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Solid Example

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As human beings, we can perceive the incoherence present when peple don’t know what they want and, even though, they look for a false safety by controlling everything around. This way, different mecanisms to transmit a different image, from the real one, to other people, are  acquired and the hipocresy of preaching but not doing is justfied.

All of us can transform ourselves, it’s a decision, there is the possibility of being a different, conscious and whole version of ourselves. This requires a lot of reflection, perception, transparency and exercise of our will, aligned to the purpose of integration and peace. Let’s see some useful aspects to exercise being the example we want from the world:

  1. Transparency: by perceiving the decision we make when we respond, we can understand how we react to transform the way we express ourselves. We can answer with the truth or not answering at all, it is always our decision (click here to read about exercising transparency)

  2. Neutrality: we always have the option to focus on our own process, to build, to work, to nourish ourselves, then, is it necessary to dedicate our time and energy to judge or criticize, positively or nagatively? No, and the time and energy we save is welcome in our personal projects (click here to read about neutrality)

  3. Respect: acceptance and knowledge allow us to learn to respect ourselves from the basics of the nutrition of our body, our relationship with ourselves and our relationship with the world and with others (click here to read about respect).

  4. Coherence: we say that it is important to be coherent, but, are we coherent with what we feel, think, say and do?, remember that coherence is only achieved through integrity and self-knowledge, because the only thing we really want is to build peace from within, to achieve te experience of integration of our truth with the truth of others, aligned to the context. (click here to read about coherence)

By listening, perceiving and integrating ourselves, to everything and everyone, as social individuals, we align ourselves to the peace we all desire, and that can only be experienced in society when we feel it within and learn how to express it (click here to read about peace).

Love,
Ángel

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Is it truly from our hearts?

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This week, I’ve been focusing my attention on human interactions, of us who want to integrate through love, transparency, respect, integrity and coherence, and I’ve perceived that knowledge and searching for “truth”, can be the foundation of segregation. When we perceive that all the knowledge we own is part of the reality we live (even being imperceptible for someone`s perception system), we can use knowledge integrated to our experience to construct our own wisdom, instead of doing what we are used to do: imposing our truth on others and, then, feel separated victims because they don’t want to listen to what we say.

In every area of our lives as social human beings (scientific, spiritual, religious, politic, etc.), we have transmitted knowledge with a tendency towards polarization that creates conflict, separation and opposition, often based on what people tell us and not on what we experience or live. We use our minds to define if something is good or bad and, from that point, we select information from our emotions, created by our beliefs. The  issue comes when we feel something as if it’s real because we feel good and we say that is from our hearts, being unconscious of the fact that is coming from an emotion.

Since we are used to say that everything that makes us feel euphoric comes from the heart, we have ignored that we own emotions which we have classified as “good” that lead us, not to act but to react about situations in life from our personal interest. Everything we feel, think and express, has an impact on what we construct, on evetyhing and everyone around, so, reactions from emotions come from our mind, which is not truly integrated to the whole, on the other hand, actions from our heart come from the feeling of unity using our minds to put it into context, in the most appropriate way possible, from our knowledge and experience integrated (click here to read about connecting ourselves to our hearts)

Everytime we want to discover the origin of the way we feel, think and express ourselves, through words and actions, to understand if they are really from our hearts, we can make ourselves the following questions:

  1. Are we integrating? When we integrate we are focused on integrating and transmitting to construct, if we segregate, then we judge (positively or negatively), compare and blame (click here to read about responsability).

  2. Do we feel at peace? When a decision comes from our hearts we feel peace, if it comes from our minds, and heart misaligned, we feel emotional states such as uneasiness, pain, sadness, euphoria, happiness, anxiety, stress, etc.

  3. Can we express in a transparent way what we decide? When we are capable of finding the appropriate way of expressing our decisions in a respectful and integrative way (click here to read about respect), we are able to put our mind at the disposal of the heart by using transparency (click here to read about transparency).

