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Manifesting the Relationship we Desire

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I’ve been through several moments in my life that have contributed to a wider and more responsible perception about relationships. The life lived from the mental and emotional worlds can lead to a desconnection of integrity and personal power, what leads to experimentation from voids, created by the illusion of separation that generates individualistic people. This is the foundation for having relationships with parcial, or total, absence of transparency, acceptance, respect and coherene, starting from the relationship with one self, and that keeps going until we decide to learn how to experience our lives from integration of our mental and emotional worlds with our hearts, our essence.

The relationship we have with ourselves is the only one we can actually manifest in our relationships with everything and everyone around us, the more transparent, coherent, respectful and whole we are to ourselves, the more we manifest that in our relationships (click here to read about reflections on relationships). Thats why our integrated relationship, with our lives, with the environment and with people, has clear purposes, to reveal in the present the consequences of what we’ve thought, felt and expressed, so we can transform the way we relate from inside out (click here to read about purposes in our relationships) .

Now that we understand that we can only manifest outer relationships from our current state within, we can reflect on these aspects that effectively take us to relate ourselves to everything around us in a more conscious way:

  1. TRANSPARENCY: this aspect starts with self-knowledge, because, when we discover our motives behind every decision, we can analize and align them to the truth of authenticity in unity within our heart. By being honest to ourselves we begin to feel our self-confidence increasing, what leads us to the certainty of expressing our talents, our desire of contributing, our innate universal connection, and, consequently, to manifest a reality in which the expression of truth is always our priority.

  2. COHERENCE: as we know ourselves, we perceive that we need to allow our perceptive system to expand, in order to align our expression to the personal wisdom of who we truly are, and integrate it to the context. Our thoughts need to be more focused on construction from contribution (click here to read about contributing), our emotions need to be felt and integrated to express integrity from our feelings (click here to read about sublimation of emotions) and our expression needs to be more integral, considering the context and our real ability of contributing.

  3. ACCEPTANCE: when we accept ourselves from our essence, and understand that we are all in a process of constant experimentation of our own reality, we get to accept and understand everything and everyone around us. Our power of decision is focused on ourselves, we are responsible for what we construct and for the impact it has in society, we must be the example of the integrity and the peace we want from the world (click here to read about constructing peace).

  4. INTEGRITY: when we connect to reality as integral beings, whole, that have all what is necessary to contribute from our essence, we are ready to build in the whole as a cell, by assuming the role we are meant to, from a purpose that integrates all the areas of our lives, and that manifests relationships focused on its construction. In a state of integrity we are able to love from freedom of being who we are and embrace everything and everyone for who they are, we understand that every relationship is part of the construction and according to its purpose in our lives we must decide and act (click here to read about constructive relationships).

From the truth of our heart we construct relationships that connect ourselves to each other and strengthen the structure to build up, since we accept differences as an integral part of the whole, and we perceive from the essence of the moment. We perceive life as a moment, we live it as if only the present exists with the purpose of leaving an integral legacy that serves as an example to evolve in unity, from love, from integration.

Love,
Ángel

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Learning to Say “NO”

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There is an issue that is important to understand for us to have more peaceful relationships, the fear of saying “NO”. This fear is born of the need of keeping everything as it is because we think it is the only way to live and interact with people around us. Over time, some of us have learned to please people we interact with (friends, family, colleagues, etc.), we feel that everything is easier when we perceive that, apparently, everyone is satisfied with our actions, and we leave aside what we really want, and need, in order to see others smiling, sometimes with the desire to be good children, parents, friends, colleagues, etc., because it is the only way we have related to people and we are used to that.

Sometimes we avoid the word “NO”, even though we feel it is necessary, because we assume people will think or say something specific about us, and we fear how the consequence can impact our image. It is important that we remember that it is impossible to please everyone, even within our family nucleus we can find people who disapprove our actions, no matter how kind they may seem to us, it is here that we perceive the importance of being more authentic, at least, this way we relate to people who authentically have more affinity with us (click here to read about self-knowledge and sublimation)..

