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Giving and Receiving in the Appropriate Measure

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Everything in our life can be perceived as a resource, time, money, energy, expression, thoughts, etc. The more we are conscious about the exchange of present resources in each situation, the better we understand that everything has its appropriate moment and way to be given and received, we are free to decide it.

We are all unique, so our way to contribute in each moment is different, therefore, when we respect authenticity, we can decide to receive the unique contribution of everything and everyone. The same way we give money to buy something and receive some products or services, every resource of contribution may be different.

We are free to say “YES” to our peace, to greet whom we want to, to talk to whom we want to, to respond to whom we want to, to build with whom we want to and to learn to express ourselves from the certainty of knowing what’s appropriate for our present moment.

To give and receive are two actions that are always present in our life, two actions that in the appropriate measure open a path of tranquility to us in which we have the certainty of contributing from our peace to build the peace we want.

Our Life

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We realize we are connected to our peace, when we make peaceful decisions from the certainty that we are all we truly need.

As beings part of a whole, each one of us should make their part for the peace felt when making it, independent from the place, the situation or the person, the more clarity we have in our present, the more assertive we are with our intention of peace.

Making our part is expressing ourselves from our peace, words and silences, action and reflection, “yes” and “no”, everything in the appropriate measure. The only obligation should be with our own selves, our decisions from our inner peace.

We can invest it all in relating in a free and authentic way, with ourselves and others, from our peace, simply because we know that every present decision made from there is the appropriate in the moment.

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Coming to us

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A society in which we know how to give the appropriate to ourselves, transmits to its individuals the importance of the personal connection to peace, in order to build peace with every decision (click here to read about construction of peace).

Beyond what we know with our mind according to a mental classification, there is what we feel within in every moment. We can simplify our decisions to the peace we feel with each one of them, this leads us to find our appropriate measure in the present (click here to read about decision making).

From peace we perceive that there are people who we have a purpose of construction from integrity with, and that we are free to give and receive just what’s appropriate for it (click here to read about purpose of relationships).

Our relationships from peace are based on the respect for the personal construction of every being and the confidence that all of us make the appropriate decisions according to our moment (click here to read about the manifestation of our relationships).

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It is essential to understand the definition of certain words, in order to experience their meaning as it truly is, this can transform us and connect ourselves mentally to our peace.

According to the definition of the Cambridge Dictionary, family is a large group of related types of animal or plant. By, literally, taking this definition, we can understand that we are all family, since we are all human.

I’ve known many situations of people that know each other just a little, but they feel home together, that have a very deep connection with people, they couldn’t even imagine they could relate to, through high levels of mental, sentimental and physical intimacy, and that have understood that we are all family.

In order to potentiate our peace, we must learn how to decide in the present whatever is more appropriate to our construction from integrity, this includes all kinds of relationships. There, where we feel free to express ourselves from our hearts, is where we must invest our energy.

Love,
Ángel

Connecting ourselves to Neutrality

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It is a natural process desiring to make decisions from our personal experience, but when we take a long-term observational stance, we discover relevant aspects of construction and destruction that can happen when we make certain decisions.

Neutrality is finding the point of observation where we can question everything we feel, think and express, it is the process to recognize that to construct our peace inside, and manifest it on the outside, it is essential to put the certainty of our heart into action (click here to read about manifesting the truth of our heart). As we are 100% responsible for what happens to us, because we create from our thoughts, feelings and expression, we can understand that by connecting with neutrality we are building from integration, because we can perceive that we are cells that are part of a whole, and that we can transform everything that exists in our society, that continues to generate more of the same.

Let’s analyze the following aspects within our personal construction, to identify the decisions and beliefs that have led us to build the reality we live and, thus, be able to understand the way to connect to the neutrality we want to construct from now on:

  1. We feel circumstances are unfair: it is time to question whether we are being unfair to ourselves or to others, remember that our attitudes in one area of our lives can be manifested in another we give more relevance to, then, let’s analyze all the situations of injustice that we can be exercising, as it would be to act unconsciously and selfishly with people and the environment (click here to read about reflections on relationships).

