Injustice and Power Part 3: Relationships

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To finish the series about Injustice and Power, we will address these aspects in our relationships. We can live in injustice in any kind of relationship, especially when we are unfair to ourselves (we do not respect our principles, our tastes, our time and we prioritize satisfying others’) or when, due to fear of being alone, or being rejected, we create a character that is not necessary (whatever our nature we can find compatible people to relate to us)..

There is a lot of abuse of power and injustice in relationships, be it sexism or the idea that one of the parties must take control of the relationship, and all the previous options only build relationships based on fear that end up in a routine, because the spontaneity and the truth in the interactions are completely lost. If we need to assume or delegate power in any kind of relationship we should review our lack of acceptance, because, when we fully accept ourselves, we perceive the importance of personal empowerment, each one of us is unique and when we manage to integrate our personal power with that of other people we build solid foundations based on truth and transparency, a solid way to construct in a sustainable way (click here to read the article on constructive relationships).

We often go into relationships based on emotions that lead us to react, or to “act impulsively”, for this reason it is important to take it slow to get to know people and understand how they fit into our lives or if they are just present for teaching us something about ourselves that we have not perceived, and that we need to work on in order to understand the situations we manifest in our lives, what happens to us (click here to read the article about what we deserve).

Here are some points of view that can assist ourselves in our decision-making regarding our relationships:

  1. Do we feel that we don’t receive what we give? It is very common that we look for what we think we need on the outside, the thing is that outside we only find what we are inside. If people lie to us, let’s think to whom we lie, if people betray us, let’s ask ourselves who we have betrayed, if people don’t keep what they say, to whom we haven’t kept our word? We are used to prioritize some people and give them special treatment, and those people can show us, more easily, our actions and reactions with those we don’t consider a priority, the responsibility for what we feel, think, say and do is ours, we need to learn to decide with more awareness (click here to read the article on conviction decisions).

  2. Do we induce the people with whom we relate to do what we want? We often create in our reality needs that keep us imprisoned to the idea of power, so it is possible that we are attracting insecure people who are willing to seek our approval, by pleasing ourselves in everything we want (we must take special care with this in family relationships and when we raise children, because these attitudes can compromise their healthy development in the world). Using our power over others is to affirm that we’re not good enough to connect with people freely and allow them to give back what we give, because we perceive, consciously or unconsciously, that we usually give incoherence and lack of acceptance.

For a long time I compared myself to other people and complained about my situation, I wanted people to know what I liked so they would please me in everything, but I realized that, despite having everything I thought I wanted, I wasn’t happy with anything, so I decided to work on myself by applying universal principles to my daily life, that assisted me in knowing myself better and understanding that only by increasing my personal power, by assuming responsibility for what I feel, think, say and do in a conscious way, I really feel more and more connected to myself and, consequently, calmer (click here to buy the eBook 7 Levels for Personal Empowerment). What do you do that allows you to be in harmony?

Love,
Ángel

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Injustice and Power Part 2: Workplace

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Going back to the series of injustice and power, the main subject today is how we can act in a more assertive way when facing this situation in our workplace. The main issue in this situation is that we understand that it is our decision to be where we are, the reasons may be fears or convictions, but we are always the ones who decide to be where we are, and we usually have something to learn from there.

I’ve heard many people complaining about the injustice of people who hold important positions doing less than them but I have also noticed that many of these people who complain seem to work a lot, because sometimes they just are not in the area which they have talent for so doing the same as the others require much more time and effort. Has this happened to you? We can easily perceive it when we do something that we do not like, for example, I do not like to cook alone, and when I do it I spend more time cooking something than the person who likes it and also doesn’t end up as delicious, is like something is missing. This is what happens, we need to know ourselves better to work on something we have talent for and we can flow along with, that prevents us from seeing the situation of the ascension of someone, who apparently works less, as an injustice.

Now, if after we have expanded our perspective, we still perceive that there is injustice, it is time to look for a place to work that is more compatible with our principles. It is important that we are sure about what we want to be able to setting the boundaries within to look for the appropriate work in a company compatible with ourselves (click here to read the article about setting boundaries). We need to trust enough in ourselves to be able to accept what we deserve, as well as understand our needs in all aspects of our lives, which can often be simpler than they seem and open possibilities for us to work in areas that would fit in a reality of extreme needs not so necessary (click here to read the article on identification of needs).