Our heart always look for integration through coherence, transparency, respect and integrity, this way, our decisions made, based on certainty, construct with the most solid foundation we can create as human beings in the present. Everything that is constructed from a extreme of polarity tends to find its extreme of destruction, therefore, the more integral and aligned to our heart our construction is, more stability it finds to perpetuate itself and continue its evolution through consciousness. Let’s construct from integration and perceive the transformation of all the areas of our lives and our society.

Love,
Ángel

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Soul Mates

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Due to the impact the idea that a soul mate exists might have, it is important that we broaden our perception on this matter, so we can understand that it is essential to really know who we are, and what we want, before making any commitment to another person. When we understand that we are complete, and that we perceive fragments of ourselves in others, we understand that, at the appropriate moment, we can decide to commit to a person who chooses to commit to us with the conviction that we can empower each other while we construct together, since we work for the same purpose from our own authenticity.

Depending on the stage of life we’re in, conscious or not of our mental, emotional and sentimental worlds, we have different soul mates, people who vibrate, think and act like us, and who we decide to keep in our life because of many reasons we need to, constantly, assess, which doesn’t mean that we will remain in that state for the rest of our lives. We, who want to manifest a relationship that potentiate our peace, can consider these aspects (click here to read about manifesting the relationship we desire):

  1. Strengthening our peace: when we make decisions based on what increases our peace we get to learn from reflection, what strengthen our natural state and connects us to the appropriate people for aligning ourselves to our hearts.

  2. Expressing our authenticity: knowing who we are from our essence, and expressing it, is essential, since, that is the only way we can build relationships with a solid and transparent foundation.

  3. Understanding that every relationship is unique: we are all different, therefore, all relationships are different. When we get to perceive it, we have the chance to start every relationship from zero and to construct together what brings us peace as a couple.

When we decide to transform ourselves into our most complete version, we perceive the importance of our talent integrated to the context to be permeated by transparency (click here to read about exercising transparency), coherence (click here to read about coherence), respect (click here to read about respect) and integrity, since, from these aspects, we construct solid foundation to potentiate each other. We can decide to stop looking for a soul mate that completes us and begin to become the soul mate that empowers us, to recognize ourselves in the other, and to construct the family of integrity that we want, from consciousness.

Love,
Ángel

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Personal Empowerment?

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Since I started to become, intensely and consciously, interested in my process of self-knowledge, I have perceived how important Personal Empowerment is. From my perception, Personal Empowerment is a form of integration that includes the internal and external worlds of each one of us. It is knowing and understanding ourselves, so deeply, that we can connect, in the most assertive and coherent way possible, to all the resources we have available, to integrate them into our context. From this process, we come to understand our own reality as a construction made from perceptions, often governed by society, and we realize the level of coherence that exists between what we feel, think, say, do and live.

I’ve decided to dedicate myself to this matter because, I think, it is wonderful the fact that we can migrate from a reactive, critical, comparative, competitive, destructive state in which we blame, to an active, accepting, authentic, contributive, constructive one in which we assume our own responsibility (click here to read about responsibility). Personal Empowerment has been the most appropriate way for me to assume my personal power from my heart, getting myself in touch with the integrity of the totality of who I am and how I contextualize that in my present. That has been surprising, because I’ve also perceived that everything I had I thought would make me feel whole, was a mental issue that I was building as I grew up. Now that I really know who I am, from my heart, I can discern better to give and receive with gratitude in my present (click here to read about gratitude).

This process, from my perception, has the purpose of integrating the mind to the heart, strengthening the intention, where we move from destructing from emotional reactions that create conflict, to constructing through our thoughts aligned to the feeling of peace and unity, to acting by choosing in a more assertive way the words and acts we externalize. We perceive who we think we are, to construct from who we really are, to be able to trust ourselves again, knowing, respecting and accepting ourselves totally, thus, integrating ourselves in a more constructive way, to the social context in which we live.

