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Family

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It is essential to understand the definition of certain words, in order to experience their meaning as it truly is, this can transform us and connect ourselves mentally to our peace.

According to the definition of the Cambridge Dictionary, family is a large group of related types of animal or plant. By, literally, taking this definition, we can understand that we are all family, since we are all human.

I’ve known many situations of people that know each other just a little, but they feel home together, that have a very deep connection with people, they couldn’t even imagine they could relate to, through high levels of mental, sentimental and physical intimacy, and that have understood that we are all family.

In order to potentiate our peace, we must learn how to decide in the present whatever is more appropriate to our construction from integrity, this includes all kinds of relationships. There, where we feel free to express ourselves from our hearts, is where we must invest our energy.

Love,
Ángel

Building solidly, integrating our essence

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For me, it has been a great discovery to perceive that not everything that seems “good” really comes from the heart or is the most appropriate for me. During our life we’ve been used to make judgments about everything we perceive, and we generally say that someone has a good heart because, apparently, they help the world, people or animals, selflessly, and that, has become fashionable also in business, then, when someone wants to have a highlight, to be perceived as someone with a good heart, makes charity in a “disinterested” way, but, does that really come from the heart or is something built by the mind from the judgments that are in society?

We are all born with the potential to be what we want, from the worst person to the best (from any of the perceptions of society), everything depends on where we are going to direct our energy (thoughts, feelings and expression), for, any side that we choose, our mind is armed with reasons to justify that what we do is right, and others must follow us because they are wrong, but, in reality, each of us is on the appropriate way to learn, in some way, what we need. We exist to constantly learn, when we don’t do it, we suffer, but, what if we decide to learn with ourselves from now on?

To build something with solid foundation, it is necessary to start with self-knowledge. When we focus our energy on something we don’t like or we’re not good at, at some point what we have built is destroyed, because only real confidence in ourselves, in our abiliities and in our own talents, leads us to make more assertive decisions and build from our own foundation. Let’s see some important points to construct solidly:

  1. DESIRES: Throughout our lives, we create many desires that come from the mind, from our attachment to material things and people, to compare ourselves to others. All this leads us to channel our energy where people tell us we can have better results, often without caring for ourselves or others, sometimes even ignoring law itself, and, there, we spend our lives in what we think we need to be happy. It is important to remember that fullness is in the present moment, and that the desire of the heart (click here to read about connecting to our hearts) leads us to act here and now, taking firm and sure steps to construct from our talents and integrated gifts. We must be the owners of our own desires and learn to give them shape every minute, with every thought, with every feeling, with every word, with every action and with every gesture. Our desires are never too big or small, so, it is important that we learn to live more authentically, to love and integrate what we are.

  2. COHERENCE: From our relationship with ourselves, passing through the relationship we have with our family and with the environment we live in, it is important that we are aware of what we need to relate with respect and transparency (click here to read about transparency). Let’s exercise coherence between what we think, feel and express, so we can really be coherent and bring that energy completely to all areas of our life that are really a priority for us.

  3. HELP: Actually nobody needs help (click here to read about helping vs. contributing), what we need is assistance in what we’re not specialists, to be able to construct. By dedicating ourselves to “helping” people who we believe need it, because they ask for it or because we believe they truly need it, we’re not giving assistance for them to build, but giving what they want to stay in their comfort zone, therefore, it is essential that we learn to know ourselves better and to connect to our hearts to be able to contribute with what’s truly aligned with who we really are.

Let’s begin to connect more lovingly to ourselves, the more we accept ourselves, the more assertive our decisions are, avoid judging what seems good or bad and let the heart takes us through the path of our tranquility, always respecting everything and everyone around us (click here to read about harmony of energy). To have a more conscious and transparent world, we don’t need to be the best, we just need to be the most whole version of ourselves.

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Love,
Ángel

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Approving ourselves from within in 3 steps

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As I’ve progressed in my own process of personal empowerment, I’ve perceived that there’s a very sensitive issue in the way we relate to the world: External Approval. Some of us learned that our success in life depends on external approval, on what others think of our lives, our projects, our relationships, and we forget a little about our own internal approval because we don’t know enough about ourselves to understand our own desires and limits.

Somehow, as I mentioned in the article about the Self (click here to read the full article), we all live in a context and we need to align, at least, our actions to the laws of the place where we are, as we are part of a collective, and, besides that, sometimes we find social expectations that make us think that we need to be or act in a certain way to succeed, but as we saw in the article “What do we deserve?” (click here to read full article) success is the happy result of an act, it’s simply achieving the results that are most appropriate for ourselves, it doesn’t, necessarily, imply getting married, having mansions, businesses, cars, children, it is as simple as living our present in the most authentic way possible through integrity, approving ourselves totally.