Here we have some points of view that can assist ourselves in our decision making regarding our work life:

  1. Do we feel that we have to work hard to achieve small things? Perceiving the moments in our own lives in which we feel that we do we like and it allows us to flow, we realize that this is when we forget the time and energy that we are dedicating to it. So, if we do something that doesn’t allow us to flow, that tires us and makes us feel that we have to make an effort to do it, we need to evaluate other possibilities to monetize what we do from our integrated personal talents. What is it that we find easy to do, and what we like doing, that contributes to the construction of a more human humanity, and how can we monetize that in order to live where we are?

  2. Are the material needs we have really necessary? Many times we create in our reality needs that keep us prisoners to something that we don’t like in our work environment, when we perceive that we need less than what we thought, we are able to advance in our personal life, because we build with more calm and satisfaction our material life through our own talents.

In my 6 years of working life, I have learned that I can do everything that I set out to do, but that sometimes requires doing things that are not aligned with my values and principles, so I’ve decided that I prefer to flow along with what I do more easily, that is why I write and assist people in their own processes, so I feel that I’m more consistent to myself and that I can connect more genuinely with everyone and everything around me. I have time for myself and for the things and people that are a priority in my life. life. Today I’m totally sure about the fact that I don’t need everything I wanted, and I appreciate what comes into my life to build what I really want from the heart, which is manifested in my present. What you do allows you to be in harmony?

Love,
Ángel

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Injustice and Power Part 1: Are we experiencing this?

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Today I decided to ask a friend about the complaints he listen to from other people and the issue they talk about most is injustice, both in professional life and in personal life. In the workplace is presented above all in the recognition from the personal perspective of every person, since what is perceived is the inequality of remuneration in relation to the effort of work and what we call “bootlicking” in the USA. In personal life it can happen in our family, couple or friendships, it is also the perception that what we do is not enough for people, who increasingly demand more of ourselves and don’t recognize our “effort” (I put the word effort in quotation marks because that is what we do when we try to seek external approval, which is not necessary when we begin to guide ourselves through internal approval – click here to read the full article on Internal Approval in 3 steps).

Connected to the concept of injustice, generally, there is power over others, another issue that arose in a conversation with another friend yesterday. At work, in some cases, people who hold higher positions are people who use their personal power to manipulate everyone and everything around them, and that is one of the reasons to get to that position (besides the power they have for the knowledge and experience they may have), obviously if our desire is to exercise our personal power over ourselves we somehow don’t fit into a position that requires doing that, right? In other types of relationships we find people who want to have control over others and don’t let them be themselves (take care, those people may be ourselves), here we find grandparents, parents, children, brothers, couples, friends, who want everything done in its own way and, when this is not done, they use fear as a manipulation tool to gain control.

Have we felt identified with any of these situations? If the answer is “YES”, let’s continue reading the series of Injustice and Power so we can find an assertive way to get out of this situation and create new opportunities in our life based on personal decisions made by conviction (click here to read the article on decide by conviction).

Love,
Ángel

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Sublimation of Our Experience 5: Emotions and Feelings

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Now that we understand a little better what sublimation is (click here to read the full sublimation article), and how we experience it on a mental (click here to read about mental reality), creative (click here to read about creative energy) , and sexual levels (click here to read about sexual energy), we can better understand the sublimation of emotions into feelings.

Emotions are reactive and unconscious energy in motion, arise from needs and beliefs that we have assumed as ours throughout our lives. We somatize them in the body and identify with them to the point where we think it is the language of our hearts. Emotions make us react according to what we have integrated, we go from tears to laughter, from affection to screaming, and vice versa. Feelings are active and conscious energy in motion, arise from needs and beliefs that are built from what is in our hearts, that which we flow in harmony with our environment from what we feel. We feel them in the body as a state of peace and coherence with our essence. We can act from our feelings, because our understanding of each situation expands according to our experience and the way we think, making us more assertive in our expression.

Knowing the emotions and feelings, we can follow 4 simple steps to sublimate our emotions constructively and in harmony with our essence and our hearts.