In order to integrate this process in your life you can buy the printable eBook 7 Levels for Personal Empowerment, where I share techniques and information, easy to understand and integrate to our daily routine, to know and integrate our dimensions, as human beings, and be able to construct more consciously from our heart (click here to buy the printable eBook)

Love,
Ángel

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Learning to Say “NO”

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There is an issue that is important to understand for us to have more peaceful relationships, the fear of saying “NO”. This fear is born of the need of keeping everything as it is because we think it is the only way to live and interact with people around us. Over time, some of us have learned to please people we interact with (friends, family, colleagues, etc.), we feel that everything is easier when we perceive that, apparently, everyone is satisfied with our actions, and we leave aside what we really want, and need, in order to see others smiling, sometimes with the desire to be good children, parents, friends, colleagues, etc., because it is the only way we have related to people and we are used to that.

Sometimes we avoid the word “NO”, even though we feel it is necessary, because we assume people will think or say something specific about us, and we fear how the consequence can impact our image. It is important that we remember that it is impossible to please everyone, even within our family nucleus we can find people who disapprove our actions, no matter how kind they may seem to us, it is here that we perceive the importance of being more authentic, at least, this way we relate to people who authentically have more affinity with us (click here to read about self-knowledge and sublimation)..

Saying “NO” can be as healthy as saying “YES”, for this, it is necessary that we know ourselves as well as possible and transmit that in the most assertive way possible to the people we relate with. Let’s see some cases to understand the reasons behind the answers we give in the situation we find ourselves in:

  1. Case 1: If we say “NO”, do we feel bad for the reaction that others may have or because we really want to say “YES”? If the answer is due to the reaction of others, it is important that we question the reasons why we don’t really want to do what they ask from us, because we find answers within ourselves that lead us to make more assertive and authentic decisions, because we need to focus on what brings us peace independent of the external.

  2. Case 2: Are our decisions made because of the dependence we have for someone? In some moments of our life we ​​can feel obliged to do things in exchange for something material or emotional. Sometimes, when we feel dependent on something or someone, we become submissive to the power of the other, therefore losing our identity and the respect that we have for ourselves. It is essential to evaluate if our actions come from our desire or from our need to fulfill certain obligations that have been created by the dependency.

Saying “NO” is essential in some cases for us to understand what we are creating in our lives, from reflection, and for starting our path of constructing peace through recognizing what our hearts needs for its purpose.

Rescuing our identity is the best way to tell ourselves that we accept ourselves and that we are willing to flow with everything we are, even if it implies the disapproval of the people we have as a priority in our lives, because, only then, we can create space for the true relationships that our heart desires to manifest (click here to read about constructivity of relationships).

Love,
Ángel

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Conscious Humanity: Respecting Differences

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It is essential to integrate perspectives that allow us to construct more consciously what we really want as society. When we decided to get closer, respecting the differences of personal beliefs, we managed to build new situations that allow us to expand our perception of the world, since each of us has a different perception according to what we live.

At this moment we have the opportunity to understand that the more we focus constructively and integratively on differences, the more we contribute to build justice and inclusion. We all have the right to have the knowledge that we are 100% responsible for what we decide to live, it is up to us to focus our energy to build what we want (it never depends on the external, it is our own will).

These initiatives, I’ve applied in my life, have been useful to expand my perception of the world and to construct more respectful and integral relationships:

  1. LISTENING: We’re used to hearing (perceiving sound), but listening needs practice, because, for doing that, we need to understand that not everything we know is as it seems, that our reality is not the reality that everyone experiences. Only this way we can perceive the information and integrate it into the situation by putting it into perspective and, from there, decide if what we have to say really constructs and if it needs to be really expressed. Learning to listen involves avoiding automatic responses or advice that comes from our conviction to feel superior than others some way.

  2. EXPRESSING ASSERTIVELY: the assertive expression includes coherence, transparency and neutrality. To practice it we need to set aside judgments, because they’re not the absolute truth, but a perception of reality according to our experience; knowing what we want to express and what impact we want to cause with it, and acting according to what we want to harvest in our lives.

  3. INTEGRATING: assuming an integrative stance when interacting with the world, we can realize something that can be useful for what we want to build and that we haven’t perceived. A phrase, a video, a book, etc., can be the key to open a world of possibilities in our life. Starting from the basis that we can learn from everyone and everything, our position makes us respect and accept differences.

