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Deciding by Conviction

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In this last week, I’ve been present in situations in which I’ve perceived that we need to connect with what we are, and how we are, in the current moment, and understand it as a personal result of our own decisions. What would happen if at this moment appears someone who knows our deepest desires and offers us the perfect idea to make them come true? Would we accept anyway, or would we evaluate if the idea is aligned to our values, principles and heart (click here to read about connecting to our hearts)? Would we reflect on the Real benefit that brings to the environment, or we convince ourselves, with our own mind, that, if it makes me happy makes the world happy? 

We are at a time when we have much more information available about what we need and, therefore, we can decide more consciously (click here to read about constructing consciously). It is also essential that we feel ourselves, because, within, we can find answers that only we are able to feel inside, that nobody else can perceive. Let’s think about a moment when we had to decide about something and, thinking about accepting it, everything felt chaotic within, our body shouted “NOOO” and our mind and desires shouted “YEEEEEES”; this is our inside information and it is necessary that we consider it and integrate it, coherently, with external information, to decide accordingly (click here to read about coherence). 

We can choose to make the appropriate decision for us within the environment we’re in, respecting our limits and the limits of others, respecting the environment and the laws of the place we live in. Remember that EVERYTHING, WHAT WE FEEL, THINK, SAY, AND DO, HAS AN INTERNAL AND EXTERNAL IMPACT, so, are we willing to make decisions that, constructively and sustainably, impact ourselves and everything around us?

Everything in life requires a construction, what works for some doesn’t work for others, that is why it is very important that we learn through our own experience. We can do it by applying what we learn from others, or by integrating the information we receive into what already works for ourselves. Let’s ask ourselves this: In the long term, what people tell us to do has a sustainable development and a positive impact on us, our family, society and the planet? To get to this answer we would need to know, transparently and integrally, the life of the person who applies it, and we don’t have that information, so, what if we begin by accepting who we are and where we are, recognizing what we have done in our own lives that has worked out and transform what is not into learning to create our own way of doing things (click here to read about transparency)?

This reflection comes from my feeling of unity, of what I live and what I perceive. I am convinced that by being more conscious and coherent, from within, we are able to express awareness and coherence in the planet we live in. We can choose, I choose to decide in a constructive, sustainable and coherent way for a more human society. By internalizing what we receive, we find the answers we need.

Love,
Ángel

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Reflections on Relationships: Special Edition

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There is a very common issue when there is lack of self-knowledge. injustice, both in professional and in personal life. In the workplace is presented above all in the recognition from the personal perspective of every person, since what is perceived is the inequality of remuneration in relation to the effort of work, and what we call “bootlicking” in the USA. In personal life it can happen in our family, couple or friendships, it is also the perception that what we do is not enough for people, who increasingly demand more of ourselves and don’t recognize our “effort” (I put the word effort in quotation marks because that is what we do when we try to seek external approval, which is not necessary when we begin to guide ourselves through internal approval – click here to read the full article on Internal Approval in 3 steps).

Connected to the concept of injustice, generally, there is power over others. At work, in some cases, people who hold higher positions are people who use their personal power to manipulate everyone and everything around them, and that is one of the reasons to get to that position (besides the power they have due to knowledge and experience they may have), obviously if our desire is to exercise our personal power over ourselves we somehow don’t fit into a position that requires doing that, right? In other types of relationships we find people who want to have control over others and don’t let them be themselves (take care, those people may be ourselves), here we find grandparents, parents, children, brothers, couples, friends, who want everything done its own way and, when this is not done, they use fear as a manipulation tool to gain control.

Have we felt identified with any of these situations? If the answer is “YES”, let’s continue reading this special edition about reflections, so we can find an assertive way to get out of this situation and create new opportunities in our life based on personal decisions made by conviction (click here to read the article on decide by conviction).

WORKPLACE

How can we act in a more assertive way when facing situations we consider unfair in our workplace? The main issue in this situation is that we understand that it is our decision to be where we are, the reasons may be fears or convictions, but we are always the ones who decide to be where we are, and we usually have something to learn from there.

