Forgiveness Part 1: Definition and Resignification

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Talking to my friend Lina María (author of the EA Portal), we perceive that is necessary to break some paradigms about forgiveness so we can understand it better and integrate it to our lives in an easy and effective way. Because of it, this and the next posts are focus on the action of forgiving, going through the definition, break of paradigm, resignification, integration and application of forgiveness, integrally, in our lives.

The word forgive is defined as ceasing to feel resentment against someone. Integrating this definition to our personal experience, it is common that we perceive forgiveness as a superior way of relating to people or situations that, from our perspective, have hurt us. Now we are ready to break the paradigm of forgiving.

When we uderstand that comparisons, judgement and faults are part of a model that needs to be transformed for us to learn to relate in a more transparent, authentic, respectful and responsible way, to construct and remodel, sustainably, our planet, it’s necessary to break the paradigm that fogiveness makes us superior and resignify it as the integration of the ideia that we are responsible for choosing if something, efectively, affects us or hurts us.

Normally we feel hurt when a situation doesn’t go as expected, but, the same way we can blame others for what they say or do, we are also able to take responsibility for the expectation we have created for us to feel well, accepted, loved, etc, and for allowing others to enter and stay in our lives. If we analize a little deeper, feeling hurt comes from a need of control, from the desire of controlling our lives, and the people and situations in it. Let’s see this steps that lead us to connect to a side of our human nature that lets us low with our hearts:

  1. Seeing life as a constant learning: when we go into each situation, with all our senses, we can perceive elements that can lead us to a broader understanding of who we are.
  2. Being grateful for every minute of our lives: we can choose to see our lives as a miracle, be able to breathe or do what we de can always be a motive of gratitude and every lesson too, painful as they may seem, show us that we are more than we think.
  3. Putting into practice the exercices  to bring our minds to the present (click here to read the article about present mind), excercising the empowering of beliefs (click here to read the article about beliefs) and accepting people and situation as they are.


Let’s share our forgiveness experiences in the comments so that we can broaden our viewpoints. The subject of the next article is guilt and how to resignify it and integrate it into the process of personal forgiveness.



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