In order to follow our real path connected to our essence, it is essential to know ourselves at our best, because we are all different, each one of us has a similar structure but the connections with events, and the reactions to them vary, from what we consider pleasant to what we consider uncomfortable, that’s why we need to avoid that fanaticism of following a referential (click here to read about fanatism), because only we can connect ourselves to the most appropriate way to build our own reality and for this we really need to approve ourselves from the inside. We can apply these 3 steps to do so:

  1. STRENGTHENING OUR INTERNAL CONNECTION: For us to achieve this, it is necessary to give ourselves a space in the day to be alone, some moments in silence to feel and understand ourselves better, others doing something that we like and that we can do by ourselves. By creating this space in our day, we begin to perceive new things within that broaden our perception and allow us to question ourselves about what is in our life that needs to leave to make way for our present from our hearts (click here to read about connecting to our hearts).

  2. PRIORITIZING WHAT BRINGS US TRANQUILITY: As we move forward in our time alone, we realize what brings us peace of mind, those moments in which we feel that everything flows, when we work, sing, write, draw, play, etc. When we begin to prioritize these actions it is easier to perceive, in our life, what takes us out of our center and doesn’t bring us peace of mind, so we can decide accordingly in order to maintain an environment in which we feel in harmony and we can attract people who are in that same frequency to construct with them (click here to read about neutrality).

  3. BUILDING FROM OUR ESSENCE: Being clear in what we enjoy, we can begin to integrate other actions, alone or with people, that have the purpose of bringing harmony to our life based on our talents and our essence. The more we approve ourselves from what brings us tranquility in all areas of our lives, the more connected we are with people who vibrate that harmony, thus improving our relationships from the inside out (click here to read about elevating our experience).

Let’s know what allows us to flow and let’s love it enough so that approving ourselves is our only option. When we approve we are expressing that we trust in ourselves and, thus, we can make the most appropriate decisions for our own life. Do we fully approve ourselves?

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Love,
Ángel

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Forgiveness Special Edition

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It is necessary to break some paradigms about forgiveness, in order to understand it better and integrate it to our lives in an easy and effective way. Because of it, this article is focused on the action of forgiving, by going through the definition, break of paradigm, resignification, integration and application of forgiveness, integrally, in our lives.

The word forgive is defined as ceasing to feel resentment against someone. Integrating this definition to our personal experience, it is common that we perceive forgiveness as a superior way of relating to people or situations that, from our perspective, have hurt us. Now we are ready to break the paradigm of forgiving.

When we uderstand that comparisons, judgement and faults are part of a model that needs to be transformed for us to learn to relate in a more transparent, authentic, respectful and responsible way, to construct and remodel, sustainably, our planet, it’s necessary to break the paradigm that fogiveness makes us superior and resignify it as the integration of the ideia that we are responsible for choosing if something, efectively, affects us or hurts us.

Normally, we feel hurt when a situation doesn’t go as expected, but, the same way we can blame others for what they say or do, we are also able to take responsibility for the expectation we have created for us to feel well, accepted, loved, etc, and for allowing others to enter and stay in our lives. If we analize a little deeper, feeling hurt comes from a need of control, from the desire of controlling our lives, and the people and situations in it. Let’s see this steps that lead us to connect to a side of our human nature that lets us flow with our hearts:

  1. Seeing life as a constant learning: when we go into each situation, with all our senses, we can perceive elements that can lead us to a broader understanding of who we are.
  2. Being grateful for every minute of our lives: we can choose to see our lives as a miracle, be able to breathe or do what we do can always be a motive of gratitude and every lesson too, painful as they may seem, show us that we are more than we think (click here to read about gratitude).
  3. Putting into practice the exercices to bring our minds to the present (click here to read the article about present mind), excercising the empowerment of beliefs (click here to read the article about beliefs) and accepting people and situations as they are.

INTEGRATING GUILT

Now we can approach guilt in order to understand how to integrate it in a way we can transform whatever has stopped being useful in our present.

Some of us has learnt to assume the reponsibility for other people well-being, from emotional to material. From this role many guilts emerge throughout our lives, since we try to please everyone to ensure harmony wherever we are and, if we feel we can’t, we blame ourselves for the consequences of our “faults”.