I’ve heard many people complaining about the injustice of people who hold important positions doing less than them but I have also noticed that many of those people who complain seem to work a lot, because sometimes they’re just not in the area which they have talent for, so, doing the same as the others require much more time and effort. Has this happened to you? We can easily perceive it when we do something that we don’t like, for example, I don’t like cooking alone, and when I do it I spend more time cooking something than the person who likes it, and also doesn’t end up as delicious, is like something is missing. This is what happens, we need to know ourselves better to work on something we have talent for and we can flow along with, that prevents us from perceiving the situation of the ascension of someone, who apparently works less, as an injustice.

Now, if after broadening our perspective, we still perceive that there is injustice, it is time to look for a place to work that is more compatible with our principles. It is important that we are sure about what we want to be able to set the boundaries within to look for the appropriate job in a company compatible with ourselves (click here to read the article about setting boundaries). We need to trust enough in ourselves to be able to accept what we deserve (click here to read about what we deserve), as well as understand our needs in all aspects of our lives, which can often be simpler than they seem and open possibilities for us to work in areas that would fit in a reality of extreme needs not so necessary (click here to read the article on identification of needs).

Here we have some perspectives that can contribute to our decision making regarding our work life:

  1. Do we feel that we have to work hard to achieve small things? Perceiving the moments in our own lives in which we feel that we do what we like and it allows us to flow, we realize that this is when we forget the time and energy we are dedicating to it. So, if we do something that doesn’t allow us to flow, that tires us and makes us feel that we have to make an effort to do it, we need to evaluate other possibilities to monetize what we do from our integrated personal talents. What is it that we find easy to do, and w]that we like doing, that contributes to the construction of a more integral humanity, and how can we monetize that in order to live where we are?

  2. Are the material needs we have really necessary? Many times we create in our reality needs that keep us prisoners to something that we don’t like in our work environment, when we perceive that we need less than what we thought, we are able to advance in our personal life, because we build with more calm and satisfaction our material life through our own talents.

In my 7 years of working life, I have learned that I can do everything that I set out to do, but that sometimes requires doing things that are not aligned with my values ​​and principles, so I’ve decided that I prefer to flow along with what I do more easily, that is why I write and assist people in their own processes, so I feel that I’m more consistent to myself and that I can connect more genuinely with everyone and everything around me. I have time for myself and for the things and people that are a priority in my life. Today I’m totally sure about the fact that I don’t need everything I wanted, and I appreciate what comes into my life to build what I really want from the heart, which is manifested in my present. What you do allows you to be in peace in every area of your life?

PERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS

We can live in injustice in any kind of relationship, especially when we are unfair to ourselves (we don’t respect our principles, our tastes, our time and we prioritize satisfying others’) or when, due to fear of being alone, or being rejected, we create a character that is not necessary (whatever our nature, we can find compatible people to relate with).

There’s a lot of abuse of power and injustice in relationships, be it sexism or the idea that one of the parties must take control of the relationship, and the previous options only build relationships based on fear that end up in a routine, because the spontaneity and the transparency in the interactions are completely lost. If we need to assume or delegate power in any kind of relationship we should review our lack of acceptance, because, when we fully accept ourselves, we perceive the importance of personal empowerment (click here to read about personal empowerment), each one of us is unique and when we manage to integrate our personal power with that of other people we build solid foundation based on truth and transparency, a solid way to construct in a sustainable way (click here to read the article on constructive relationships).

We often go into relationships based on emotions that lead us to react, or to “act impulsively”, for this reason it is important to take it slow to get to know people and understand how they fit into our lives or if they are just present for teaching us something about ourselves that we haven’t perceived, and that we need to work on, in order to understand the situations we manifest in our lives, what happens to us (click here to read about knowledge).