Saying “NO” can be as healthy as saying “YES”, for this, it is necessary that we know ourselves as well as possible and transmit that in the most assertive way possible to the people we relate with. Let’s see some cases to understand the reasons behind the answers we give in the situation we find ourselves in:

  1. Case 1: If we say “NO”, do we feel bad for the reaction that others may have or because we really want to say “YES”? If the answer is due to the reaction of others, it is important that we question the reasons why we don’t really want to do what they ask from us, because we find answers within ourselves that lead us to make more assertive and authentic decisions, because we need to focus on what brings us peace independent of the external.

  2. Case 2: Are our decisions made because of the dependence we have for someone? In some moments of our life we ​​can feel obliged to do things in exchange for something material or emotional. Sometimes, when we feel dependent on something or someone, we become submissive to the power of the other, therefore losing our identity and the respect that we have for ourselves. It is essential to evaluate if our actions come from our desire or from our need to fulfill certain obligations that have been created by the dependency.

Saying “NO” is essential in some cases for us to understand what we are creating in our lives, from reflection, and for starting our path of constructing peace through recognizing what our hearts needs for its purpose.

Rescuing our identity is the best way to tell ourselves that we accept ourselves and that we are willing to flow with everything we are, even if it implies the disapproval of the people we have as a priority in our lives, because, only then, we can create space for the true relationships that our heart desires to manifest (click here to read about constructivity of relationships).

Love,
Ángel

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Approving ourselves from within in 3 steps

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As I’ve progressed in my own process of personal empowerment, I’ve perceived that there’s a very sensitive issue in the way we relate to the world: External Approval. Some of us learned that our success in life depends on external approval, on what others think of our lives, our projects, our relationships, and we forget a little about our own internal approval because we don’t know enough about ourselves to understand our own desires and limits.

Somehow, as I mentioned in the article about the Self (click here to read the full article), we all live in a context and we need to align, at least, our actions to the laws of the place where we are, as we are part of a collective, and, besides that, sometimes we find social expectations that make us think that we need to be or act in a certain way to succeed, but as we saw in the article “What do we deserve?” (click here to read full article) success is the happy result of an act, it’s simply achieving the results that are most appropriate for ourselves, it doesn’t, necessarily, imply getting married, having mansions, businesses, cars, children, it is as simple as living our present in the most authentic way possible through integrity, approving ourselves totally.

In order to follow our real path connected to our essence, it is essential to know ourselves at our best, because we are all different, each one of us has a similar structure but the connections with events, and the reactions to them vary, from what we consider pleasant to what we consider uncomfortable, that’s why we need to avoid that fanaticism of following a referential (click here to read about fanatism), because only we can connect ourselves to the most appropriate way to build our own reality and for this we really need to approve ourselves from the inside. We can apply these 3 steps to do so:

  1. STRENGTHENING OUR INTERNAL CONNECTION: For us to achieve this, it is necessary to give ourselves a space in the day to be alone, some moments in silence to feel and understand ourselves better, others doing something that we like and that we can do by ourselves. By creating this space in our day, we begin to perceive new things within that broaden our perception and allow us to question ourselves about what is in our life that needs to leave to make way for our present from our hearts (click here to read about connecting to our hearts).

  2. PRIORITIZING WHAT BRINGS US TRANQUILITY: As we move forward in our time alone, we realize what brings us peace of mind, those moments in which we feel that everything flows, when we work, sing, write, draw, play, etc. When we begin to prioritize these actions it is easier to perceive, in our life, what takes us out of our center and doesn’t bring us peace of mind, so we can decide accordingly in order to maintain an environment in which we feel in harmony and we can attract people who are in that same frequency to construct with them (click here to read about neutrality).

  3. BUILDING FROM OUR ESSENCE: Being clear in what we enjoy, we can begin to integrate other actions, alone or with people, that have the purpose of bringing harmony to our life based on our talents and our essence. The more we approve ourselves from what brings us tranquility in all areas of our lives, the more connected we are with people who vibrate that harmony, thus improving our relationships from the inside out (click here to read about elevating our experience).

Let’s know what allows us to flow and let’s love it enough so that approving ourselves is our only option. When we approve we are expressing that we trust in ourselves and, thus, we can make the most appropriate decisions for our own life. Do we fully approve ourselves? 

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Love,
Ángel

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We broke up, what now?