By definition, guilt is the fact of having committed a breach of conduct especially violating law and involving a penalty, but, is everything that happens someone’s fault?, what if we ALL learn to assume our responsibility, in every issue, and look together for the way of doing the necessary adjustment, for the next time ALL of us being responsible for the “good” consequences of our acts? (click here to read about resposibility)

Let’s integrate the guilt to channel it as a personal responsibility, in which each of us, consciously, assume that our decisions (or lack thereof, which are also decisions) have an impact on everything and everyone around us and construct more assertive consequences from each situation.

RELEASING CONTROL

As mentioned before, it is common to feel hurt when situations don’t go as we expect, or people don’t act the way we want. But, if, sometimes, even ourselves don’t act the way we thought we would, or don’t say what we thought we would, how could we expect something from others? This is the starting point for releasing control.

Thinking we have control over others is an illusion. It emerges from the idea that we are superior, in some way, or that we have more capacity, whether we are parents, teachers, bosses, leaders, elders, partners, lovers, etc., and that we inspire respect. This control relationships are based on the idea that every person that depends on us, whether physically, materially or emotionally, can be controlled by us, and, actually, we are only able to see whatever confirms that idea, that is just the manifestation of other people’s fears, and has nothing to do with respect. But, Are we able to perceive that each person is deciding according to their own fears and the position they decide to assume? (click here to read about respect)

So, do we really have control over something? The answer is Yes, over our own selves through self-knowledge. When we decide to release external control to allow us feeling within ourselves, we get to understand what really motivates us to express ourselves and live in a certin way. Where does our love for control come from?, from our own insecurities? When we know ourselves from within, we gain confidence, are aware of what we can do, understand and respect our boundaries, and that shows us that external control is not what we think. If we are able to feel good with ourselves, live enjoying what we like and express ourselves in the most objective way possible, what do we want to control others for?

We can commit to having control over what we express, or don’t, how we nourish ourselves, the physical activity that we give to our bodies, to choose people with whom we feel most at ease, to create our environment and allow that what’s born from there flows, bringing learning and growth.

ACCEPTING THE TRUTH

Accepting the truth is what leads us to apply forgiveness in every area of our lives.

Accepting the truth requires a deep knowledge of our own selves. We all feel in a different way, express ourselves as a consequence of what we feel, integrated to a context, whether for, against it, or in a neutral way, and choose our path, althought, sometimes, we make decisions being incoherent to who we really are. What leads us to decide to go out with a comitted person?, or to work for a company that sells something we don’t buy?, or to stay away from our family in order to create another?, this kind of questions, answered frankly (without trying to create mental games that always makes us feel we are right), gives us a more objective vision of our own selves and what we want from our hearts.

When we assume the responsibility for what we express, feel and think, we connect to our truth, the one that shows to us that we are where we have taken ourselves, nobody is guilty, everything is just our responsibility. We allow contact to people, accept job offers, decide to keep certain things away and, now, we are just the result of every little decision we have made, so, do we want to continue where we are or not?. If the answer is “NO”, it is necessary to make decisions that lead us where we really want, in the most coherent way and accepting that not always what we have wanted is what is really aligned to our own truth.

Freeing ourselves from the fears and beliefs that have kept us away from everything that makes us flow and feel respected, we reconnect to ourselves to build a more coherent reality, more aligned to our true nature, the process may take time, but it is important that we dare to take the first step. It is necessary to connect to our inner voice, that voice that leads us to do what really integrates us, making us feel complete (click here to read about connecting to our heart)..

Let’s accept our truth and see the truth of everything and everyone blooming 🙂
ALIGNING OURSELVES TO OUR INNER VOICE

Our perspective about forgiveness expands itself when we understand that every single wound comes from expectations and needs, and that when we assume our responsibility, release control and accept the truth, we start living a reality in which we discover that the main reason for our wounds is the lack of personal connection, what leads us to construct a new way of relating, from self-respect (click here to read about building personal respect).

Our self is a powerful ally when we decide to integrate it as part of the integral being we are (click here to read the full article about integration of the self), but, while we try to “ignore” it, it continues being the opponent of our inner voice, the voice that compares us, either positively or negatively, to others, the voice that judge us, the voice that is afraid even taking chances, the voice that, when we question, is always giving us an answer that comes from our own preservation as separated individuals.

When we exercise focusing our Self to know ourselves better, our thoughts start getting used to talk about our own selves avoiding judgement, comparisson and guilt, at that moment we start feeling our inner voice, the one that accepts us the way we are and shows us the most appropriate way of constructing in every sigle moment of our lives. One super useful question to check the origin of each thought is: Is this only for my well-being or it also contributes to the well-being of everything and everyone? With time, our Self learns how to flow with our hearts and the inner voice starts aligning and focusing on what makes us flow, and we enjoy, that cause a coherent and constructive impact on ourselves and everything around (click here to read about identifying what is from the heart).

