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A society in which we know how to give the appropriate to ourselves, transmits to its individuals the importance of the personal connection to peace, in order to build peace with every decision (click here to read about construction of peace).

Beyond what we know with our mind according to a mental classification, there is what we feel within in every moment. We can simplify our decisions to the peace we feel with each one of them, this leads us to find our appropriate measure in the present (click here to read about decision making).

From peace we perceive that there are people who we have a purpose of construction from integrity with, and that we are free to give and receive just what’s appropriate for it (click here to read about purpose of relationships).

Our relationships from peace are based on the respect for the personal construction of every being and the confidence that all of us make the appropriate decisions according to our moment (click here to read about the manifestation of our relationships).

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ENERGIZING: Present Construction

It’s always time to broaden our perception and know more about our own energetic processes, since, only who knows their own energy can make the most appropriate decisions to construct from their inner peace.

I’ve written this book during my own process of identifying what truly energizes me in the present and that, consequently, lead me to invest my energy the most appropriate way possible from my purpose of contributing as a social individual from my peace.

On these 18 pages, we find information we can integrate to become more conscious about our own energy, from our emotions to our nutrition.

By remembering that each of our decisions construct our destiny, we understand the importance of making decisions aligned to our peace, this way we all construct the world peace we want.

Freedom

Freedom is part of us since we are born. We are free to construct our own life, and, in order to do this, it is essential that we know the impact that our thoughts, feelings and expression from our intention have.

When something happens in our lives, and we understand it as a consequence of our decisions, we get to learn how to recognize our motivations and to adjust them to construct what we want from our peace.

Constructing from our peace, allows us to learn at our own pace what’s aligned to our life, and transforms our relationship to ourselves and to the world, since we understand that each one of us has the freedom of choosing this option of construction and making appropriate decisions from their peace in the present.

The freedom of being who we truly are is essential to transform society, since we perceive the importance of focusing on constructing more sustainable lives in every aspect.

Decision Making

Everything in our life demands a construction through different integrated processes, that’s why, decision making is essential, since we decide every single moment about everything, therefore, each decision is part of a complete construction. A more conscious decision making to construct peace, starts with a simple decision: We decide to connect outside to everything that corresponds to our peace inside. When we are conscious of the fact that from the simplest decision, like getting up or laying down, to the most complex, like moving to another country, is constantly building what we experience in our reality, we perceive the importance of truly knowing what resonates with our inner peace. Lately, I’ve decided to make every decision in the present. This has changed a lot the way I relate to myself and to the world, since every moment depends on my peace, on whatever I’m prepared for from my own wisdom. What, in this moment, can be a NO, within 5 minutes of reflection can turn into a YES, and what can be a YES in this moment, in a second can be a NO, since, besides being prepared, everything has an appropriate time to be expressed. For us, who want to construct a world in peace, this tips are a way of connecting ourselves to the present and deciding according to that inner peace we want to express on Earth:
  1. In order to identify how we feel peace within, we close our eyes and think of peace. We perceive how we feel, how our body feels like. This is our personal state of peace, an appropriate compass to express our inner peace and construct external peace.
  2. Every decision made, in each moment, from our peace, leads ourselves to the learning path to our own pace, so, knowing how we feel peace within, we can think about the available options and choose the one we feel peace with. If among the options there’s no one that makes us feel peace, we can take some time to think about it and perceive other options.
  3. Our mind and our expression can also be aligned to the peace we feel, therefore, by perceiving how we feel when we think or express something, we can start to implement other ways of thinking and expressing.
Only we know what’s appropriate for us, since only we can feel the affinity we have with our options in the present moment. By assuming the responsibility for the decision making in every moment, we perceive that we can contribute, in an assertive way, to the construction of a society in peace and sustainable. Everything is in constant transformation, that’s why, it is essential to keep a present connection to our peace. When we make all of our decisions from our feeling of peace, we perceive other possibilities that connect our reality to our inner peace.