Respecting differences doesn’t mean that we have to learn to live all the time with everyone next to us, but we need to learn to live together as society in order to harvest the respect we demand from others. Are we really respectful to demand respect? (click here to read the text about respect)

Love,
Ángel

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Life and Death: Another Perspective

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The definition of death is the end of life, but the definition of life, among others, is the existence after death. Independent of the belief that we have about life and death, it is our existence that keeps us alive, what we have transmitted to our parents, children, friends, companions, etc.

One day talking to a friend we came to the conclusion that his wife was still with him and his children, she had sown love, attention, respect and presence, and all this continues to bear fruit in who they are today, so she is still alive, she exists in their hearts and minds.

It is our decision what we want to build in our lives and transmit to others, as it can be something that people continue to transmit as destructive (what goes against life, respect, transparency, peace), it can also be constructive (what is in favor of life, respect, transparency, peace). When we want to transmit something that construct ourselves as humanity we can follow these actions:

  1. IMPROVING OUR COMMUNICATION: Listening better, silencing the mind, receiving information without judging it in order to be able to integrate it and respond in a coherent way with what we have listened to (if there really is something we can say that is appropriate), learning to use words and gestures we use to express ourselves better, being clear in the message we want to transmit, opening our mind in order to establish a clearer communication that encourages transparency. Remember that, for there to be transparency, we need to learn to listen and construct from it, because when people perceive ourselves as inflexible and authoritarian the dialogue goes to the side of the lie, whether to “avoid” conflicts (which can later be worse than they would be at the moment) or to get what we want (click here to read about transparency).

  2. RESPECTING AND ACCEPTING: The fact that something is appropriate for us doesn’t mean that it is for everyone. When we really know and accept what we feel, think, say and do, we learn that true respect is understanding that we all have the right to be different, and that It doesn’t make us better or worse, and we understand that it’s necessary to accept differences as a way to enrich human constructions. Assuming responsibility (click here to read about responsibility) for everything that depends on us (feelings, thoughts, words and actions) is the first step to build a more conscious humanity, we constantly influence (consciously or unconsciously) everything around us (click here to readarticle about respect).

  3. TRANSFORMING: To obtain different results it is necessary to transform what already exists in a creative way, to enhance what is useful at this moment to build peace (click here to read about building peace). Being aware that we are part of humanity and that we need to assume our responsibility as unique in the whole, we manage to build together, integrating better the available points of view (click here to read about building through consciousness).

Each seed that we sow has the potential to germinate, let’s be more aware of it and sow what we want to harvest, since in that way we are more focused on living, on existing.

Love,
Ángel

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We broke up, what now?

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A very common issue about relationships is the end itself, sometimes well defined, others not that much, but, at the end, they have in common the fact that they take us out from our comfort zone and makes us question ourselves about many things. But, what can we do when this happens in order to get used to the space left by the presence of the other? This is the subject today.

First of all, it is important that we have some time on our own to perceive, in an objective way, our relationship and the feelings we have had during our time together, since this can lead us to understand that we must make some adjustments in many aspects of our own selves, from deciding what we expect from a relationship to defining the main principles the relationship must have as the foundation, this is what takes us to decide, with more assertiveness, in which moment we can take the step into a new relationship.

After we find the reasons that have led us to our relationship, and the needs behind them, it is important to release what is no longer part of our construction, in many cases we expect to come back because we are not sure of what we want to construct, that is why it is so important that we learn to be clear and coherent to ourselves, so we  can express our truth to others.

Finally, it is necessary to assume our responsability about everything that has happened, accept that, while we continue being the same, from our belief system and emotions, there is no way of keeping changes that please the other and that make us feel good in our own skin for long. We change from a deep necessity of being more aligned to our own moment, others may be an inspiration for our transformation, but we are the ones that decide when is time to do it, and if that lets us flow along with our own principles.

