Tag Archives: decision

Deciding by Conviction

Version en español

versão em portugues

In this last week, I’ve been present in situations in which I’ve perceived that we need to connect with what we are, and how we are, in the current moment, and understand it as a personal result of our own decisions. What would happen if at this moment appears someone who knows our deepest desires and offers us the perfect idea to make them come true? Would we accept anyway, or would we evaluate if the idea is aligned to our values, principles and heart (click here to read about connecting to our hearts)? Would we reflect on the Real benefit that brings to the environment, or we convince ourselves, with our own mind, that, if it makes me happy makes the world happy?

We are at a time when we have much more information available about what we need and, therefore, we can decide more consciously (click here to read about constructing consciously). It is also essential that we feel ourselves, because, within, we can find answers that only we are able to feel inside, that nobody else can perceive. Let’s think about a moment when we had to decide about something and, thinking about accepting it, everything felt chaotic within, our body shouted “NOOO” and our mind and desires shouted “YEEEEEES”; this is our inside information and it is necessary that we consider it and integrate it, coherently, with external information, to decide accordingly (click here to read about coherence).

We can choose to make the appropriate decision for us within the environment we’re in, respecting our limits and the limits of others, respecting the environment and the laws of the place we live in. Remember that EVERYTHING, WHAT WE FEEL, THINK, SAY, AND DO, HAS AN INTERNAL AND EXTERNAL IMPACT, so, are we willing to make decisions that, constructively and sustainably, impact ourselves and everything around us?

Everything in life requires a construction, what works for some doesn’t work for others, that is why it is very important that we learn through our own experience. We can do it by applying what we learn from others, or by integrating the information we receive into what already works for ourselves. Let’s ask ourselves this: In the long term, what people tell us to do has a sustainable development and a positive impact on us, our family, society and the planet? To get to this answer we would need to know, transparently and integrally, the life of the person who applies it, and we don’t have that information, so, what if we begin by accepting who we are and where we are, recognizing what we have done in our own lives that has worked out and transform what is not into learning to create our own way of doing things (click here to read about transparency)?

This reflection comes from my feeling of unity, of what I live and what I perceive. I am convinced that by being more conscious and coherent, from within, we are able to express awareness and coherence in the planet we live in. We can choose, I choose to decide in a constructive, sustainable and coherent way for a more human society. By internalizing what we receive, we find the answers we need.

Love,
Ángel

Version en español

versão em portugues

We broke up, what now?

Version en español

versão em portugues

A very common issue about relationships is the end itself, sometimes well defined, others not that much, but, at the end, they have in common the fact that they take us out from our comfort zone and makes us question ourselves about many things. But, what can we do when this happens in order to get used to the space left by the presence of the other? This is the subject today.

First of all, it is important that we have some time on our own to perceive, in an objective way, our relationship and the feelings we have had during our time together, since this can lead us to understand that we must make some adjustments in many aspects of our own selves, from deciding what we expect from a relationship to defining the main principles the relationship must have as the foundation, this is what takes us to decide, with more assertiveness, in which moment we can take the step into a new relationship.

After we find the reasons that have led us to our relationship, and the needs behind them, it is important to release what is no longer part of our construction, in many cases we expect to come back because we are not sure of what we want to construct, that is why it is so important that we learn to be clear and coherent to ourselves, so we can express our truth to others.

Finally, it is necessary to assume our responsability about everything that has happened, accept that, while we continue being the same, from our belief system and emotions, there is no way of keeping changes that please the other and that make us feel good in our own skin for long. We change from a deep necessity of being more aligned to our own moment, others may be an inspiration for our transformation, but we are the ones that decide when is time to do it, and if that lets us flow along with our own principles.

To finish, let’s see some steps that have turned out well for some people I know that have ended their relationships, and for me after breaking up a relationship of 9 years :

  1. Dedicating the time we would spend with the person to make something we enjoy doing by ourselves. In my case, writing has always been a moment of reconnection, that let me channel any emotion and even realize when I feel something I wasn’t conscious about before. Any activity we can use as a way of expressing ourselves can be useful for the process of gettin to know ourselves better.

  2. Allowing us to connect to different people from our friends and family to broaden our perspectives.

  3. Giving ourselves the time to do practically “NOTHING”, those moments without commitments in which we’re able to flow with our own company, open up ourselves to new possibilities.

  4. Defining what we want from a relationship is essential, since that allows us to make decisions out of conviction (click here to read about deciding by conviction) regarding the relationships we allow in our lives. In my case, in this moment I prioritize the freedom to be who I am, and to allow the others to be who they are, and the peace to build a relationship from integrity, transparency and respect, so I let my emotions flow to feel with my heart the purpose of each relationship (click here to read about connecting with the heart).

