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What Do We Deserve?

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Learning to follow our hearts (click here to read about connecting to our hearts) is one of the most effective ways for us to understand that we are worth it the way we truly are and that, if we decide to be integrated and complete in our present, that is the minimum we deserve to live, it is from here that we begin to prioritize, in a more appropriate way for us, the activities and people in our lives.

Some of our beliefs make us accept crumbs of life because we feel in some way that is what we give, this is why we need to learn more about ourselves and invest in the development of our human skills as a whole, from the way in which we relate to ourselves, as a basis, until the way we give the most appropriate to us in each moment we live. Let’s see situations that can be presented to us in which we can choose a more integral path for ourselves:

  1. Do we depend on people doing what we want them to do? It is more common than we think, it occurs mainly in power relationships in which we need to feel that we dominate the other person to feel safe. We need to learn to be self-sufficient and to know ourselves so well that we know what we can really do, and so understand what others can give too. We all have our talents and we can construct together, but not delegate responsibility for everything we want and need, each of us must play a part. This way, we have more constructive relationships and we leave emotional dependence aside to construct more integral relationships.

  2. Do we consider we do not receive what we give? Let’s check the reasons that lead us to give, because we often believe something is best for the other person without considering what the person experience. We can only really know what is most appropriate for us, let’s give more attention to what we can work on ourselves and listen more to others, avoiding our automatic answers.

  3. Do we say YES to satisfy others? life is made of moments, saying yes to everything without asking ourselves if that is what is really necessary for us to build what we want in our lives, is to say that we deserve whatever appears, let’s evaluate better and decide according to our own principles and projects, let’s respect ourselves (click here to read about learning to say “NO”).

  4. Are we interested in someone who is in a relationship? this case can happen, so, before we try to convince ourselves through our beliefs, or personal or other’s experiences, that it is right to get in the middle of a relationship, let’s think about how we would like our relationship to be and if what we are going to do we would like to experience, if we were the other person of the couple. Any action, or reaction, has its effect, so, even if we think we are immune, it is necessary to evaluate each step we want to take.

  5. Do we work because of love or needs? the fears that we lack resources, or that our talents are not paid if we use them by ourselves (or that will take a long time for giving us return), or the need to become millionaires because we think that we will be happy, or because we think that only money leads to success, these are some of the reasons that can keep us in a life ruled by money that doesn’t even make us feel satisfied, but at least it makes us feel material security. Let’s question our priorities in life, do we work in a place that respects people, the environment, that has principles aligned to ours as humans? What would we do if we had one last day of life, we would go to work in that company? Here we need to integrate everything with what we flow and put it into the context we find ourselves in. Remember that success is the happy result of an act, therefore, to walk over ourselves, our principles and others (however well mentally justified it may seem), is not succeeding, let’s evaluate our actions in a more conscious way.

We deserve an integral present, aligned to our principles and to the respect and love we have for ourselves, so let’s evaluate the options that are presented to us, all that makes us doubt let’s evaluate it even better, let’s trust more in ourselves, and in our capacities, and we will see a new reality opening up before us (click here to read about how to decide by conviction).

Love,
Ángel

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Respect Generates Respect

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Many of us believe that we deserve respect because we are always respectful, but, what is respect? Curiously, it can be something that comes from consideration or fear, then, we can understand that it is necessary to work a respect for consideration more than for fear, because when we respect by fear we are connecting to the external and, mentally, we can find more easily justify ourselves to commit a lack of respect, above all if it is to free ourselves from fear. When we respect by consideration we connect to acceptance within ourselves, we understand that all life deserves respect and that we can learn to expand that consideration from the inside out. (Click here to read the article about personal respect and boundaries).

Respect for consideration begins within us, we will only become good by respecting everyone, and everything around us, as we practice self-respect, for our principles, our thoughts, feelings, words and actions, and for the fact of being human beings part of a humanity. Today we’ll see some points that may be useful for exercising internal respect to generate respect from consideration (click here to read the personal approval article).

  1. TALENTS: We all have unique talents, but we often disrespect those talents in pursuit of money. We can find more appropriate ways to respect what we have, by offering our talents to the people around us, we get to know what makes us unique, and we begin to construct on solid foundations (click here to read the article on integrating the self into social context).

  2. PRINCIPLESS: Throughout our lives we may have had moments when we were presented with opportunities that seemed interesting, but when we went into them, and knew better, we realized that there were variables that were not aligned to our principles. This can happen in all our relationships, so it is important that we know what we need and express it clearly, as well as research well if we are really excited to be part of something. LET’S QUESTION OURSELVES.

  3. PRIORITIES: We often spend our lives at the extreme of prioritization, either we prioritize our lives totally or that of others, but we need to evaluate more consciously what is priority in our lives as self-sufficient beings to live the life we want and thus cultivate a respect for our life project and the one of the people around us.

  4. WORD: It is essential that we keep our word, if we commit ourselves to do what has been agreed upon, this is one of the most important resources on respect at all levels. CLARITY.

These 4 aspects are an easy way to exercise respect for ourselves, as we become more aware of each of the aspects that make us human beings, more certainty arises about what we want in our life because it construct ourselves. I decide to exercise my personal respect and take this to the world, what about you?

Love,
Ángel

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