Growing Through Recreation

When we focus on constructing from our peace, recreation is an essential aspect, since it is the way of integrating all the areas of our life into our own purpose of peace. It is time to learn more about our personal way of constructing what makes ourselves flow. It`s as simple as living in our own present and making decisions from our peace in every moment. This means, we are so conscious and connected to our essence, that we trust in every decision we make from peace for constructing an integral life. We can decide living our life as a whole, where our personal and professional areas become one, since we allow our essence to be the foundation of everything and express our authenticity. This way, time is experienced in a different way, we just understand that our personal area contributes to our professional area, and that our professional area also contributes to our personal area, so planning becomes dispensable and every moment is time to recreate ourselves and enjoy life. Information we get through conversations, movies, books, music, or any other source, can be used for recreating everything we construct from our purpose of peace. This makes us feel that we are always building a world of peace, with each decision we make.

Essential Autonomy

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One of the essential aspects we should integrate to our experience, in order to increase our personal confidence, is autonomy, since, as we understand who we truly are, and how to put that into context, we perceive that the construction of our lives totally depends on the level of commitment that we have with ourselves as social individuals.

Each one of us has a different level of autonomy in every area of our lives, from emotional to material, that must be adjusted as we advance in our path, since, above all, as part of society, it is essential to develop our autonomy in order to make decisions from our integrity, for constructing more efficient social models.

From our own experience, the following aspects need more autonomy to be developed and integrated as essential elements of our authenticity, since they build a self-confidence of solid foundation, that allows us to continue constructing from the certainty of our personal contribution:

  1. Personal Talents: we are all born with different abilities which can be potentiated, in several ways, through our own experience, when we recognize, integrate and put them into the social context, we can contribute in different areas that have the same purpose in common (click here to read about purpose).

  2. Coherent Expression: the more coherence there is between what we think, feel and express, the more energy focused on our purpose of peace we have (click here to read about the construction of peace).

As social individuals, it is essential that we cultivate the autonomy of building our authenticity, integrated to the social context we’re in, when we all contribute from our inner peace, thanks to total acceptance and integration, society reflects our integrity.

Love,
Ángel

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Activating Our Purpose Mode

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It is common to find people judging others for their vices, especially when we talk about substances such as alcohol and drugs, but are we aware of our own vices? Since childhood we have vices, which sometimes we are not aware of, and, as we grow, we strengthen or create others, something that seems common, such as speaking badly or well about people, thinking pessimistically or optimistically, consume food with or without nutritional consciousness, being manipulative or submissive, all these examples are extremes of vices that we may have and that may, or may not, be constructive and sustainable in the place we live, but at a certain moment can become destructive and unsustainable, especially when, from our personal wisdom, we perceive that we can find an appropriate measure for everything in life, even more when we have a purpose (click here to read about harmony of energy).

Reflecting on the reason for our vices, I’ve perceived that our mental and emotional desires make us look for satisfaction in things that make us forget temporarily what we don’t know how to accept in our life, and what allows us to get off that emotional roaller coaster is having a purpose that integrates our whole life, that allows us to recognize our talents, work on them and integrate them into the context, which leads us to use our time and resources to build from our own feelings, thoughts and expression. To do this, we can consider these simple aspects:

  1. What we like: by using our time doing what we enjoy (especially in an independent way) we connect to our peace and to everything that is appropriate to our experience.

  2. What we do well: we all have different talents, what we do well and find easy and interesting, compared to other areas, expresses a lot about ourselves and about how we can contribute to society.

  3. What people admire about us: we all have specific characteristics that others admire in us, if we don’t know what is exactly we can ask, especially to the people that know more about ourselves.

  4. What we want to transmit: by integrating the last 3 aspects we can find different creative ways of expressing ourselves in all the areas of our lives, assuming the responsibility for our own selves and for transmitting the desire of connection from respect and integrity (click here to read about transparency).

Let’s understand that, as people, we’re always an example that can be imitated. Then, we can live by constructing peace in all areas of our lives based on self-knowledge, integrity, transparency and coherence, as a purpose, so that we learn to make more conscious decisions from our peace (click here to read about how to decide from our peace) to construct from the differences.