  2. We feel that there’s no recognition: having the idea of division, judgments and comparisons are present, when we understand that, as cells, each one of us has its talent, and that our real authenticity allows us to function in a complete way, we understand that recognition is something we do within ourselves and that, as we strengthen from neutrality our talents integrated into the context, we learn to recognize that each cell is doing its part, and the idea of external recognition becomes unnecessary. (click here to read about deserving).

  3. We want to stand out: when we are in contributive mode, we understand that to excel to leave a legacy is an attitude of segregation, because for that we become destructive competitive cells, by just thinking about our prominence (think of it as a tumor) and automatically encourage the emergence of people who need someone to follow, because they don’t connect to their own selves. When we contribute, we work on our talents and transmit them to be able to integrate them with the environment we are in, we can change the world by constructing it from contribution (click here to read about constructing peace from consciousness).

  4. We feel we don’t trust ourselves: this feeling exists because we have been used to believing more in others than in ourselves. To transform this, we need to know ourselves and invest our resources in working our talents and integrate them, in a neutral way, to our environment. The more confidence we build in ourselves, the greater the impact of our actions. Let’s assume responsibility and work to become more integral every day, That is how we build our personal confidence and trust in the world, and in life (click here to read about building personal respect).

Let’s remember that everything is always in harmony, so if we focus our energy on a polarity, its other side manifests itself in our life to balance what we are creating, so, let’s create from neutrality, from the idea that we are all capable of taking on our responsibility to be more conscious and integral beings and, that way, we can construct by focusing on the transformation of polarity into neutrality of all systems, from the vision of experiencing authenticity in unity.

Love,
Ángel

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Transmutation of the Word Corruption

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To transmute corruption, we really need to understand what it is, since many of us have referred to it by applying it exclusively to people in power who have access to money in large quantities, be it in a company or in politics, and the term actually permeates society, because the government of each place is a reflection of what dominates in the group that is represented, from the inside, so, if we want changes in the way we organize ourselves as humanity, it is necessary that we learn to be more integral, from the root.

Corrupting is altering the form of something, other definitions focus on the negative aspect such as damaging, perverting, etc., but the basis is alteration. Using the definition as a basis, we can understand that corruption, as a word itself, is not bad, we can make it constructive by altering the form of something in order to construct together.

According to the definition, corruption for the negative side could be represented as an incoherence, do we say something and we don’t do it? Do we disrespect the laws when no one’s watching? Do we show ourselves as saviors or good people to take advantage of others or situations (or to improve our image)?, Do we take other people’s things because we believe they don’t need them, since they have money enough to buy them?, Do we want a better world, but we wait for others to take action to improve it? Are we incoherent in any way in what we feel, think, say and do? Do we always believe that the end justifies the means?

Today’s proposal, with the intention of assuming our own responsibility for being integral at every minute, is that we apply corruption with its constructive definition, that we alter the form of everything in our lives that has stopped contructing ourselves so that we can be an efective part of the transformation we want with our own initiative. In order to do this we don’t need followers, or groups, just commitment and love to ourselves, so, over time, we perceive that we have a constructive impact on everything, and everyone, that surrounds us. Here are some ways to start transmuting the word corruption in a constructive way:

  1. EXPRESSING OURSELVES COHERENTLY: we can use our channel of expression (body) to transmit assertively, with gestures, actions and words what we feel, with the intention of building from our hearts (click here to read about connecting to our hearts). Let’s remember to make our intention coherent by aligning feeling, thought, word and action.

  2. NOURISHING OURSELVES COHERENTLY: our cells need much less than we think (click here to read about nutrients and food necessary for the proper functioning of our cells) and by prioritizing what we need we reduce the consumption of unnecessary food, which impacts constructively our health and that of the planet, because we increase our energy and generate less inorganic waste, among other things.

  3. RELATING COHERENTLY: when we connect to our talents, and principles, we naturally feel more connected to respect for everything, which consequently leads ourselves to relate to people connected to their talents and principles, when this happens every moment of any relationship of our lives opens our minds to a new point of view, because we stop desiring to be right and start wanting to share and grow together. BY RELATING COHERENTLY TO OURSELVES WE RELATE COHERENTLY TO THE WORLD (click here to read about building solidly).

