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Integrity

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Beyond the existing models, which we identify with while trying to fit in society, there is our integrity. In order to experience integrity in our life, it is essential to broaden our perception about some issues, since only this way we can accept ourselves the way we truly are and construct from our peace.

Our mind embraces what we think is good and rejects what we think is bad. This is different for each one of us, for example, we could have been born in a family we consider good and we attach to it, others in a family they consider bad and reject it, there are also children from the same parents that may attach or reject from their own perception and their searching for external approval.

The more we know ourselves, the better we understand the role of our mind. What at some point we consider good and creates attachment, may change and we can consider it bad and reject it, therefore, the only true identity comes from the acceptance of everything we are, so we can decide from our true desire for peace in the present.

To live from integrity, our mind must be receptive so we can understand what happens as it is and from the feeling of peace decide the most appropriate way of acting in our present. This means that we accept everything we consider good and bad in ourselves and we integrate it the most appropriate way to the context we’re in.

Our life can be perceived as a whole, when we decide to be transparent, coherent to our peace and respectful to our space and resources in every single level, we build everything from there, that is the foundation for our self-confidence and for the integrated construction of our own experience.
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Reflections on Relationships: Special Edition

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There is a very common issue when there is lack of self-knowledge. injustice, both in professional and in personal life. In the workplace is presented above all in the recognition from the personal perspective of every person, since what is perceived is the inequality of remuneration in relation to the effort of work, and what we call “bootlicking” in the USA. In personal life it can happen in our family, couple or friendships, it is also the perception that what we do is not enough for people, who increasingly demand more of ourselves and don’t recognize our “effort” (I put the word effort in quotation marks because that is what we do when we try to seek external approval, which is not necessary when we begin to guide ourselves through internal approval – click here to read the full article on Internal Approval in 3 steps).

Connected to the concept of injustice, generally, there is power over others. At work, in some cases, people who hold higher positions are people who use their personal power to manipulate everyone and everything around them, and that is one of the reasons to get to that position (besides the power they have due to knowledge and experience they may have), obviously if our desire is to exercise our personal power over ourselves we somehow don’t fit into a position that requires doing that, right? In other types of relationships we find people who want to have control over others and don’t let them be themselves (take care, those people may be ourselves), here we find grandparents, parents, children, brothers, couples, friends, who want everything done its own way and, when this is not done, they use fear as a manipulation tool to gain control.

Have we felt identified with any of these situations? If the answer is “YES”, let’s continue reading this special edition about reflections, so we can find an assertive way to get out of this situation and create new opportunities in our life based on personal decisions made by conviction (click here to read the article on decide by conviction).

WORKPLACE

How can we act in a more assertive way when facing situations we consider unfair in our workplace? The main issue in this situation is that we understand that it is our decision to be where we are, the reasons may be fears or convictions, but we are always the ones who decide to be where we are, and we usually have something to learn from there.

I’ve heard many people complaining about the injustice of people who hold important positions doing less than them but I have also noticed that many of those people who complain seem to work a lot, because sometimes they’re just not in the area which they have talent for, so, doing the same as the others require much more time and effort. Has this happened to you? We can easily perceive it when we do something that we don’t like, for example, I don’t like cooking alone, and when I do it I spend more time cooking something than the person who likes it, and also doesn’t end up as delicious, is like something is missing. This is what happens, we need to know ourselves better to work on something we have talent for and we can flow along with, that prevents us from perceiving the situation of the ascension of someone, who apparently works less, as an injustice.

Now, if after broadening our perspective, we still perceive that there is injustice, it is time to look for a place to work that is more compatible with our principles. It is important that we are sure about what we want to be able to set the boundaries within to look for the appropriate job in a company compatible with ourselves (click here to read the article about setting boundaries). We need to trust enough in ourselves to be able to accept what we deserve (click here to read about what we deserve), as well as understand our needs in all aspects of our lives, which can often be simpler than they seem and open possibilities for us to work in areas that would fit in a reality of extreme needs not so necessary (click here to read the article on identification of needs).

Here we have some perspectives that can contribute to our decision making regarding our work life:

  1. Do we feel that we have to work hard to achieve small things? Perceiving the moments in our own lives in which we feel that we do what we like and it allows us to flow, we realize that this is when we forget the time and energy we are dedicating to it. So, if we do something that doesn’t allow us to flow, that tires us and makes us feel that we have to make an effort to do it, we need to evaluate other possibilities to monetize what we do from our integrated personal talents. What is it that we find easy to do, and w]that we like doing, that contributes to the construction of a more integral humanity, and how can we monetize that in order to live where we are?