Love,
Ángel

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Deciding by Conviction

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In this last week, I’ve been present in situations in which I’ve perceived that we need to connect with what we are, and how we are, in the current moment, and understand it as a personal result of our own decisions. What would happen if at this moment appears someone who knows our deepest desires and offers us the perfect idea to make them come true? Would we accept anyway, or would we evaluate if the idea is aligned to our values, principles and heart (click here to read about connecting to our hearts)? Would we reflect on the Real benefit that brings to the environment, or we convince ourselves, with our own mind, that, if it makes me happy makes the world happy?

We are at a time when we have much more information available about what we need and, therefore, we can decide more consciously (click here to read about constructing consciously). It is also essential that we feel ourselves, because, within, we can find answers that only we are able to feel inside, that nobody else can perceive. Let’s think about a moment when we had to decide about something and, thinking about accepting it, everything felt chaotic within, our body shouted “NOOO” and our mind and desires shouted “YEEEEEES”; this is our inside information and it is necessary that we consider it and integrate it, coherently, with external information, to decide accordingly (click here to read about coherence).

We can choose to make the appropriate decision for us within the environment we’re in, respecting our limits and the limits of others, respecting the environment and the laws of the place we live in. Remember that EVERYTHING, WHAT WE FEEL, THINK, SAY, AND DO, HAS AN INTERNAL AND EXTERNAL IMPACT, so, are we willing to make decisions that, constructively and sustainably, impact ourselves and everything around us?

Everything in life requires a construction, what works for some doesn’t work for others, that is why it is very important that we learn through our own experience. We can do it by applying what we learn from others, or by integrating the information we receive into what already works for ourselves. Let’s ask ourselves this: In the long term, what people tell us to do has a sustainable development and a positive impact on us, our family, society and the planet? To get to this answer we would need to know, transparently and integrally, the life of the person who applies it, and we don’t have that information, so, what if we begin by accepting who we are and where we are, recognizing what we have done in our own lives that has worked out and transform what is not into learning to create our own way of doing things (click here to read about transparency)?

This reflection comes from my feeling of unity, of what I live and what I perceive. I am convinced that by being more conscious and coherent, from within, we are able to express awareness and coherence in the planet we live in. We can choose, I choose to decide in a constructive, sustainable and coherent way for a more human society. By internalizing what we receive, we find the answers we need.

Love,
Ángel

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We broke up, what now?

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A very common issue about relationships is the end itself, sometimes well defined, others not that much, but, at the end, they have in common the fact that they take us out from our comfort zone and makes us question ourselves about many things. But, what can we do when this happens in order to get used to the space left by the presence of the other? This is the subject today.

First of all, it is important that we have some time on our own to perceive, in an objective way, our relationship and the feelings we have had during our time together, since this can lead us to understand that we must make some adjustments in many aspects of our own selves, from deciding what we expect from a relationship to defining the main principles the relationship must have as the foundation, this is what takes us to decide, with more assertiveness, in which moment we can take the step into a new relationship.

After we find the reasons that have led us to our relationship, and the needs behind them, it is important to release what is no longer part of our construction, in many cases we expect to come back because we are not sure of what we want to construct, that is why it is so important that we learn to be clear and coherent to ourselves, so we can express our truth to others.

Finally, it is necessary to assume our responsability about everything that has happened, accept that, while we continue being the same, from our belief system and emotions, there is no way of keeping changes that please the other and that make us feel good in our own skin for long. We change from a deep necessity of being more aligned to our own moment, others may be an inspiration for our transformation, but we are the ones that decide when is time to do it, and if that lets us flow along with our own principles.

To finish, let’s see some steps that have turned out well for some people I know that have ended their relationships, and for me after breaking up a relationship of 9 years :

  1. Dedicating the time we would spend with the person to make something we enjoy doing by ourselves. In my case, writing has always been a moment of reconnection, that let me channel any emotion and even realize when I feel something I wasn’t conscious about before. Any activity we can use as a way of expressing ourselves can be useful for the process of gettin to know ourselves better.

  2. Allowing us to connect to different people from our friends and family to broaden our perspectives.

  3. Giving ourselves the time to do practically “NOTHING”, those moments without commitments in which we’re able to flow with our own company, open up ourselves to new possibilities.