Here are some perspectives that can contribute to our decision-making regarding our relationships:

  1. Do we feel that we don’t receive what we give? It is very common that we look for what we think we need on the outside, the thing is that outside we only find what we are inside. If people lie to us, let’s think to whom we lie (including our own selves), if people betray us, let’s ask ourselves who we have betrayed, if people don’t keep what they say, to whom we haven’t kept our word? We are used to prioritize some people and give them special treatment, and those people can show us, more easily, our actions and reactions with those we don’t consider a priority, the responsibility for what we feel, think and express is ours, we need to learn to decide with more awareness (click here to read about coherence).

  2. Do we induce the people we relate with to do what we want? We often create in our reality needs that keep us imprisoned to the idea of ​​power, so it is possible that we are attracting insecure people who are willing to seek our approval, by pleasing ourselves in everything we want (we must take special care with this in family relationships and when we raise children, because these attitudes can compromise their healthy development in the world). Using our power over others is to affirm that we’re not good enough to connect to people freely and allow them to give back what we give, because we perceive, consciously or unconsciously, that we usually give incoherence and lack of acceptance (click here to read about forgiveness).

For a long time I compared myself to other people and complained about my situation, I wanted people to know what I liked so they would please me in everything, but I realized that, despite having everything I thought I wanted, I wasn’t satisfied with anything, so I decided to work on myself by applying universal principles to my daily life, that assisted me in knowing myself better and understanding that only by increasing my personal power, by assuming responsibility for what I feel, think and express in a conscious way, I really feel more and more connected to myself and, consequently, calmer (click here to buy the eBook 7 Levels for Personal Empowerment). What do you do that allows you to be in peace?

Love,
Ángel

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What Do We Deserve?

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Learning to follow our hearts (click here to read about connecting to our hearts) is one of the most effective ways for us to understand that we are worth it the way we truly are and that, if we decide to be integrated and complete in our present, that is the minimum we deserve to live, it is from here that we begin to prioritize, in a more appropriate way for us, the activities and people in our lives.

Some of our beliefs make us accept crumbs of life because we feel in some way that is what we give, this is why we need to learn more about ourselves and invest in the development of our human skills as a whole, from the way in which we relate to ourselves, as a basis, until the way we give the most appropriate to us in each moment we live. Let’s see situations that can be presented to us in which we can choose a more integral path for ourselves:

  1. Do we depend on people doing what we want them to do? It is more common than we think, it occurs mainly in power relationships in which we need to feel that we dominate the other person to feel safe. We need to learn to be self-sufficient and to know ourselves so well that we know what we can really do, and so understand what others can give too. We all have our talents and we can construct together, but not delegate responsibility for everything we want and need, each of us must play a part. This way, we have more constructive relationships and we leave emotional dependence aside to construct more integral relationships.

  2. Do we consider we do not receive what we give? Let’s check the reasons that lead us to give, because we often believe something is best for the other person without considering what the person experience. We can only really know what is most appropriate for us, let’s give more attention to what we can work on ourselves and listen more to others, avoiding our automatic answers.

  3. Do we say YES to satisfy others? life is made of moments, saying yes to everything without asking ourselves if that is what is really necessary for us to build what we want in our lives, is to say that we deserve whatever appears, let’s evaluate better and decide according to our own principles and projects, let’s respect ourselves (click here to read about learning to say “NO”).

  4. Are we interested in someone who is in a relationship? this case can happen, so, before we try to convince ourselves through our beliefs, or personal or other’s experiences, that it is right to get in the middle of a relationship, let’s think about how we would like our relationship to be and if what we are going to do we would like to experience, if we were the other person of the couple. Any action, or reaction, has its effect, so, even if we think we are immune, it is necessary to evaluate each step we want to take.

  5. Do we work because of love or needs? the fears that we lack resources, or that our talents are not paid if we use them by ourselves (or that will take a long time for giving us return), or the need to become millionaires because we think that we will be happy, or because we think that only money leads to success, these are some of the reasons that can keep us in a life ruled by money that doesn’t even make us feel satisfied, but at least it makes us feel material security. Let’s question our priorities in life, do we work in a place that respects people, the environment, that has principles ​​aligned to ours as humans? What would we do if we had one last day of life, we would go to work in that company? Here we need to integrate everything with what we flow and put it into the context we find ourselves in. Remember that success is the happy result of an act, therefore, to walk over ourselves, our principles and others (however well mentally justified it may seem), is not succeeding, let’s evaluate our actions in a more conscious way.