To finish, let’s see some steps that have turned out well for some people I know that have ended their relationships, and for me after breaking up a relationship of 9 years :

  1. Dedicating the time we would spend with the person to make something we enjoy doing by ourselves. In my case, writing has always been a moment of reconnection, that let me channel any emotion and even realize when I feel something I wasn’t conscious about before. Any activity we can use as a way of expressing ourselves can be useful for the process of gettin to know ourselves better.

  2. Allowing us to connect to different people from our friends and family to broaden our perspectives.

  3. Giving ourselves the time to do practically “NOTHING”, those moments without commitments in which we’re able to flow with our own company, open up ourselves to new possibilities.

  4. Defining what we want from a relationship is essential, since that allows us to make decisions out of conviction (click here to read about deciding by conviction) regarding the relationships we allow in our lives. In my case, in this moment I prioritize the freedom to be who I am, and to allow the others to be who they are, and the peace to build a relationship from integrity, transparency and respect, so I let my emotions flow to feel with my heart the purpose of each relationship (click here to read about connecting with the heart).

It is important to understand that the feeling we have constructed, for the person, remains, it always continues as a part of ourselves, but we simply know that we need to move forward transforming the limits of the relationship so we can continue our own work of self-knowledge and evolution (click here to read about sublimation of our mental, emotional, creative and sexual realities).

We always have the possibility of looking for different ways of relating to the world, we can choose living by being who we really are, with transparency and sincerity, and knowing people who choose this way too, since, this way, we can construct solid and enhancing foundation, in order to broaden authenticity in unity inside a society of integrity.

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Ángel

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Forgiveness Special Edition

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It is necessary to break some paradigms about forgiveness, in order to understand it better and integrate it to our lives in an easy and effective way. Because of it, this article is focused on the action of forgiving, by going through the definition, break of paradigm, resignification, integration and application of forgiveness, integrally, in our lives.

The word forgive is defined as ceasing to feel resentment against someone. Integrating this definition to our personal experience, it is common that we perceive forgiveness as a superior way of relating to people or situations that, from our perspective, have hurt us. Now we are ready to break the paradigm of forgiving.

When we uderstand that comparisons, judgement and faults are part of a model that needs to be transformed for us to learn to relate in a more transparent, authentic, respectful and responsible way, to construct and remodel, sustainably, our planet, it’s necessary to break the paradigm that fogiveness makes us superior and resignify it as the integration of the ideia that we are responsible for choosing if something, efectively, affects us or hurts us.

Normally, we feel hurt when a situation doesn’t go as expected, but, the same way we can blame others for what they say or do, we are also able to take responsibility for the expectation we have created for us to feel well, accepted, loved, etc, and for allowing others to enter and stay in our lives. If we analize a little deeper, feeling hurt comes from a need of control, from the desire of controlling our lives, and the people and situations in it. Let’s see this steps that lead us to connect to a side of our human nature that lets us flow with our hearts:

  1. Seeing life as a constant learning: when we go into each situation, with all our senses, we can perceive elements that can lead us to a broader understanding of who we are.
  2. Being grateful for every minute of our lives: we can choose to see our lives as a miracle, be able to breathe or do what we do can always be a motive of gratitude and every lesson too, painful as they may seem, show us that we are more than we think (click here to read about gratitude).
  3. Putting into practice the exercices  to bring our minds to the present (click here to read the article about present mind), excercising the empowerment of beliefs (click here to read the article about beliefs) and accepting people and situations as they are.

INTEGRATING GUILT

Now we can approach guilt in order to understand how to integrate it in a way we can transform whatever has stopped being useful in our present.

Some of us has learnt to assume the reponsibility for other people well-being, from emotional to material. From this role many guilts emerge throughout our lives, since we try to please everyone to ensure harmony wherever we are and, if we feel we can’t, we blame ourselves for the consequences of our “faults”.