  4. Defining what we want from a relationship is essential, since that allows us to make decisions out of conviction (click here to read about deciding by conviction) regarding the relationships we allow in our lives. In my case, in this moment I prioritize the freedom to be who I am, and to allow the others to be who they are, and the peace to build a relationship from integrity, transparency and respect, so I let my emotions flow to feel with my heart the purpose of each relationship (click here to read about connecting with the heart).

It is important to understand that the feeling we have constructed, for the person, remains, it always continues as a part of ourselves, but we simply know that we need to move forward transforming the limits of the relationship so we can continue our own work of self-knowledge and evolution (click here to read about sublimation of our mental, emotional, creative and sexual realities).

We always have the possibility of looking for different ways of relating to the world, we can choose living by being who we really are, with transparency and sincerity, and knowing people who choose this way too, since, this way, we can construct solid and enhancing foundation, in order to broaden authenticity in unity inside a society of integrity.

Love,
Ángel

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What Do We Deserve?

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Learning to follow our hearts (click here to read about connecting to our hearts) is one of the most effective ways for us to understand that we are worth it the way we truly are and that, if we decide to be integrated and complete in our present, that is the minimum we deserve to live, it is from here that we begin to prioritize, in a more appropriate way for us, the activities and people in our lives.

Some of our beliefs make us accept crumbs of life because we feel in some way that is what we give, this is why we need to learn more about ourselves and invest in the development of our human skills as a whole, from the way in which we relate to ourselves, as a basis, until the way we give the most appropriate to us in each moment we live. Let’s see situations that can be presented to us in which we can choose a more integral path for ourselves:

  1. Do we depend on people doing what we want them to do? It is more common than we think, it occurs mainly in power relationships in which we need to feel that we dominate the other person to feel safe. We need to learn to be self-sufficient and to know ourselves so well that we know what we can really do, and so understand what others can give too. We all have our talents and we can construct together, but not delegate responsibility for everything we want and need, each of us must play a part. This way, we have more constructive relationships and we leave emotional dependence aside to construct more integral relationships.

  2. Do we consider we do not receive what we give? Let’s check the reasons that lead us to give, because we often believe something is best for the other person without considering what the person experience. We can only really know what is most appropriate for us, let’s give more attention to what we can work on ourselves and listen more to others, avoiding our automatic answers.

  3. Do we say YES to satisfy others? life is made of moments, saying yes to everything without asking ourselves if that is what is really necessary for us to build what we want in our lives, is to say that we deserve whatever appears, let’s evaluate better and decide according to our own principles and projects, let’s respect ourselves (click here to read about learning to say “NO”).

  4. Are we interested in someone who is in a relationship? this case can happen, so, before we try to convince ourselves through our beliefs, or personal or other’s experiences, that it is right to get in the middle of a relationship, let’s think about how we would like our relationship to be and if what we are going to do we would like to experience, if we were the other person of the couple. Any action, or reaction, has its effect, so, even if we think we are immune, it is necessary to evaluate each step we want to take.

  5. Do we work because of love or needs? the fears that we lack resources, or that our talents are not paid if we use them by ourselves (or that will take a long time for giving us return), or the need to become millionaires because we think that we will be happy, or because we think that only money leads to success, these are some of the reasons that can keep us in a life ruled by money that doesn’t even make us feel satisfied, but at least it makes us feel material security. Let’s question our priorities in life, do we work in a place that respects people, the environment, that has principles aligned to ours as humans? What would we do if we had one last day of life, we would go to work in that company? Here we need to integrate everything with what we flow and put it into the context we find ourselves in. Remember that success is the happy result of an act, therefore, to walk over ourselves, our principles and others (however well mentally justified it may seem), is not succeeding, let’s evaluate our actions in a more conscious way.

We deserve an integral present, aligned to our principles and to the respect and love we have for ourselves, so let’s evaluate the options that are presented to us, all that makes us doubt let’s evaluate it even better, let’s trust more in ourselves, and in our capacities, and we will see a new reality opening up before us (click here to read about how to decide by conviction).

Love,
Ángel

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