  2. Are the material needs we have really necessary? Many times we create in our reality needs that keep us prisoners to something that we don’t like in our work environment, when we perceive that we need less than what we thought, we are able to advance in our personal life, because we build with more calm and satisfaction our material life through our own talents.

In my 7 years of working life, I have learned that I can do everything that I set out to do, but that sometimes requires doing things that are not aligned with my values ​​and principles, so I’ve decided that I prefer to flow along with what I do more easily, that is why I write and assist people in their own processes, so I feel that I’m more consistent to myself and that I can connect more genuinely with everyone and everything around me. I have time for myself and for the things and people that are a priority in my life. Today I’m totally sure about the fact that I don’t need everything I wanted, and I appreciate what comes into my life to build what I really want from the heart, which is manifested in my present. What you do allows you to be in peace in every area of your life?

PERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS

We can live in injustice in any kind of relationship, especially when we are unfair to ourselves (we don’t respect our principles, our tastes, our time and we prioritize satisfying others’) or when, due to fear of being alone, or being rejected, we create a character that is not necessary (whatever our nature, we can find compatible people to relate with).

There’s a lot of abuse of power and injustice in relationships, be it sexism or the idea that one of the parties must take control of the relationship, and the previous options only build relationships based on fear that end up in a routine, because the spontaneity and the transparency in the interactions are completely lost. If we need to assume or delegate power in any kind of relationship we should review our lack of acceptance, because, when we fully accept ourselves, we perceive the importance of personal empowerment (click here to read about personal empowerment), each one of us is unique and when we manage to integrate our personal power with that of other people we build solid foundation based on truth and transparency, a solid way to construct in a sustainable way (click here to read the article on constructive relationships).

We often go into relationships based on emotions that lead us to react, or to “act impulsively”, for this reason it is important to take it slow to get to know people and understand how they fit into our lives or if they are just present for teaching us something about ourselves that we haven’t perceived, and that we need to work on, in order to understand the situations we manifest in our lives, what happens to us (click here to read about knowledge).

Here are some perspectives that can contribute to our decision-making regarding our relationships:

  1. Do we feel that we don’t receive what we give? It is very common that we look for what we think we need on the outside, the thing is that outside we only find what we are inside. If people lie to us, let’s think to whom we lie (including our own selves), if people betray us, let’s ask ourselves who we have betrayed, if people don’t keep what they say, to whom we haven’t kept our word? We are used to prioritize some people and give them special treatment, and those people can show us, more easily, our actions and reactions with those we don’t consider a priority, the responsibility for what we feel, think and express is ours, we need to learn to decide with more awareness (click here to read about coherence).

  2. Do we induce the people we relate with to do what we want? We often create in our reality needs that keep us imprisoned to the idea of ​​power, so it is possible that we are attracting insecure people who are willing to seek our approval, by pleasing ourselves in everything we want (we must take special care with this in family relationships and when we raise children, because these attitudes can compromise their healthy development in the world). Using our power over others is to affirm that we’re not good enough to connect to people freely and allow them to give back what we give, because we perceive, consciously or unconsciously, that we usually give incoherence and lack of acceptance (click here to read about forgiveness).

For a long time I compared myself to other people and complained about my situation, I wanted people to know what I liked so they would please me in everything, but I realized that, despite having everything I thought I wanted, I wasn’t satisfied with anything, so I decided to work on myself by applying universal principles to my daily life, that assisted me in knowing myself better and understanding that only by increasing my personal power, by assuming responsibility for what I feel, think and express in a conscious way, I really feel more and more connected to myself and, consequently, calmer (click here to buy the eBook 7 Levels for Personal Empowerment). What do you do that allows you to be in peace?

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Forgiveness Special Edition

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It is necessary to break some paradigms about forgiveness, in order to understand it better and integrate it to our lives in an easy and effective way. Because of it, this article is focused on the action of forgiving, by going through the definition, break of paradigm, resignification, integration and application of forgiveness, integrally, in our lives.

The word forgive is defined as ceasing to feel resentment against someone. Integrating this definition to our personal experience, it is common that we perceive forgiveness as a superior way of relating to people or situations that, from our perspective, have hurt us. Now we are ready to break the paradigm of forgiving.