Listening to our inner voice is truly trusting ourselves, understanding that we are always in accompanied, that there are infinite ways of relating to ourselves, and to the world, and that we can always decide to flow along with our hearts (click here to read about transforming our humanity).

Love,
Ángel

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What Do We Deserve?

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Learning to follow our hearts (click here to read about connecting to our hearts) is one of the most effective ways for us to understand that we are worth it the way we truly are and that, if we decide to be integrated and complete in our present, that is the minimum we deserve to live, it is from here that we begin to prioritize, in a more appropriate way for us, the activities and people in our lives.

Some of our beliefs make us accept crumbs of life because we feel in some way that is what we give, this is why we need to learn more about ourselves and invest in the development of our human skills as a whole, from the way in which we relate to ourselves, as a basis, until the way we give the most appropriate to us in each moment we live. Let’s see situations that can be presented to us in which we can choose a more integral path for ourselves:

  1. Do we depend on people doing what we want them to do? It is more common than we think, it occurs mainly in power relationships in which we need to feel that we dominate the other person to feel safe. We need to learn to be self-sufficient and to know ourselves so well that we know what we can really do, and so understand what others can give too. We all have our talents and we can construct together, but not delegate responsibility for everything we want and need, each of us must play a part. This way, we have more constructive relationships and we leave emotional dependence aside to construct more integral relationships.

  2. Do we consider we do not receive what we give? Let’s check the reasons that lead us to give, because we often believe something is best for the other person without considering what the person experience. We can only really know what is most appropriate for us, let’s give more attention to what we can work on ourselves and listen more to others, avoiding our automatic answers.

  3. Do we say YES to satisfy others? life is made of moments, saying yes to everything without asking ourselves if that is what is really necessary for us to build what we want in our lives, is to say that we deserve whatever appears, let’s evaluate better and decide according to our own principles and projects, let’s respect ourselves (click here to read about learning to say “NO”).

  4. Are we interested in someone who is in a relationship? this case can happen, so, before we try to convince ourselves through our beliefs, or personal or other’s experiences, that it is right to get in the middle of a relationship, let’s think about how we would like our relationship to be and if what we are going to do we would like to experience, if we were the other person of the couple. Any action, or reaction, has its effect, so, even if we think we are immune, it is necessary to evaluate each step we want to take.

  5. Do we work because of love or needs? the fears that we lack resources, or that our talents are not paid if we use them by ourselves (or that will take a long time for giving us return), or the need to become millionaires because we think that we will be happy, or because we think that only money leads to success, these are some of the reasons that can keep us in a life ruled by money that doesn’t even make us feel satisfied, but at least it makes us feel material security. Let’s question our priorities in life, do we work in a place that respects people, the environment, that has principles aligned to ours as humans? What would we do if we had one last day of life, we would go to work in that company? Here we need to integrate everything with what we flow and put it into the context we find ourselves in. Remember that success is the happy result of an act, therefore, to walk over ourselves, our principles and others (however well mentally justified it may seem), is not succeeding, let’s evaluate our actions in a more conscious way.

We deserve an integral present, aligned to our principles and to the respect and love we have for ourselves, so let’s evaluate the options that are presented to us, all that makes us doubt let’s evaluate it even better, let’s trust more in ourselves, and in our capacities, and we will see a new reality opening up before us (click here to read about how to decide by conviction).

Love,
Ángel

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Connecting Ourselves To Our Hearts

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In the most recent article we’ve learned about how to sublimate our experience through our mental, creative, sexual and emotional worlds (click here to read about sublimation), and these issues are totally connected to our personal connection to our hearts.

Our heart is our guide, whenever we live in calm, we do what brings us peace, we concentrate on our talents and we remain in our own flow state, we feel naturally aligned to life itself. The moment our minds align to our true nature and desire, the ones that respects our own limits and dreams through the calm of our interactions, we live a more coherent life, because it is the moment of great satisfaction that exists as a consequence of the total acceptance of who we are. To learn through love it is necessary that we connect to our hearts and continue to put all our intention into it (thought, feeling and expression).