We deserve an integral present, aligned to our principles ​​and to the respect and love we have for ourselves, so let’s evaluate the options that are presented to us, all that makes us doubt let’s evaluate it even better, let’s trust more in ourselves, and in our capacities, and we will see a new reality opening up before us (click here to read about how to decide by conviction)

Love,
Ángel

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Contributing Vs. Helping

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Reflecting on the way we express ourselves is essential when we seek the transformation of patterns in our reality, that’s why I share the analysis of two words that, despite being synonyms, have a different essence that makes the difference between the intention behind of our actions.

When we pay attention to the way in which we use the word “help”, we realize that we start from the base that who needs to be helped lacks something, for this reason, lately, I’ve decided to use the word “contribute”, because it means giving the part that corresponds to us where we are, this way we understand that we all have what is necessary to do what corresponds to us, as a cell we must take responsibility for our function, working together with the other cells that have their way and appropriate measure of contribution.

Our experience as social individuals can be approached from many perspectives, we’ve been so long focusing our energy on beliefs such as inequality (inferiority/superiority) and emotions as pity, it’s time for us to open our hearts and connect with our truth, in order to realize that we are all capable beings and responsible for our own existence, that we only need to channel our efforts into our personal talents focused on a common purpose of building from our heart.

From now on we can choose the most conscious way of contributing, of giving what corresponds to us and receiving with gratitude what corresponds to each cell of this great organism, this way, the functioning becomes more efficient, because the flow of energy increases and allows us to act as a team, in which we know our own responsibility and do our part with conviction.

Let’s remember that our society is a reflection of who we are, a more society with integrity depends on the integrity of each one of us, from every little detail.

Love,
Ángel

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What do we Blame For, if we are Responsible?

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One of the main motives by which we blame others for what happen, besides the intention of destroying, is ignoring that the responsibility is totally ours, we decide every step we take, whether impulsive and unconsciously, or active and consciously.

If we are in a certain place, with certain peopla, living certain experiences, is because we’ve decided it that way. Some times we’ve got to think that there were any other option, but, the reality is that we don’t perceive the possibilities when we are focused on something and want to get it anyway, but “THE END DOESN’T JUSTIFY THE MEANS” respect (click here to read the text about respect), transparency and coherence (click here to read the text about coherence) must be the main ingredients of each one of our decisions, if we really want to live in a society that constructs itself through integrity and from our differences (click here to read the text about constructing peace through consiousness).

Blaming someone for what happens to us is a way of ignoring something we need to learn about ourselves and judging others, these habits destruct our relationships with ourselves and with the world around us, so, for this reason, it’s necessary to transform our reactions into constructive actions, in a conscious way. Let’s see some actions that can be useful for this purpose:

  1. Before blaming, let’s think about the decisions which have led us to the present moment: from a haircut, to buying a house, is necessary to understand the motive of every step we’ve taken, what motivates the action, what we think, feel and say about the situation and what we can learn from it.
  2. Let’s focus on talking about what we’ve done and what we could do differently: by talking about our own process we get to listen to ourselves and to assess, in an objective way, what could lead ourselves to manifest a different result, really knowing our talents and recognizing that which we don’t have ability for, in order to join to people that strengthen and enhance what we already are.
  3. Let’s question the purpose that has guided us, to act the way he’ve acted, and transform it if we feel that is being desrespectful, liar and incoherent to our own nature: many purposes in our lives have been created to satisfy necessities, of others or our own, that keep ourselves away from who we are. Understanding better what we do from ou hearts we get to align our feelings, thoughts, words and actions to reconnect to ourselves and act in the most approppriate way for the context we’ve decided to experience.

Let’s remember that we are totally responsible for what we experience in our lives, that our decisions construct our path and that the more conscious we are about the peace we want to construct, the easier it is to construct it in every area of our lives (click here to read the text about constructing peace).

Love,
Ángel

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