  1. Let’s ask ourselves: What thoughts do we have during the day that generate any negative or positive emotion? What daily situations intensify those thoughts and those emotions? Examples: as an example of positive thought and emotion, if we think that we are going out with someone we like, we feel like little butterflies in the belly and when they call us, thought and emotion intensify themselves. As an example of thought and negative emotion, if we think that someone is lying to us we feel the emotion in some part of the body manifesting impotence and when the person tells us something that we know, or think, is a lie, thought and emotion intensify themselves.

  2. How do we react when we feel those emotions in our bodies? Examples: for the first case the reaction may be to smile and get nervous, for the second it may be to shout and face the person.

  3. How could we work the emotion and act more assertively? Examples: to work the emotion we need deep diaphragmatic breathing until we feel calm. To act more assertively in the positive example smiling is still assertive, because it also feels in the voice, and to continue it is important that we ask ourselves if the person with whom we are going to go out is really someone with whom we want to build something together based in the reality of what the person is and what we are. To act more assertively, in the negative example, once the emotion is worked out, let’s think if we have been sincere, with ourselves and with others, and ask ourselves why we keep that person in our lives.

  4. Evaluate what we have allowed, because emotions take us to places and people so that we learn something that we did not want to learn through self-reflection. Understanding what we want from our hearts, it is the feeling of harmony with ourselves that guides us into our own path.

Today’s reflection is: What do we have to learn about ourselves through the situations we live?

Love,
Ángel

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Sublimation of Our Experience 4: Sex

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We have already understood how our creatve energy is essential in our reconnective process (click here to read the article about sublimation of the creative energy), now we are able to integrate it to the sublimation of sex.

Sexual energy is also creative energy that, when sublimated in a constructive way, connects ourselves to our essence through love. Our sexual energy is connected to attraction processes in our own perceptions, that are able to strengthen connections through our emotional, mental and/or physical world. As we read in sublimation of our mental reality (click here to read full article) we onle perceive the thing we pay attention to, so, as we know ourselves better, through our own experiences, we have the option of expanding our own personal consciousness, in order to learn to connet to our own personal signs, and, that way, in a more assertive way to the world.

By recognizing how our emotions, thoughts and perceptions influence the way we experience our sexual energy, we can follow 3 simple steps to sublimate it in a constructive way and in harmony with everything and everyone around us.

  1. Let’s ask ourselves: What motives lead us to live our sexuality as we have decided to experiences it? What do we feel and think after a sexual act or an orgasm? Example: my motive to iniciate my sexual life was low self-esteem, I always thought that sex was a way of controlling my partner to have him by my side. While I had that thought it was common for me to feel in pain and empty, as if I lacked something I could not find outside myself, I often felt tired, as if I had no energy, but I thought that was normal.

  2. Having our destructive thoughts, and emotions, identified, we can work on them by transforming them into constructive actions that empower ourselves. Example: By doing my own reasearch I realize that it wasn’t normal to feel the way I felt, so I started reading about diverse issues and feeling more my own self every moment, the consciousness about my own seual energy expanded itself and now I perceive that it not only a matter of my emotional, physical and mental worlds, but it is also about my sentimental world and the emotional, physical, mental and sentimental worlds of the person I allow myself to establish a relationship in that level.

  3. Let’s focus our energy on our present and learn something new about ourselves and the ways of having a more constructive impact on our own relationships through our personal interaction integrated to our inner signs.

Today’s reflaction is: Do we focus our sexual energy by personal convictions or for pleasing others?

Love,
Ángel

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Sublimation of Our Experience 3: Creativity

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By subliming our mental reality (click here for reading the full article about sublimation of our mental reality), we open up a door to connect ourselves to our creative energy, since when we flow along with our lives, we get to trust more on ourselves and on our capacities. Today, the main subject is the sublimation of our creative energy.

When we nourish an empowering reality, that reconnects ourselves with our trust within on ourselves and on our lives, we start integrating inner and outer information we receive in a more authentic way for expressing it, by questioning ourselves more about what comes to us, because we realize that we all are different and, at the same time, make all part of the collective reality that exists.