To connect to our hearts, it is important that we work on our own coherence to reach our personal self-sufficiency. Personal coherence is the consequence of a conscious evaluation of our heart’s desire, of what we really enjoy doing, to be able to integrate it into our present and our context, and to build solid foundations for our development in all areas of our life. Every moment and every step taken with more awareness and certainty, strengthens ourselves from the inside out, making our personal power to enhance, making us self-sufficient, through our own talent, and contributive to connect to other people’s talents in order to build a conscious and sustainable society.

Understanding that our reality lived from the heart is the appropriate measure between receptivity and activity in all areas of our life, we can ask ourselves the following questions to know ourselves a bit better and act accordingly:

  1. With what types of beings do we flow? With young people, with dogs, with plants, with children, with microscopic beings, with our family, with our couple, with our friends, etc. There are many options that we can consider to understand a little more about what we bring in our hearts as our main talent.

  2. What are the activities which we flow most during the day with? There are many activities we may flow with such as cooking, singing, cleaning, caring, writing, reading, traveling, etc. It is important that we really know what is that we really flow doing, those activities in which we lose the notion of time because we are totally connected to them, especially those integrated with the types of beings we flow the most with.

  3. What could we do to generate income and allow ourselves to flow? Here we need to integrate everything with what we flow and put it in the context in which we find ourselves. For example, if we flow more with children and making music we can start a music project for children in the park of our neighborhood, which according to our own experience can be expanded or remain where it was established. Remember that everything that makes us flow can be remunerated, because it is a service that we are providing through our talent, our passion and our investment of resources to strengthen them.

Our hearts only takes ourselves along the paths we know at all levels, where we are more aware of the terrain on which we tread, then whenever we have an important decision we can breathe deeply and think, calmly, about each of the options we have, the one that generates more peace of mind is the one we are prepared to face with all the consequences it may generate. Remember that even if we don’t know the laws, they apply at all times, then let’s look at the consequences that our reactions have generated throughout life (in the area of relationships with our partners, friends, family, colleagues, students, etc) and let’s know more about the laws of the place where we live, so we will make increasingly assertive and constructive decisions for ourselves.

Love,

Ángel

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Sublimation of Our Experience: Special Edition

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Through our personal experience, it is perceivable that we can build sublime feelings about things that seem simple and to which we normally don’t give much importance, it is a matter of living the moment fully and expanding our consciousness about ourselves. This is called SUBLIMATION, which, according to the dictionary definition, is to convert (something inferior) into something of higher worth, elevate it to a higher degree.

During our lives, almost always unconsciously, we have sublimated several things, some of them destructive, connecting them with the way we felt emotionally and mentally at a certain moment, and we have also related aspects, which can be constructive for us, with negative moments on an emotional and mental level. When we start to realize that, we perceive the origin of many of our vices to food, to cigarettes, to emotions, to games, to people, to sex, to drugs, to drinking, etc., and we discover that we can consciously connect to more constructive habits through the feeling of love to ourselves.

Each action brings consequences, whether in short or long term, that is why it is important that we begin to choose more consciously and assertively the decisions we want to make to impact our lives, our health, energy levels, relationships with ourselves and with others, etc., constructively. For this reason, it is essential to know simple ways to sublimate diverse areas of our lives from the smallest details.

The reflection is: What have we sublimated that is destructive for us? Now that we have the answer, let’s read about the sublimation of our mental, creative, sexual, emotional and sentimental world, in this same article that is a special edition, focused on the expansion of consiousness, the broadening of perspective about what we can call invisible and sensitive world (ethereal?).

1. SUBLIMATION OF OUR MENTAL REALITY: Foundation of our relationships

The reality that exists in our mind, the one we nurture, is the way in which we live our own experience. We have several options and we perceive only the things we pay attention to, because it is what most of the time is being communicated to us, since we connect and identify with it. So if we decide to see everything as an adversity or a challenge, our lives show that to us, in everything we do, when we decide to see everything as learning we live our lives as an infinite experience of knowledge. It is, for this reason, that it is so important to verify the reality we are nurturing in our minds.

Recognizing how our mind influences the way we experience our present, we can follow simple steps to sublimate our mental reality constructively and in harmony with everyone and everything around us.

  1. Let’s ask ourselves: What thoughts do we have during the day that generate anxiety, stress, sadness, on ourselves? Which daily situations intensify those thoughts and emotions? Example: if we think about the country situation, we feel insecure, this is intensified when we watch the news and talk to people about it.

  2. With the destructive thoughts and emotions identified, we can work on them by transforming them into constructive actions that empower us. Example: we are looking for ways to reduce unnecessary needs (click here to see a step by step to assess our needs), to live with what is necessary, to save what we have now, to identify our talents to work contributing to the construction of more constructive, coherent and transparent models, wherever we are, this builds our self-confidence up.