  4. USING THE RESOURCES COHERENTLY: we need much less than we’ve ever imagined, so it is essential that we constantly evaluate how to keep in our lives just what is necessary. The fact that we think we need so much, loads us with many emotions that come from our fear of scarcity. When we have confidence in ourselves, in an integral way, everything is transformed (click here to read about transforming needs that are not so necessary).

These four points have been my compass for the last few months, I’ve perceived that living a coherent life in all aspects is part of the tranquility, consciously or unconsciously, and that every small action can make a big difference from the inside out. What about you? What do you practice that has a constructive impact on the world?

Love,
Ángel

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We broke up, what now?

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A very common issue about relationships is the end itself, sometimes well defined, others not that much, but, at the end, they have in common the fact that they take us out from our comfort zone and makes us question ourselves about many things. But, what can we do when this happens in order to get used to the space left by the presence of the other? This is the subject today.

First of all, it is important that we have some time on our own to perceive, in an objective way, our relationship and the feelings we have had during our time together, since this can lead us to understand that we must make some adjustments in many aspects of our own selves, from deciding what we expect from a relationship to defining the main principles the relationship must have as the foundation, this is what takes us to decide, with more assertiveness, in which moment we can take the step into a new relationship.

After we find the reasons that have led us to our relationship, and the needs behind them, it is important to release what is no longer part of our construction, in many cases we expect to come back because we are not sure of what we want to construct, that is why it is so important that we learn to be clear and coherent to ourselves, so we can express our truth to others.

Finally, it is necessary to assume our responsability about everything that has happened, accept that, while we continue being the same, from our belief system and emotions, there is no way of keeping changes that please the other and that make us feel good in our own skin for long. We change from a deep necessity of being more aligned to our own moment, others may be an inspiration for our transformation, but we are the ones that decide when is time to do it, and if that lets us flow along with our own principles.

To finish, let’s see some steps that have turned out well for some people I know that have ended their relationships, and for me after breaking up a relationship of 9 years :

  1. Dedicating the time we would spend with the person to make something we enjoy doing by ourselves. In my case, writing has always been a moment of reconnection, that let me channel any emotion and even realize when I feel something I wasn’t conscious about before. Any activity we can use as a way of expressing ourselves can be useful for the process of gettin to know ourselves better.

  2. Allowing us to connect to different people from our friends and family to broaden our perspectives.

  3. Giving ourselves the time to do practically “NOTHING”, those moments without commitments in which we’re able to flow with our own company, open up ourselves to new possibilities.

  4. Defining what we want from a relationship is essential, since that allows us to make decisions out of conviction (click here to read about deciding by conviction) regarding the relationships we allow in our lives. In my case, in this moment I prioritize the freedom to be who I am, and to allow the others to be who they are, and the peace to build a relationship from integrity, transparency and respect, so I let my emotions flow to feel with my heart the purpose of each relationship (click here to read about connecting with the heart).

It is important to understand that the feeling we have constructed, for the person, remains, it always continues as a part of ourselves, but we simply know that we need to move forward transforming the limits of the relationship so we can continue our own work of self-knowledge and evolution (click here to read about sublimation of our mental, emotional, creative and sexual realities).

We always have the possibility of looking for different ways of relating to the world, we can choose living by being who we really are, with transparency and sincerity, and knowing people who choose this way too, since, this way, we can construct solid and enhancing foundation, in order to broaden authenticity in unity inside a society of integrity.

Love,
Ángel

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Conscious Love: 3 habits to connect to each other

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Now that we understand the importance of harmony between parents (click here to read about conscious parents) and children (click here to read about conscious children) we can connect, in a more assertive way, with what is really necessary to build our relationships.

It’s important to begin with the principle of responsibility. We start a relationship because we decide so, the other is there to teach us, through love, what we haven’t recognized (beliefs, needs, emotions) and, yet, we need to empower and resignify in order to connect to our inner peace.

Having the present points clear we are able to develop new habits that allow us to learn, in a peaceful way, through our relationships.