When we uderstand that comparisons, judgement and faults are part of a model that needs to be transformed for us to learn to relate in a more transparent, authentic, respectful and responsible way, to construct and remodel, sustainably, our planet, it’s necessary to break the paradigm that fogiveness makes us superior and resignify it as the integration of the ideia that we are responsible for choosing if something, efectively, affects us or hurts us.

Normally, we feel hurt when a situation doesn’t go as expected, but, the same way we can blame others for what they say or do, we are also able to take responsibility for the expectation we have created for us to feel well, accepted, loved, etc, and for allowing others to enter and stay in our lives. If we analize a little deeper, feeling hurt comes from a need of control, from the desire of controlling our lives, and the people and situations in it. Let’s see this steps that lead us to connect to a side of our human nature that lets us flow with our hearts:

  1. Seeing life as a constant learning: when we go into each situation, with all our senses, we can perceive elements that can lead us to a broader understanding of who we are.
  2. Being grateful for every minute of our lives: we can choose to see our lives as a miracle, be able to breathe or do what we do can always be a motive of gratitude and every lesson too, painful as they may seem, show us that we are more than we think (click here to read about gratitude).
  3. Putting into practice the exercices  to bring our minds to the present (click here to read the article about present mind), excercising the empowerment of beliefs (click here to read the article about beliefs) and accepting people and situations as they are.

INTEGRATING GUILT

Now we can approach guilt in order to understand how to integrate it in a way we can transform whatever has stopped being useful in our present.

Some of us has learnt to assume the reponsibility for other people well-being, from emotional to material. From this role many guilts emerge throughout our lives, since we try to please everyone to ensure harmony wherever we are and, if we feel we can’t, we blame ourselves for the consequences of our “faults”.

By definition, guilt is the fact of having committed a breach of conduct especially violating law and involving a penalty, but, is everything that happens someone’s fault?, what if we ALL learn to assume our responsibility, in every issue, and look together for the way of doing the necessary adjustment, for the next time ALL of us being responsible for the “good” consequences of our acts? (click here to read about resposibility)

Let’s integrate the guilt to channel it as a personal responsibility, in which each of us, consciously, assume that our decisions (or lack thereof, which are also decisions) have an impact on everything and everyone around us and construct more assertive consequences from each situation.

RELEASING CONTROL

As mentioned before, it is common to feel hurt when situations don’t go as we expect, or people don’t act the way we want. But, if, sometimes, even ourselves don’t act the way we thought we would, or don’t say what we thought we would, how could we expect something from others? This is the starting point for releasing control.

Thinking we have control over others is an illusion. It emerges from the idea that we are superior, in some way, or that we have more capacity, whether we are parents, teachers, bosses, leaders, elders, partners, lovers, etc., and that we inspire respect. This control relationships are based on the idea that every person that depends on us, whether physically, materially or emotionally, can be controlled by us, and, actually, we are only able to see whatever confirms that idea, that is just the manifestation of other people’s fears, and has nothing to do with respect. But, Are we able to perceive that each person is deciding according to their own fears and the position they decide to assume? (click here to read about respect)

So, do we really have control over something? The answer is Yes, over our own selves through self-knowledge. When we decide to release external control to allow us feeling within ourselves, we get to understand what really motivates us to express ourselves and live in a certin way. Where does our love for control come from?, from our own insecurities? When we know ourselves from within, we gain confidence, are aware of what we can do, understand and respect our boundaries, and that shows us that external control is not what we think. If we are able to feel good with ourselves, live enjoying what we like and express ourselves in the most objective way possible, what do we want to control others for?  

We can commit to having control over what we express, or don’t, how we nourish ourselves, the physical activity that we give to our bodies, to choose people with whom we feel most at ease, to create our environment and allow that what’s born from there flows, bringing learning and growth.

ACCEPTING THE TRUTH

Accepting the truth is what leads us to apply forgiveness in every area of our lives.

Accepting the truth requires a deep knowledge of our own selves. We all feel in a different way, express ourselves as a consequence of what we feel, integrated to a context, whether for, against it, or in a neutral way, and choose our path, althought, sometimes, we make decisions being incoherent to who we really are. What leads us to decide to go out with a comitted person?, or to work for a company that sells something we don’t buy?, or to stay away from our family in order to create another?, this kind of questions, answered frankly (without trying to create mental games that always makes us feel we are right), gives us a more objective vision of our own selves and what we want from our hearts.