Now that we own a more constructive mental reality, and based on what is most appropriate for ourselves from our own experience, we are able to integrate some steps to increase our personal connection and let our creativity to flow, in every area of our lives.

  1. Hydration: Are we conscious about our bodies’ quality of hydration? Example: the water we consume must have essential minerals to hydrate ourselves, so we can mineralize the water we intake with marine salt and a little baking soda, and solarize it, for me the result has been great, my body works better and ask for less liquids during the day. Let’s make researches and try them with our own bodies.

  2. Nutrition: Do we eat to feed or nourishing ourselves? (Click here for reading full article about expanding our nutritional consciousness). Example: when we eat thinking just about balancing carbohydrates and proteins, we are ignoring minerals and vitamins, that are essential for the proper functionality of our bodies. I have stopped eating meat and dairy because I have realized that my intestine absorbs finctional nutrients better and I need to eat less to feel more energized and healthy.

  3. Breathing: Do we know the quality of our breathing? Example: our breathing gets shorter and we only use a part of our lung capacity to oxygenate our bodies. I have been integrated a deep diafragmatic breathing during the day and I have felt more connected and at peace.

  4. Cell regeneration: Do we sleep enough and give our bodies what they really need? Example: our bodies need certain time for regenerating and regulating themselves during sleep time, that is why it is so important to know how long we need to sleep in order to wake up energized. As I improve my nutrition, I realize that my body needs less time when I eat only what is necessary (click here for reading full article about cell regeneration).

By giving attention to our energetic levels, in an integrated way, we allow our creativity to easily flow at any present time.

The reflection for today is: Do we really investigate about the processes that allow us to expand our personal consciousness?

A hug,
Ángel

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Sublimation of Our Experience 2: Mental Reality

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Now that we understand a little better what sublimation is (click here to read the full sublimation article), and how we experience it in our lives, we can begin a journey through our own experience, by integrating all the areas that make up our human integrity. Today’s issue is the sublimation of our mental reality, which is the basis of the way in which we relate to the world.

The reality that exists in our mind, the one we nurture, is the way in which we live our own experience. We have several options and we perceive only the things we pay attention to, because it is what most of the time is being communicated to us, since we connect and identify with it. So if we decide to see everything as an adversity or a challenge, our lives show to us that, in everything we do, when we decide to see everything as learning we live our lives as an infinite experience of knowledge. It is, for this reason, that it is so important to verify the reality we are nurturing in our minds.

Recognizing how our mind influences the way we experience our present, we can follow simple steps to sublimate our mental reality constructively and in harmony with everyone and everything around us.

  1. Let’s ask ourselves: What thoughts do we have during the day that generate anxiety, stress, sadness, on ourselves? Which daily situations intensify those thoughts and emotions? Example: if we think about the country situation, we feel insecure, this is intensified when we watch the news and talk to people about it.

  2. With the destructive thoughts and emotions identified, we can work on them by transforming them into constructive actions that empower us. Example: we are looking for ways to reduce unnecessary needs (click here to see a step by step to assess our needs), to live with what is necessary, to save what we have now, to identify our talents to work contributing to the construction of more constructive, coherent and transparent models, wherever we are.

  3. Let’s identify the thoughts and situations in our day that bring us tranquility and make us feel confidence about ourselves. Example: When we focus on doing something for which we are talented, when we spend time with ourselves, with our children, with animals, with people, with nature, etc.

  4. Let us focus our energy on intention (thoughts, feelings, words and actions) in what makes us feel connected to ourselves and the world. Let’s learn something new about ourselves and the ways we have a more constructive impact from home.

The reflection for today is: How much time do we dedicate per day to sublimate what is constructive for us?

A hug,
Ángel

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Sublimation of Our Experience 1: Definition and Contextualization

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Today, while taking my pump of nutrients juice, I reflected on the fact of feeling ecstatic when I consume it, and it is not only because its flavor gives me pleasure, but because everything that it represents in a nutritional and energetic level, for me, makes it one of the sacred things in my life. I have realized that we can build sublime feelings about things that seem simple and to which we normally do not give much importance, it is a matter of living the moment fully and expanding our consciousness about ourselves. This is called SUBLIMATION, which, according to the dictionary definition, is to to convert (something inferior) into something of higher worth, elevate it to a higher degree.