  1. Giving and Receiving: the first point is to identify what we expect from the other person and what we are willing to give. If we expect something we’re not willing to give, there is something we need to work on within us, whether by allowing the transparency, and letting things happen as a part of an agreement, or finding motives for us to connect to fidelity within ourselves, empowering limiting beliefs we have about compromise.
  2. Communication: in order to keep a healthy relationship, it is important to know what we want and feel free to express everything in an assertive way. We must remember that the other is there for us to know ourselves better, therefore the approach must always be from our personal perspective. Sharing, recognizing and respecting boundaries are the keys to build a solid foundation of respect (click here to read about boundaries and respect).
  3. Freedom: one of the most important aspects of paradigm shift in relationships is freedom of being our own selves. We must allow the real expression of each other, connect to ourselves and have the opportunity of deciding, easily, where we go, it may be through other paths. This is possible when we learn to, truly, love ourselves and, that way, we allow the entrance to our lives of people that resonate with that inner love and project themselves in a more aligned way to our life purpose.

Love is giving, receiving, cexpressing, respecting and being free to decide. Let’s avoid using tags to clip people’s wings, instead, we can use them to potentiate our intention of uniting to someone with the purpose of constructing together, let’s honor our feelings, thoughts, and expression with our love.

Love,
Ángel

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Conscious Children: 6 actions to harmonize our home

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We’re all children, sometimes we create bonds with new people in our lives who welcome us as family, others live the experience with our blood family, at the end we’re all children and being a child is to find a way of integrate to our parents through respect and love. Now that we know how to exercise respect (click here to read the text about respect) we can understand better what we can do as children every day.

Our parents share their experience and show us different ways of living. The fact of having them in our lives doesn’t mean we have to be like them but that we can learn from them and teach them (click here to read the text about differences). Family is a structure full of diversity in which, when applying acceptance and respect (click here to read the text about conscious respect), we are able to enrich our points of view to integrate them into our experience.

Let’s see some useful actions to harmonize family life by being more conscious children:

  1. Absorb the best from around avoiding judgement.
  2. Take resposibility for our lives, avoiding blame.
  3. Colaborate with harmony and maintenance of home.
  4. Establish and respect space and boundaries (click here to read the text about boundaries).
  5. Be open to communication.
  6. Thank for being in Family.

In our home we can, in a more relaxed way, learn to live by pleasure, with no obligation. When we empower ourselves of home we discover the importance of teamwork. As children we must understand that we are all different and in order to work on family challenges it’s important that we learn to communicate. Usually, parents give their best from their experience, although in the eyes of some it seems the opposite. Neither the children, nor the parents have manuals, for this reason it’s important to create a healthy space for communication in which the points of view can be expressed in an environment of acceptance and respect.

I decide to be an active part of the harmony and maintenance of my own home right here and right now. What about you?

Love,
Ángel

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Respectful Connection: 5 steps to exercise respect

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To build every relationship it is very important to exercise RESPECT, with ourselves and others, for it is a constructive value. When we respect ourselves, and set our boundaries, we create a clear channel of communication with the world (click here to read about transparency). And if in doing so we add the intention of repecting the other’s boundaries we will be building a solid foundation for each relationship.

RESPECTING our own boundaries, and others’, is to understand that we’re all different and that’s a part of the construction of who we are, and the place we live in, and be willing to interact by absorbing the most appropriate of each situation, avoiding attacking anyone. What we’ve considered as negative or positive, at some point, may switch sides according to our experiences, what is a real fact is that, no matter the side they’re at, experiences are part of our lives and our development. So everybody deserves our respect, the same we give to someone who teaches us something.

The next 5 steps helps us to exercise respect:

  1. To respect ourselves and set our personal boundaries coherent and assertively (click here to read about setting boudaries).
  2. To respect others’ boundaries.
  3. To avoid giving opinions that haven’t been requested.
  4. To obeserve the way we express ourselves about others and transform it into constructive one.
  5. To check the constructivity of what we are about to express before doing it.

Following these steps we transform the way we realete to the world, which, in turn, brings us new perspectives and possibilities. RESPECT OTHERS the way YOU want to be RESPECTED.

Love,
Ángel

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