  3. Let’s identify the thoughts and situations in our day that bring us tranquility and make us feel confidence about ourselves. Example: When we focus on doing something for which we are talented, when we spend time with ourselves, with our children, with animals, with people, with nature, etc.

  4. Let’s focus our energy on intention (thoughts, feelings, expression) in what makes us feel connected to ourselves and the world. Let’s learn something new about ourselves and the ways we have a more constructive impact from home.

The reflection is: How much time do we dedicate per day to sublimate what is constructive for us?

2. SUBLIMATION OF OUR CREATIVITY: Flow state

When we nourish an empowering reality, that reconnects ourselves with our trust within on ourselves and on our lives, we start integrating inner and outer information we receive in a more authentic way for expressing it, by questioning ourselves more about what comes to us, because we realize that we all are different and, at the same time, make all part of the collective reality that exists.

Now that we own a more constructive mental reality, and based on what is most appropriate for ourselves from our own experience, we are able to integrate some steps to increase our personal connection and let our creativity to flow, in every area of our lives.

  • Hydration: Are we conscious about our bodies’ quality of hydration? Example: the water we consume must have essential minerals to hydrate ourselves, so we can mineralize water with marine salt and a little baking soda, and solarize it, for me the result has been great, my body works better and ask for less liquids during the day. Let’s make researches and try them with our own bodies.

  • Nutrition: Do we eat to feed or nourishing ourselves? (Click here for reading full article about expanding our nutritional consciousness). Example: when we eat thinking just about balancing carbohydrates and proteins, we are ignoring minerals and vitamins, that are essential for the proper functionality of our bodies. I have stopped eating meat and dairy because I’ve realized that my intestine absorbs functional nutrients better and I need to eat less to feel more energized and healthy (click here to read about micronutrients and cell regeneration).

  • Breathing: Do we know the quality of our breathing? Example: our breathing gets shorter and we only use a part of our lung capacity to oxygenate our bodies. I’ve integrated a deep diafragmatic breathing during the day and I’ve felt more connected and at peace.

  • Cell regeneration: Do we sleep enough and give our bodies what they really need? Example: our bodies need certain time for regenerating and regulating themselves during sleep time, that is why it is so important to know how long we need to sleep in order to wake up energized. As I improve my nutrition, I realize that my body needs less time when I eat only what is necessary (click here for reading full article about cell regeneration).

By giving attention to our energetic levels, in an integrated way, we allow our creativity to easily flow at any present time, we get to connect to our flow state.

The reflection is: Do we really investigate about the processes that allow us to expand our personal consciousness?

3. SUBLIMATION OF OUR SEXUAL EXPERIENCE: Potentiating love

Sexual energy is also creative energy that, when sublimated in a constructive way, connects ourselves to our essence through love. Our sexual energy is connected to attraction processes in our own perceptions, that are able to strengthen connections through our emotional, mental and/or physical world. As we read in sublimation of our mental reality, we only perceive the things we pay attention to, so, as we know ourselves better, through our own experiences, we have the option of expanding our own personal consciousness, in order to learn to connet to our own personal signs, and, that way, in a more assertive way to the world.

By recognizing how our emotions, thoughts and perceptions influence the way we experience our sexual energy, we can follow 3 simple steps to sublimate it in a constructive way and in harmony with everything and everyone around us.

  • Let’s ask ourselves: What motives lead us to live our sexuality as we have decided to experiences it? What do we feel and think after a sexual act or an orgasm? Example: my motive to iniciate my sexual life was low self-esteem, I always thought that sex was a way of controlling my partner to have him by my side. While I had that thought it was common for me to feel in pain and empty, as if I lacked something I could not find outside myself, I often felt tired, as if I had no energy, but I thought that was normal.

  • Having our destructive thoughts, and emotions, identified, we can work on them by transforming them into constructive actions that empower ourselves. Example: By doing my own reasearch I realize that it wasn’t normal to feel the way I felt, so I started reading about diverse issues and feeling more my own self every moment, the consciousness about my own seual energy expanded itself and now I perceive that it not only a matter of my emotional, physical and mental worlds, but it is also about my sentimental world and the emotional, physical, mental and sentimental worlds of the person I allow myself to establish a relationship in that level.

  • Let’s focus our energy on our present and learn something new about ourselves and the ways of having a more constructive impact on our own relationships through our personal interaction integrated to our inner signs.