It is important to understand that the feeling we have constructed, for the person, remains, it always continues as a part of ourselves, but we simply know that we need to move forward transforming the limits of the relationship so we can continue our own work of self-knowledge and evolution (click here to read about sublimation of our mental, emotional, creative and sexual realities).

We always have the possibility of looking for different ways of relating to the world, we can choose living by being who we really are, with transparency and sincerity, and knowing people who choose this way too, since, this way, we can construct solid and enhancing foundation, in order to broaden authenticity in unity inside a society of integrity.

Love,
Ángel

Version en español

versão em portugues

Connecting Ourselves To Our Hearts

Version en español

versão em portugues

In the most recent article we’ve learned about how to sublimate our experience through our mental, creative, sexual and emotional worlds (click here to read about sublimation), and these issues are totally connected to our personal connection to our hearts.

Our heart is our guide, whenever we live in calm, we do what brings us peace, we concentrate on our talents and we remain in our own flow state, we feel naturally aligned to life itself. The moment our minds align to our true nature and desire, the ones that respects our own limits and dreams through the calm of our interactions, we live a more coherent life, because it is the moment of great satisfaction that exists as a consequence of the total acceptance of who we are. To learn through love it is necessary that we connect to our hearts and continue to put all our intention into it (thought, feeling and expression).

To connect to our hearts, it is important that we work on our own coherence to reach our personal self-sufficiency. Personal coherence is the consequence of a conscious evaluation of our heart’s desire, of what we really enjoy doing, to be able to integrate it into our present and our context, and to build solid foundations for our development in all areas of our life. Every moment and every step taken with more awareness and certainty, strengthens ourselves from the inside out, making our personal power to enhance, making us self-sufficient, through our own talent, and contributive to connect to other people’s talents in order to build a conscious and sustainable society.

Understanding that our reality lived from the heart is the appropriate measure between receptivity and activity in all areas of our life, we can ask ourselves the following questions to know ourselves a bit better and act accordingly:

  1. With what types of beings do we flow? With young people, with dogs, with plants, with children, with microscopic beings, with our family, with our couple, with our friends, etc. There are many options that we can consider to understand a little more about what we bring in our hearts as our main talent.

  2. What are the activities which we flow most during the day with? There are many activities we may flow with such as cooking, singing, cleaning, caring, writing, reading, traveling, etc. It is important that we really know what is that we really flow doing, those activities in which we lose the notion of time because we are totally connected to them, especially those integrated with the types of beings we flow the most with.

  3. What could we do to generate income and allow ourselves to flow? Here we need to integrate everything with what we flow and put it in the context in which we find ourselves. For example, if we flow more with children and making music we can start a music project for children in the park of our neighborhood, which according to our own experience can be expanded or remain where it was established. Remember that everything that makes us flow can be remunerated, because it is a service that we are providing through our talent, our passion and our investment of resources to strengthen them.

Our hearts only takes ourselves along the paths we know at all levels, where we are more aware of the terrain on which we tread, then whenever we have an important decision we can breathe deeply and think, calmly, about each of the options we have, the one that generates more peace of mind is the one we are prepared to face with all the consequences it may generate. Remember that even if we don’t know the laws, they apply at all times, then let’s look at the consequences that our reactions have generated throughout life (in the area of relationships with our partners, friends, family, colleagues, students, etc) and let’s know more about the laws of the place where we live, so we will make increasingly assertive and constructive decisions for ourselves.

Love,

Ángel

Version en español

versão em portugues

3 questions to transform our self-relationship

Version en español

versão em portugues

Relationships are as simple as we want to see them. It’s important that the first relationship we analize in order to have better relationships is the one with our own selves. Relationships we have with people depend on our worth and the boundries we set. (click here to read the text about setting boundaries)

Let’s make some questions to answer them consciously to ourselves.

  1. How do I treat myself when something doesn’t go as planned?
  2. Do I accept myself or try to be what everybody wnats from me?
  3. Do I take the responsibility of my life and my decisions? (click here to read the text about deciding by conviction)

It’s important to understand that is with our own selves that we have to exercise every aspect we feel is missing in our lives. What we expect from others must be something we can give, giving and receiving is very important to keep the harmony in relationships.

When we start to work our patience, acceptance, discipline and responsibility from our own selves, we feel more complete and comfortable.

By changing the focus, and integrating the outside with the inside, we understand the importance of making every decision of our lives with the graeatest calm and certainty possible (click here to read the text about polarities as learning). This way, our relationships with the world transform themselves, we understand that each one of us needs to be completely responsible for ourselves so we can live in a more thoughtful way.

After a long time of giving up on my responsability I decided to take it all back and I really feel very empowered (click here to buy the eBook 7 Levels for Personal Empowerment), I accept and know myself better and I really know what I want, so I direct my energy to construct the life I desire in society. What about you?

Remember to share this post with your friends and tell us your own story on the comments. How do you live your self-relationship?

Love,
Ángel

Version en español

versão em portugues