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A very common issue about relationships is the end itself, sometimes well defined, others not that much, but, at the end, they have in common the fact that they take us out from our comfort zone and makes us question ourselves about many things. But, what can we do when this happens in order to get used to the space left by the presence of the other? This is the subject today.

First of all, it is important that we have some time on our own to perceive, in an objective way, our relationship and the feelings we have had during our time together, since this can lead us to understand that we must make some adjustments in many aspects of our own selves, from deciding what we expect from a relationship to defining the main principles the relationship must have as the foundation, this is what takes us to decide, with more assertiveness, in which moment we can take the step into a new relationship.

After we find the reasons that have led us to our relationship, and the needs behind them, it is important to release what is no longer part of our construction, in many cases we expect to come back because we are not sure of what we want to construct, that is why it is so important that we learn to be clear and coherent to ourselves, so we  can express our truth to others.

Finally, it is necessary to assume our responsability about everything that has happened, accept that, while we continue being the same, from our belief system and emotions, there is no way of keeping changes that please the other and that make us feel good in our own skin for long. We change from a deep necessity of being more aligned to our own moment, others may be an inspiration for our transformation, but we are the ones that decide when is time to do it, and if that lets us flow along with our own principles.

To finish, let’s see some steps that have turned out well for some people I know that have ended their relationships, and for me after breaking up a relationship of 9 years :

  1. Dedicating the time we would spend with the person to make something we enjoy doing by ourselves. In my case, writing has always been a moment of reconnection, that let me channel any emotion and even realize when I feel something I wasn’t conscious about before. Any activity we can use as a way of expressing ourselves can be useful for the process of gettin to know ourselves better.

  2. Allowing us to connect to different people from our friends and family to broaden our perspectives.

  3. Giving ourselves the time to do practically “NOTHING”, those moments without commitments in which we’re able to flow with our own company, open up ourselves to new possibilities.

  4. Defining what we want from a relationship is essential, since that allows us to make decisions out of conviction (click here to read about deciding by conviction) regarding the relationships we allow in our lives. In my case, in this moment I prioritize the freedom to be who I am, and to allow the others to be who they are, and the peace to build a relationship from integrity, transparency and respect, so I let my emotions flow to feel with my heart the purpose of each relationship (click here to read about connecting with the heart).

It is important to understand that the feeling we have constructed, for the person, remains, it always continues as a part of ourselves, but we simply know that we need to move forward transforming the limits of the relationship so we can continue our own work of self-knowledge and evolution (click here to read about sublimation of our mental, emotional, creative and sexual realities).

We always have the possibility of looking for different ways of relating to the world, we can choose living by being who we really are, with transparency and sincerity, and knowing people who choose this way too, since, this way, we can construct solid and enhancing foundation, in order to broaden authenticity in unity inside a society of integrity.

Love,
Ángel

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What Do We Deserve?

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Learning to follow our hearts (click here to read about connecting to our hearts) is one of the most effective ways for us to understand that we are worth it the way we truly are and that, if we decide to be integrated and complete in our present, that is the minimum we deserve to live, it is from here that we begin to prioritize, in a more appropriate way for us, the activities and people in our lives.

Some of our beliefs make us accept crumbs of life because we feel in some way that is what we give, this is why we need to learn more about ourselves and invest in the development of our human skills as a whole, from the way in which we relate to ourselves, as a basis, until the way we give the most appropriate to us in each moment we live. Let’s see situations that can be presented to us in which we can choose a more integral path for ourselves:

  1. Do we depend on people doing what we want them to do? It is more common than we think, it occurs mainly in power relationships in which we need to feel that we dominate the other person to feel safe. We need to learn to be self-sufficient and to know ourselves so well that we know what we can really do, and so understand what others can give too. We all have our talents and we can construct together, but not delegate responsibility for everything we want and need, each of us must play a part. This way, we have more constructive relationships and we leave emotional dependence aside to construct more integral relationships.

  2. Do we consider we do not receive what we give? Let’s check the reasons that lead us to give, because we often believe something is best for the other person without considering what the person experience. We can only really know what is most appropriate for us, let’s give more attention to what we can work on ourselves and listen more to others, avoiding our automatic answers.