Today’s reflection is: Do we focus our sexual energy by personal convictions or for pleasing others?

4. SUBLIMATION OF OUR EMOTIONS: Constructing feelings

Emotions are reactive and unconscious energy in motion, arised from needs and beliefs that we have assumed as ours throughout our lives. We somatize them in the body and identify with them to the point where we think it is the language of our hearts. Emotions make us react according to what we have integrated, we go from tears to laughter, from affection to screaming, and vice versa. Feelings are active and conscious energy in motion, arised from needs and beliefs that are built from what is in our hearts, that which we flow in harmony with our environment from what we feel. We feel them in the body as a state of peace and coherence with our essence. We can act from our feelings, because our understanding of each situation expands according to our experience and the way we think, making us more assertive in our expression.

Knowing the emotions and feelings, we can follow 4 simple steps to sublimate our emotions constructively and in harmony with our essence and our hearts.

  • Let’s ask ourselves: What thoughts do we have during the day that generate any negative or positive emotion? What daily situations intensify those thoughts and those emotions? Examples: as an example of positive thought and emotion, if we think that we are going out with someone we like, we feel like little butterflies in the belly and when they call us, thought and emotion intensify themselves. As an example of thought and negative emotion, if we think that someone is lying to us we feel the emotion in some part of the body manifesting impotence and when the person tells us something that we know, or think, is a lie, thought and emotion intensify themselves.

  • How do we react when we feel those emotions in our bodies? Examples: for the first case the reaction may be to smile and get nervous, for the second it may be to shout and face the person.

  • How could we work the emotion and act more assertively? Examples: to work the emotion we need deep diaphragmatic breathing until we feel calm. To act more assertively in the positive example smiling is still assertive, because it also feels in the voice, and to continue it is important that we ask ourselves if the person with whom we are going to go out is really someone with whom we want to build something together based in the reality of what the person is and what we are. To act more assertively, in the negative example, once the emotion is worked out, let’s think if we have been sincere, with ourselves and with others, and ask ourselves why we keep that person in our lives.

  • Evaluate what we have allowed, because emotions take us to places and people so that we learn something that we did not want to learn through self-reflection. Understanding what we want from our hearts, it is the feeling of harmony with ourselves that guides us into our own path.

The reflection is: What do we have to learn about ourselves through the situations we live? (click here to learn exercise of emotional awareness)

Love,
Ángel

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Setting Boundaries: how to build personal respect

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As we expand our personal awareness we increase our connection with who we really are (click here to read about transmutation of the being) and by getting new habits we empower our roots, believes and needs, this way we are able to access a part of us that motivates us to exercise respect (click here to read about respect).

Many people have transmitted that everything comes from within and it is really as simple as that. When we want to be respected it is very important that we know how to respect, from the heart. But, how do we know if we are respecting or not, if we don’t know our own personal boundaries and others’ (click here to reflect on respect)? Here self knowledge, self confidence, respect and transparent communication have an important role, since only our own selves are able to know what we really want, like and need, and when that is aligned to respect and constructivity, and that way is communicated, it is really from the heart.

Following these steps we can be more assertive when setting our own personal boudaries from the heart:

  1. Empowering beliefs: we have beliefs that leads us to a lack of self respect. For example “if we say “NO” we stay alone” or “saying always “YES” is necessary for being a good person”. These are beliefs, when we open up totally without setting any boundaries we hurt ourselves and set an example to everyone around us, that’s why it is very important to observe the reason why we’re not building what we desire (click here to read about empowering beliefs).
  2. Inner connection, our desire: getting in touch with who we really are helps us design our lives and build the boundaries necessary for our development. If we want a job where we can have a flexible schedule we can find it, so we must send our CV to the companies that offer this benefit or create our own business (this would be a limit that helps us build what we want). REMEMBER THAT WHAT WE WANT FROM HEART IS ALWAYS CONNECTED TO TRANSPARENCY, RESPECT AND CONSTRUCTIVITY (click here to read about recognizing what is from the heart).
  3. Clear Boundaries: when we decide what we want in our personal, professional or loving lives, we can set clear boundaries that bring the results that we want. These boundaries must be aligned to the heart, that is, being detached and understanding the other’s freedom of being, so that we can build assertively.
  4. Comunication and application: to conclude the process it is important that we communicate our reality to the parties involved and apply what we desire. If we desire a relationship full of fidelity, loyalt, respect and freedom of being who we are, we must act coherently with that desire, work on ourselves what we want so we can offer it too.