When we assume the responsibility for what we express, feel and think, we connect to our truth, the one that shows to us that we are where we have taken ourselves, nobody is guilty, everything is just our responsibility. We allow contact to people, accept job offers, decide to keep certain things away and, now, we are just the result of every little decision we have made, so, do we want to continue where we are or not?. If the answer is “NO”, it is necessary to make decisions that lead us where we really want, in the most coherent way and accepting that not always what we have wanted is what is really aligned to our own truth.

Freeing ourselves from the fears and beliefs that have kept us away from everything that makes us flow and feel respected, we reconnect to ourselves to build a more coherent reality, more aligned to our true nature, the process may take time, but it is important that we dare to take the first step. It is necessary to connect to our inner voice, that voice that leads us to do what really integrates us, making us feel complete (click here to read about connecting to our heart)..

Let’s accept our truth and see the truth of everything and everyone blooming 🙂

ALIGNING OURSELVES TO OUR INNER VOICE

Our perspective about forgiveness expands itself when we understand that every single wound comes from expectations and needs, and that when we assume our responsibility, release control and accept the truth, we start living a reality in which we discover that the main reason for our wounds is the lack of personal connection, what leads us to construct a new way of relating, from self-respect (click here to read about building personal respect).

Our self is a powerful ally when we decide to integrate it as part of the integral being we are (click here to read the full article about integration of the self), but, while we try to “ignore” it, it continues being the opponent of our inner voice, the voice that compares us, either positively or negatively, to others, the voice that judge us, the voice that is afraid even taking chances, the voice that, when we question, is always giving us an answer that comes from our own preservation as separated individuals.

When we exercise focusing our Self to know ourselves better, our thoughts start getting used to talk about our own selves avoiding judgement, comparisson and guilt, at that moment we start feeling our inner voice, the one that accepts us the way we are and shows us the most appropriate way of constructing in every sigle moment of our lives. One super useful question to check the origin of each thought is: Is this only for my well-being or it also contributes to the well-being of everything and everyone? With time, our Self learns how to flow with our hearts and the inner voice starts aligning and focusing on what makes us flow, and we enjoy, that cause a coherent and constructive impact on ourselves and everything around (click here to read about identifying what is from the heart).

Listening to our inner voice is truly trusting ourselves, understanding that we are always in accompanied, that there are infinite ways of relating to ourselves, and to the world, and that we can always decide to flow along with our hearts (click here to read about transforming our humanity).

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Ángel

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Understanding Polarities as Personal Experiences

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On this planet we experience many things, among them polarities. We perceive different people and situations that make us think we can not be one way or another, but, is it serious or just a story we tell for us to feel better with ourselves in the social context we’re in that indicates a specific path?

In order to continue, it is necessary to answer the following questions to ourselves:

  1. Are we as good or bad as we think?
  2. Have we ever wished evil or good to someone?
  3. Have we ever been at times lazy or hard working?
  4. Have we ever felt sad or happy?

When we have the answer to those questions, we perceive that, along our lives, we have used polarities as resources, what makes us humans, since being good or bad is just a point of view from the context we live in, and, understanding this, is essential to adjust our personality to each moment of our lives.

Between each polarity we can have different degrees, now a little more, then a little less, and sometimes we even get to the extremes. Sometimes we insist on saying we are a certain way, but, actually, since birth we have transformed, to some degree, each of the existing polarities, for us to adapt ourselves to the environment in which we live in, the most harmonious way possible. We may have passed from moments of more smiles to more serious ones, from vices to abstinence, from limited relationships to free ones, from eating anything from hunger to being rigid with nutrition, etc.

Every moment of our lives has a change, either by action or reaction, and depends on us to recognize them so we can use it in a more assertive way. For example, if every time someone doesn’t do what we want, our reaction is to scream, when we realize that anger exists within us, we can look for a different way of channeling it, in this case we can reflect on why we have this expectation and look for an different way of doing things next time.

When we understand that is up to us to adjust the degree of polarity in every moment of our lives, we perceive that transformation is constant and that everyone of us can learn how to do it in a more conscious and constructive way, understanding what is behind every reaction.

We use the resources we have according to our cultural and family context, let’s be more comprehensive and share other perspectives, since only each one of us can connect to the appropriate measure of polarities in our own lives, by following our hearts, through integrity (click here to read about our connection to our hearts).

Let us remember that when we tend to one polarity we are feeding the other extreme, there is one because of the other to create harmony, and that, when we tend towards neutrality, the construction is more solid, because energy integrates and potentiates itself through the state flow.