By definition, guilt is the fact of having committed a breach of conduct especially violating law and involving a penalty, but, is everything that happens someone’s fault?, what if we ALL learn to assume our responsibility, in every issue, and look together for the way of doing the necessary adjustment, for the next time ALL of us being responsible for the “good” consequences of our acts? (click here to read about resposibility)

Let’s integrate the guilt to channel it as a personal responsibility, in which each of us, consciously, assume that our decisions (or lack thereof, which are also decisions) have an impact on everything and everyone around us and construct more assertive consequences from each situation.

RELEASING CONTROL

As mentioned before, it is common to feel hurt when situations don’t go as we expect, or people don’t act the way we want. But, if, sometimes, even ourselves don’t act the way we thought we would, or don’t say what we thought we would, how could we expect something from others? This is the starting point for releasing control.

Thinking we have control over others is an illusion. It emerges from the idea that we are superior, in some way, or that we have more capacity, whether we are parents, teachers, bosses, leaders, elders, partners, lovers, etc., and that we inspire respect. This control relationships are based on the idea that every person that depends on us, whether physically, materially or emotionally, can be controlled by us, and, actually, we are only able to see whatever confirms that idea, that is just the manifestation of other people’s fears, and has nothing to do with respect. But, Are we able to perceive that each person is deciding according to their own fears and the position they decide to assume? (click here to read about respect)

So, do we really have control over something? The answer is Yes, over our own selves through self-knowledge. When we decide to release external control to allow us feeling within ourselves, we get to understand what really motivates us to express ourselves and live in a certin way. Where does our love for control come from?, from our own insecurities? When we know ourselves from within, we gain confidence, are aware of what we can do, understand and respect our boundaries, and that shows us that external control is not what we think. If we are able to feel good with ourselves, live enjoying what we like and express ourselves in the most objective way possible, what do we want to control others for?  

We can commit to having control over what we express, or don’t, how we nourish ourselves, the physical activity that we give to our bodies, to choose people with whom we feel most at ease, to create our environment and allow that what’s born from there flows, bringing learning and growth.

ACCEPTING THE TRUTH

Accepting the truth is what leads us to apply forgiveness in every area of our lives.

Accepting the truth requires a deep knowledge of our own selves. We all feel in a different way, express ourselves as a consequence of what we feel, integrated to a context, whether for, against it, or in a neutral way, and choose our path, althought, sometimes, we make decisions being incoherent to who we really are. What leads us to decide to go out with a comitted person?, or to work for a company that sells something we don’t buy?, or to stay away from our family in order to create another?, this kind of questions, answered frankly (without trying to create mental games that always makes us feel we are right), gives us a more objective vision of our own selves and what we want from our hearts.

When we assume the responsibility for what we express, feel and think, we connect to our truth, the one that shows to us that we are where we have taken ourselves, nobody is guilty, everything is just our responsibility. We allow contact to people, accept job offers, decide to keep certain things away and, now, we are just the result of every little decision we have made, so, do we want to continue where we are or not?. If the answer is “NO”, it is necessary to make decisions that lead us where we really want, in the most coherent way and accepting that not always what we have wanted is what is really aligned to our own truth.

Freeing ourselves from the fears and beliefs that have kept us away from everything that makes us flow and feel respected, we reconnect to ourselves to build a more coherent reality, more aligned to our true nature, the process may take time, but it is important that we dare to take the first step. It is necessary to connect to our inner voice, that voice that leads us to do what really integrates us, making us feel complete (click here to read about connecting to our heart)..

Let’s accept our truth and see the truth of everything and everyone blooming 🙂

ALIGNING OURSELVES TO OUR INNER VOICE

Our perspective about forgiveness expands itself when we understand that every single wound comes from expectations and needs, and that when we assume our responsibility, release control and accept the truth, we start living a reality in which we discover that the main reason for our wounds is the lack of personal connection, what leads us to construct a new way of relating, from self-respect (click here to read about building personal respect).

Our self is a powerful ally when we decide to integrate it as part of the integral being we are (click here to read the full article about integration of the self), but, while we try to “ignore” it, it continues being the opponent of our inner voice, the voice that compares us, either positively or negatively, to others, the voice that judge us, the voice that is afraid even taking chances, the voice that, when we question, is always giving us an answer that comes from our own preservation as separated individuals.