  3. Do we say YES to satisfy others? life is made of moments, saying yes to everything without asking ourselves if that is what is really necessary for us to build what we want in our lives, is to say that we deserve whatever appears, let’s evaluate better and decide according to our own principles and projects, let’s respect ourselves (click here to read about learning to say “NO”).

  4. Are we interested in someone who is in a relationship? this case can happen, so, before we try to convince ourselves through our beliefs, or personal or other’s experiences, that it is right to get in the middle of a relationship, let’s think about how we would like our relationship to be and if what we are going to do we would like to experience, if we were the other person of the couple. Any action, or reaction, has its effect, so, even if we think we are immune, it is necessary to evaluate each step we want to take.

  5. Do we work because of love or needs? the fears that we lack resources, or that our talents are not paid if we use them by ourselves (or that will take a long time for giving us return), or the need to become millionaires because we think that we will be happy, or because we think that only money leads to success, these are some of the reasons that can keep us in a life ruled by money that doesn’t even make us feel satisfied, but at least it makes us feel material security. Let’s question our priorities in life, do we work in a place that respects people, the environment, that has principles ​​aligned to ours as humans? What would we do if we had one last day of life, we would go to work in that company? Here we need to integrate everything with what we flow and put it into the context we find ourselves in. Remember that success is the happy result of an act, therefore, to walk over ourselves, our principles and others (however well mentally justified it may seem), is not succeeding, let’s evaluate our actions in a more conscious way.

We deserve an integral present, aligned to our principles ​​and to the respect and love we have for ourselves, so let’s evaluate the options that are presented to us, all that makes us doubt let’s evaluate it even better, let’s trust more in ourselves, and in our capacities, and we will see a new reality opening up before us (click here to read about how to decide by conviction)

Love,
Ángel

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Conscious Love: 3 habits to connect to each other

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Now that we understand the importance of harmony between parents (click here to read about conscious parents) and children (click here to read about conscious children) we can connect, in a more assertive way, with what is really necessary to build our relationships.

It’s important to begin with the principle of responsibility. We start a relationship because we decide so, the other is there to teach us, through love, what we haven’t recognized (beliefs, needs, emotions) and, yet, we need to empower and resignify in order to connect to our inner peace.

Having the present points clear we are able to develop new habits that allow us to learn, in a peaceful way, through our relationships.

  1. Giving and Receiving: the first point is to identify what we expect from the other person and what we are willing to give. If we expect something we’re not willing to give, there is something we need to work on within us, whether by allowing the transparency, and letting things happen as a part of an agreement, or finding motives for us to connect to fidelity within ourselves, empowering limiting beliefs we have about compromise.
  2. Communication: in order to keep a healthy relationship, it is important to know what we want and feel free to express everything in an assertive way. We must remember that the other is there for us to know ourselves better, therefore the approach must always be from our personal perspective. Sharing, recognizing and respecting boundaries are the keys to build a solid foundation of respect (click here to read about boundaries and respect).
  3. Freedom: one of the most important aspects of paradigm shift in relationships is freedom of being our own selves. We must allow the real expression of each other, connect to ourselves and have the opportunity of deciding, easily, where we go, it may be through other paths. This is possible when we learn to, truly, love ourselves and, that way, we allow the entrance to our lives of people that resonate with that inner love and project themselves in a more aligned way to our life purpose.

Love is giving, receiving, cexpressing, respecting and being free to decide. Let’s avoid using tags to clip people’s wings, instead, we can use them to potentiate our intention of uniting to someone with the purpose of constructing together, let’s honor our feelings, thoughts, and expression with our love.

Love,
Ángel

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Setting Boundaries: how to build personal respect

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As we expand our personal awareness we increase our connection with who we really are (click here to read about transmutation of the being) and by getting new habits we empower our roots, believes and needs, this way we are able to access a part of us that motivates us to exercise respect (click here to read about respect).

Many people have transmitted that everything comes from within and it is really as simple as that. When we want to be respected it is very important that we know how to respect, from the heart. But, how do we know if we are respecting or not, if we don’t know our own personal boundaries and others’ (click here to reflect on respect)? Here self knowledge, self confidence, respect and transparent communication have an important role, since only our own selves are able to know what we really want, like and need, and when that is aligned to respect and constructivity, and that way is communicated, it is really from the heart.