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Ángel

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Conscious Children: 6 actions to harmonize our home

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We’re all children, sometimes we create bonds with new people in our lives who welcome us as family, others live the experience with our blood family, at the end we’re all children and being a child is to find a way of integrate to our parents through respect and love. Now that we know how to exercise respect (click here to read the text about respect) we can understand better what we can do as children every day.

Our parents share their experience and show us different ways of living. The fact of having them in our lives doesn’t mean we have to be like them but that we can learn from them and teach them (click here to read the text about differences). Family is a structure full of diversity in which, when applying acceptance and respect (click here to read the text about conscious respect), we are able to enrich our points of view to integrate them into our experience.

Let’s see some useful actions to harmonize family life by being more conscious children:

  1. Absorb the best from around avoiding judgement.
  2. Take resposibility for our lives, avoiding blame.
  3. Colaborate with harmony and maintenance of home.
  4. Establish and respect space and boundaries (click here to read the text about boundaries).
  5. Be open to communication.
  6. Thank for being in Family.

In our home we can, in a more relaxed way, learn to live by pleasure, with no obligation. When we empower ourselves of home we discover the importance of teamwork. As children we must understand that we are all different and in order to work on family challenges it’s important that we learn to communicate. Usually, parents give their best from their experience, although in the eyes of some it seems the opposite. Neither the children, nor the parents have manuals, for this reason it’s important to create a healthy space for communication in which the points of view can be expressed in an environment of acceptance and respect.

I decide to be an active part of the harmony and maintenance of my own home right here and right now. What about you?

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Ángel

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3 questions to transform our self-relationship

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Relationships are as simple as we want to see them. It’s important that the first relationship we analize in order to have better relationships is the one with our own selves. Relationships we have with people depend on our worth and the boundries we set. (click here to read the text about setting boundaries)

Let’s make some questions to answer them consciously to ourselves.

  1. How do I treat myself when something doesn’t go as planned?
  2. Do I accept myself or try to be what everybody wnats from me?
  3. Do I take the responsibility of my life and my decisions? (click here to read the text about deciding by conviction)

It’s important to understand that is with our own selves that we have to exercise every aspect we feel is missing in our lives. What we expect from others must be something we can give, giving and receiving is very important to keep the harmony in relationships.

When we start to work our patience, acceptance, discipline and responsibility from our own selves, we feel more complete and comfortable.

By changing the focus, and integrating the outside with the inside, we understand the importance of making every decision of our lives with the graeatest calm and certainty possible (click here to read the text about polarities as learning). This way, our relationships with the world transform themselves, we understand that each one of us needs to be completely responsible for ourselves so we can live in a more thoughtful way.

After a long time of giving up on my responsability I decided to take it all back and I really feel very empowered (click here to buy the eBook 7 Levels for Personal Empowerment), I accept and know myself better and I really know what I want, so I direct my energy to construct the life I desire in society. What about you?

Remember to share this post with your friends and tell us your own story on the comments. How do you live your self-relationship?

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Ángel

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Forgiveness Part 4: Accepting the Truth

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Through this series we have seen forgiveness from another point of view, integrated guilt and control, now is necessary to understand about accepting the truth, since that is what leads us to apply forgiveness in every area of our lives.

Accepting the truth requires a deep knowledge of our own selves. We all feel in a different way, express ourselves as a consequence of what we feel integrated in a context, whether for or against it, and choose our path, althought, sometimes, we make decisions being incoherent to who we really are. What leads us to decide to go out with a comitted person?, or to work for a company that sells something we do not buy?, or to stay away from our family in order to create another?, this kind of questions, answered frankly (without trying to create mental games that always makes us feel we are right), gives us a more objective vision of our own selves and what we want from our hearts.

When we assume the responsibility for what we express, feel and think, we connect to our truth, the one that shows to us that we are where we have taken ourselves, nobody is guilty, everything is just our responsibility. We let contact to people, accept job offers, decide to keep away certain things and, now, we are just the result of every little decision we have made, so, do we want to continue where we are or not?. If the answer is “NO”, it is necessary to make decisions that lead us where we really want, in the most coherent way and accepting that not always what we have wanted is what is really aligned to our own truth.

Freeing ourselves from the fears and beliefs that have kept us away from everything that makes us flow and feel respected, we reconnect to ourselves to build a more coherent reality, more aligned to our true nature, the process may take time, but it is important that we dareto take the first step. And, to close this week series, it is necessary to connect to our inner voice, that voice that leads us to do what really integrates us and ourselves, making us feel complete.

Let’s accept our truth and see the truth of everything and everyone blooming 🙂

Love,
Ángel

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