This is an important cycle to connect in a more loving level to the world, making a habit of it we feel that our relationships transform themselves and get more peaceful.

After two years of working at an office, I realized that my desire is being with people and help them to be the best version of themselves and having time during the day to take care of myself, the boundary I set over time was “working where I can help people and take care of myself”. That, totall, changes my life. What about you? Have you ever set a boundary that changes your life?

Love,
Ángel

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Constructive Relationships: 7 questions to assess the level of constructivity of relationships

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It is very important to work on our self-relationship (click here to read the text about transforming our self relationship), in order to understand who we really are (click here to read the text about self-knowledge) and be ready to relate to the world in a more assertive way. This includes to detach from destructive relationships, even if it is because of our or other’s intentions, and building new constructive relationships for our lives.

Today we’re talking, specifically, about the transformation of, and/or detach from, relationships that make us feel less than we are, or that just have turned into a waste of time, for we get use to it and we haven’t found our way out of there, whether because of one or many reasons (click here to read the text about empowering habits)..

Many types of beliefs have taken us to live relationships in our lives that, when we change our beliefs, we have seen them as something we don’t really want to live. As we grow up we pass certain situations that can lead us to know what we really don’t want or actually want, that’s why it is so important to learn to direct our lives by the relationship constructive path. This empower us.

There are 7 questions to assess the level of constructivity of relationships we live. Using the for every relationship (sentimental, family, friendship), in an honest way, we are able to understand if us, or other people, are having destructive behaviors, if they can really be transformed, or if the best thing to do is getting out of that relationship.

  1. In the relationship the both of us support each other?
  2. Is there respect between the both of us for each other’s growing and development?
  3. Is there freedom for being who we really are?
  4. Is there honesty and transparency?
  5. Is there dialog without manipulation?
  6. Is there trust, fidelity and loyalty?
  7. The both of us contribute to the construction and strengthening of the relationship?

If after asking ourselves these 7 questions most of the answers were “NO” we are living some kind of destructive relationship. It is important to analize is it’s really possible the transformation through the dialog, but if we perceive that there’s no possibility of changing what is destructing the relationship it is time to ask ourselves about the real reasons why we are still experiencing that. If some of those reasons is fear (of loneliness, of not finfing another person, of losing something) we must take the responsability of detaching from that and, in the most respectful way possible, making clear what we really want (click here to read the text about setting boundaries)..

When we live in an unconsciouss destructive way, we tend to see the external as a threat, but we can transform our own selves and find that heart path that leads us to be more respectful, free, transparent, faithful, loyal and constructive to us and to people (click here to read the text about connecting ourselves to our hearts). So, if today we are in a relationship like that, we must give us the chance of getting out of it and let ourselves, or the other person, follow our own consciousness path. Let’s do this for ours and others, it may be that the relationship that finish now start over again with a more consciouss point of view in order to build the relationship up .

Let’s be independent, dependency always causes undesireble emotional situations (click here to read the text about emotions and feelings).

Love,
Ángel

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Forgiveness Part 5: Aligning the Inner Voice

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Our perspective about forgiveness expands itself when we understand that every single wound comes from expectations and needs, and that when we assume our responsibility, release control and accept the truth, we start living a reality in which we discover that the main reason of our wounds is the lack of personal connection, what leads us to construct a new way of relating, from self-respect.

Our self is a powerful ally when we decide to integrate it as part of the integral being we are (click here to read the full article about integration of the self), but, while we try to “ignore” it, it continues being the opponent of our inner voice, the voice that compares us, either positive or negatively, to others, the voice that judge us, the voice that is afraid even taking chances, the voice that, when we question, is always giving us an answer that comes from our own preservation as separated individuals.

When we exercise focusing our Self to know ourseles better, our thoughts start getting used to talk about our own selves avoiding judgement, comparisson and guilt, in at that moment that we start feeling our inner voice, the one that accepts us the way we are and shows us the most appropriate way of constructing in every sigle moment of our lives. One super useful question to check the origin of each thought is: Is this only for my well-being or it also contributes to the well-being of everything and everyone? With time, our Self learns how to flow with our hearts and the inner voice starts aligning and focusing on what makes us flow, and we enjoy, that cause a coherent and constructive impact i ourselves and everything around.

Listening to our inner voice is truly trusting ourselves, understanding that we are always in accompanied, that there are infinite ways of relating to ourselves, and to the world, and that we can always decide to flow along with our hearts.

This has been the week of forgiveness, I hope you liked it and if there is a topic about which you want to see my point of view send it to me. Have a nice weekend.

Love,
Ángel

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