I treat myself when something doesn’t go as planned?
  2. Do I accept myself or try to be what everybody wnats from me?
  3. Do I take the responsibility of my life and my decisions? (click here to read the text about deciding by conviction)

It’s important to understand that is with our own selves that we have to exercise every aspect we feel is missing in our lives. What we expect from others must be something we can give, giving and receiving is very important to keep the harmony in relationships.

When we start to work our patience, acceptance, discipline and responsibility from our own selves, we feel more complete and comfortable.

By changing the focus, and integrating the outside with the inside, we understand the importance of making every decision of our lives with the graeatest calm and certainty possible (click here to read the text about polarities as learning). This way, our relationships with the world transform themselves, we understand that each one of us needs to be completely responsible for ourselves so we can live in a more thoughtful way.

After a long time of giving up on my responsability I decided to take it all back and I really feel very empowered (click here to buy the eBook 7 Levels for Personal Empowerment), I accept and know myself better and I really know what I want, so I direct my energy to construct the life I desire in society. What about you?

Remember to share this post with your friends and tell us your own story on the comments. How do you live your self-relationship?

Love,
Ángel

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