Following these steps we can be more assertive when setting our own personal boudaries from the heart:

  1. Empowering beliefs: we have beliefs that leads us to a lack of self respect. For example “if we say “NO” we stay alone” or “saying always “YES” is necessary for being a good person”. These are beliefs, when we open up totally without setting any boundaries we hurt ourselves and set an example to everyone around us, that’s why it is very important to observe the reason why we’re not building what we desire (click here to read about empowering beliefs).
  2. Inner connection, our desire: getting in touch with who we really are helps us design our lives and build the boundaries necessary for our development. If we want a job where we can have a flexible schedule we can find it, so we must send our CV to the companies that offer this benefit or create our own business (this would be a limit that helps us build what we want). REMEMBER THAT WHAT WE WANT FROM HEART IS ALWAYS CONNECTED TO TRANSPARENCY, RESPECT AND CONSTRUCTIVITY (click here to read about recognizing what is from the heart).
  3. Clear Boundaries: when we decide what we want in our personal, professional or loving lives, we can set clear boundaries that bring the results that we want. These boundaries must be aligned to the heart, that is, being detached and understanding the other’s freedom of being, so that we can build assertively.
  4. Comunication and application: to conclude the process it is important that we communicate our reality to the parties involved and apply what we desire. If we desire a relationship full of fidelity, loyalt, respect and freedom of being who we are, we must act coherently with that desire, work on ourselves what we want so we can offer it too.

This is an important cycle to connect in a more loving level to the world, making a habit of it we feel that our relationships transform themselves and get more peaceful.

After two years of working at an office, I realized that my desire is being with people and help them to be the best version of themselves and having time during the day to take care of myself, the boundary I set over time was “working where I can help people and take care of myself”. That, totall, changes my life. What about you? Have you ever set a boundary that changes your life?

Love,
Ángel

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Constructive Parents: 6 steps to have an assertive relationship with our children

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For relationships to be constructive, they need investment of time and commitment from people involved in it, regardless of purpose or nature. Parents, siblings, uncles, grandparent, grandchildren, cousins, friends, colleagues, teachers, students, mates, clients, companies, etc., can improve our life by observing the way we relate to everyone and everything and assessing the constructivity of our interactions (click here to read about constructive relationships).

When we put ourselves in people’s shoes  we can have a wider and more objective perspective of what’s happening, since we can go beyond the titles that we have and often lead us to act from what we think that tag represent, but we are more than that. When we put ourselves in our parent’s shoes, understanding that they do their best they can from their point of view, that they have taught to us how to live in this world through their experience, and that their emotions and fears drive the way they interact with us, we are more aware of the power we have of being better human beings by working hard on our own selves. We don’t need to try to change people, feeling good about our own evolution, and personal work, is enough for everyone around us to recognize new things that may help them transforming their own selves.

We know that as children we have he opportunity to create harmony with our parents (click here to read about conscious children) and it is important that, as parents that we are, or want to be, we also assume the responsibility for acts that are really constructive for the relationship with our children. Here we have 6 steps to expand our awareness as parents for having a more assertive relationship with our kids:

  1. Understand that the children belong to the world and that they need an example of consciousness, self-sufficiency, contribution and respect at home so they can be their own selves and integrate that example into their life to build a world of integrity.
  2. Create an environment where there is transparent expression and full presence (moments where there is only time and space for family communication).
  3. Know and understand yourself (emotionally, sentimental, physically and mentally) to constantly evolve and be able to guide your children along this constructive path.
  4. Be coherent and seek the clearest possible way of explaining to children what is not clear for them.
  5. Stimulate a child’s creativity and enrich it through new knowledge and experiences.
  6. Teach through example the importance of clarity and focus on what they want and the discipline to act assertively.

Being parents is the opportunity to grow in love, to relate to another generation to enrich our own experience, to build the best possible way for that legacy to evolve and touch more hearts. To be a parent is to plant the best seed, to water it, to care for it, and to let it bloom.

Let’s thank our parents for the beautiful work they’ve done with us. Let’s allow us to flourish and to be more conscious, responsible and constructive people, and take this construction to our children.