During our life, almost always unconsciously, we have sublimated several things, some of them destructive, connecting them with the way we felt emotionally and mentally at a certain moment, and we have also related aspects, which can be constructive for us, with negative moments on an emotional and mental level. When we start to realize that, we perceive the origin of many of our vices to food, to cigarettes, to emotions, to games, to people, to sex, to drugs, to drinking, etc., and we discover that we can consciously connect more constructive habits through the feeling of love to ourselves.

Each action brings consequences, whether in short or long term, that is why it is important that we begin to choose more consciously and assertively the decisions we want to make to impact our lives, our health, energy levels, relationships with ourselves and with others, etc., constructively. For this reason, this week we will focus on knowing simple ways to sublimate diverse areas of our lives from the smallest details.

The reflection for today is: What have we sublimated that is destructive for us?

A hug,
Ángel

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Constructive Habits: 2 steps for us to analize and empower habits

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The last few days there have been many conversations related to habits, which we can perceive as the way to represent our discipline. We often think we are not disciplined because we fail to do what we think would be more constructive for us, but the truth is that we are disciplined with our destructive habits and we also have an emotional attachment that we need to release when we really want to transform our lives.

The issue is not being disciplined, but being free to be the most appropriate for ourselves, according to what we live.

When we evaluate the cause of our destructive habits, we usually find ideas based on beliefs, or an unconscious channeling of our own energy. On the other hand, our constructive habits usually have a purpose within our experience, and they fit into our lives because they make us connect to our flow state (constant levels of fluid energy, tranquility, reconnection to ourselves, health, etc.).

Perceiving this way, we can apply these two steps to identify and replace habits that have no constructive purpose in our life at this time:

  1. Let’s choose a habit and ask ourselves: What do we do that for? Why do we do it? How much time do we dedicate to this habit during the day? Does it have a constructive purpose for us and those around us?
  2. If the answer to the last question is NO, we can continue. Now let’s ask ourselves again: What could we do in that time we invest in the destructive habit? Is there any constructive habit we want to include in our lives? Can we build something different during that time?

Remember, habits are all reactions, or actions, we repeatedly manifest in our lives as wanting to be right, being worried for the approval of others through what they think or say about us, justify ourselves for everything, continue conflicts, etc. Everything can be transformed when we analyze through love what really construct ourselves. Every constructive habit, we integrate, takes us out of a vicious circle and leads ourselves to a spiral of evolution based on self-knowledge.

Love,
Ángel

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Forgiveness Part 5: Aligning the Inner Voice

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Our perspective about forgiveness expands itself when we understand that every single wound comes from expectations and needs, and that when we assume our responsibility, release control and accept the truth, we start living a reality in which we discover that the main reason of our wounds is the lack of personal connection, what leads us to construct a new way of relating, from self-respect.

Our self is a powerful ally when we decide to integrate it as part of the integral being we are (click here to read the full article about integration of the self), but, while we try to “ignore” it, it continues being the opponent of our inner voice, the voice that compares us, either positive or negatively, to others, the voice that judge us, the voice that is afraid even taking chances, the voice that, when we question, is always giving us an answer that comes from our own preservation as separated individuals.

When we exercise focusing our Self to know ourseles better, our thoughts start getting used to talk about our own selves avoiding judgement, comparisson and guilt, in at that moment that we start feeling our inner voice, the one that accepts us the way we are and shows us the most appropriate way of constructing in every sigle moment of our lives. One super useful question to check the origin of each thought is: Is this only for my well-being or it also contributes to the well-being of everything and everyone? With time, our Self learns how to flow with our hearts and the inner voice starts aligning and focusing on what makes us flow, and we enjoy, that cause a coherent and constructive impact i ourselves and everything around.

Listening to our inner voice is truly trusting ourselves, understanding that we are always in accompanied, that there are infinite ways of relating to ourselves, and to the world, and that we can always decide to flow along with our hearts.

This has been the week of forgiveness, I hope you liked it and if there is a topic about which you want to see my point of view send it to me. Have a nice weekend.

Love,
Ángel

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Expanding Our Perception