When we exercise focusing our Self to know ourselves better, our thoughts start getting used to talk about our own selves avoiding judgement, comparisson and guilt, at that moment we start feeling our inner voice, the one that accepts us the way we are and shows us the most appropriate way of constructing in every sigle moment of our lives. One super useful question to check the origin of each thought is: Is this only for my well-being or it also contributes to the well-being of everything and everyone? With time, our Self learns how to flow with our hearts and the inner voice starts aligning and focusing on what makes us flow, and we enjoy, that cause a coherent and constructive impact on ourselves and everything around (click here to read about identifying what is from the heart).

Listening to our inner voice is truly trusting ourselves, understanding that we are always in accompanied, that there are infinite ways of relating to ourselves, and to the world, and that we can always decide to flow along with our hearts (click here to read about transforming our humanity).

Love,
Ángel

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What Do We Deserve?

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Learning to follow our hearts (click here to read about connecting to our hearts) is one of the most effective ways for us to understand that we are worth it the way we truly are and that, if we decide to be integrated and complete in our present, that is the minimum we deserve to live, it is from here that we begin to prioritize, in a more appropriate way for us, the activities and people in our lives.

Some of our beliefs make us accept crumbs of life because we feel in some way that is what we give, this is why we need to learn more about ourselves and invest in the development of our human skills as a whole, from the way in which we relate to ourselves, as a basis, until the way we give the most appropriate to us in each moment we live. Let’s see situations that can be presented to us in which we can choose a more integral path for ourselves:

  1. Do we depend on people doing what we want them to do? It is more common than we think, it occurs mainly in power relationships in which we need to feel that we dominate the other person to feel safe. We need to learn to be self-sufficient and to know ourselves so well that we know what we can really do, and so understand what others can give too. We all have our talents and we can construct together, but not delegate responsibility for everything we want and need, each of us must play a part. This way, we have more constructive relationships and we leave emotional dependence aside to construct more integral relationships.

  2. Do we consider we do not receive what we give? Let’s check the reasons that lead us to give, because we often believe something is best for the other person without considering what the person experience. We can only really know what is most appropriate for us, let’s give more attention to what we can work on ourselves and listen more to others, avoiding our automatic answers.

  3. Do we say YES to satisfy others? life is made of moments, saying yes to everything without asking ourselves if that is what is really necessary for us to build what we want in our lives, is to say that we deserve whatever appears, let’s evaluate better and decide according to our own principles and projects, let’s respect ourselves (click here to read about learning to say “NO”).

  4. Are we interested in someone who is in a relationship? this case can happen, so, before we try to convince ourselves through our beliefs, or personal or other’s experiences, that it is right to get in the middle of a relationship, let’s think about how we would like our relationship to be and if what we are going to do we would like to experience, if we were the other person of the couple. Any action, or reaction, has its effect, so, even if we think we are immune, it is necessary to evaluate each step we want to take.

  5. Do we work because of love or needs? the fears that we lack resources, or that our talents are not paid if we use them by ourselves (or that will take a long time for giving us return), or the need to become millionaires because we think that we will be happy, or because we think that only money leads to success, these are some of the reasons that can keep us in a life ruled by money that doesn’t even make us feel satisfied, but at least it makes us feel material security. Let’s question our priorities in life, do we work in a place that respects people, the environment, that has principles ​​aligned to ours as humans? What would we do if we had one last day of life, we would go to work in that company? Here we need to integrate everything with what we flow and put it into the context we find ourselves in. Remember that success is the happy result of an act, therefore, to walk over ourselves, our principles and others (however well mentally justified it may seem), is not succeeding, let’s evaluate our actions in a more conscious way.

We deserve an integral present, aligned to our principles ​​and to the respect and love we have for ourselves, so let’s evaluate the options that are presented to us, all that makes us doubt let’s evaluate it even better, let’s trust more in ourselves, and in our capacities, and we will see a new reality opening up before us (click here to read about how to decide by conviction)

Love,
Ángel

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