Love,
Ángel

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Conscious Children: 6 actions to harmonize our home

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We’re all children, sometimes we create bonds with new people in our lives who welcome us as family, others live the experience with our blood family, at the end we’re all children and being a child is to find a way of integrate to our parents through respect and love. Now that we know how to exercise respect (click here to read the text about respect) we can understand better what we can do as children every day.

Our parents share their experience and show us different ways of living. The fact of having them in our lives doesn’t mean we have to be like them but that we can learn from them and teach them (click here to read the text about differences). Family is a structure full of diversity in which, when applying acceptance and respect (click here to read the text about conscious respect), we are able to enrich our points of view to integrate them into our experience.

Let’s see some useful actions to harmonize family life by being more conscious children:

  1. Absorb the best from around avoiding judgement.
  2. Take resposibility for our lives, avoiding blame.
  3. Colaborate with harmony and maintenance of home.
  4. Establish and respect space and boundaries (click here to read the text about boundaries).
  5. Be open to communication.
  6. Thank for being in Family.

In our home we can, in a more relaxed way, learn to live by pleasure, with no obligation. When we empower ourselves of home we discover the importance of teamwork. As children we must understand that we are all different and in order to work on family challenges it’s important that we learn to communicate. Usually, parents give their best from their experience, although in the eyes of some it seems the opposite. Neither the children, nor the parents have manuals, for this reason it’s important to create a healthy space for communication in which the points of view can be expressed in an environment of acceptance and respect.

I decide to be an active part of the harmony and maintenance of my own home right here and right now. What about you?

Love,
Ángel

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Constructive Relationships: 7 questions to assess the level of constructivity of relationships

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It is very important to work on our self-relationship (click here to read the text about transforming our self relationship), in order to understand who we really are (click here to read the text about self-knowledge)  and be ready to relate to the world in a more assertive way. This includes to detach from destructive relationships, even if it is because of our or other’s intentions, and building new constructive relationships for our lives.

Today we’re talking, specifically, about the transformation of, and/or detach from, relationships that make us feel less than we are, or that just have turned into a waste of time, for we get use to it and we haven’t found our way out of there, whether because of one or many reasons (click here to read the text about empowering habits)..

Many types of beliefs have taken us to live relationships in our lives that, when we change our beliefs, we have seen them as something we don’t really want to live. As we grow up we pass certain situations that can lead us to know what we really don’t want or actually want, that’s why it is so important to learn to direct our lives by the relationship constructive path. This empower us.

There are 7 questions to assess the level of constructivity of relationships we live. Using the for every relationship (sentimental, family, friendship), in an honest way, we are able to understand if us, or other people, are having destructive behaviors, if they can really be transformed, or if the best thing to do is getting out of that relationship.

  1. In the relationship the both of us support each other?
  2. Is there respect between the both of us for each other’s growing and development?
  3. Is there freedom for being who we really are?
  4. Is there honesty and transparency?
  5. Is there dialog without manipulation?
  6. Is there trust, fidelity and loyalty?
  7. The both of us contribute to the construction and strengthening of the relationship?

If after asking ourselves these 7 questions most of the answers were “NO” we are living some kind of destructive relationship. It is important to analize is it’s really possible the transformation through the dialog, but if we perceive that there’s no possibility of changing what is destructing the relationship it is time to ask ourselves about the real reasons why we are still experiencing that. If some of those reasons is fear (of loneliness, of not finfing another person, of losing something) we must take the responsability of detaching from that and, in the most respectful way possible, making clear what we really want (click here to read the text about setting boundaries)..

When we live in an unconsciouss destructive way, we tend to see the external as a threat, but we can transform our own selves and find that heart path that leads us to be more respectful, free, transparent, faithful, loyal and constructive to us and to people (click here to read the text about connecting ourselves to our hearts). So, if today we are in a relationship like that, we must give us the chance of getting out of it and let ourselves, or the other person, follow our own consciousness path. Let’s do this for ours and others, it may be that the relationship that finish now start over again with a more consciouss point of view in order to build the relationship up .

Let’s be independent, dependency always causes undesireble emotional situations (click here to read the text about emotions and feelings).

Love,
Ángel

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